ok so here is the situation: this girl, who i happen to love with all of my heart and plan to ask to marry real soon, is real active in her church. well she just got back from this week long trip to some place in the ozarks or somethin. well i call her and i asked her how it went and everything. then she starts talkin about some email she wrote me and that i need to read it.

(summary)email says:

i love you and i know u are the one for me, but i can tbe with you anymore because god told me so.

phone convo (summary)

Me: i dont understand

her: if u were a christian u would

me: so what now?

her: well i wanted to talk to you about it and see what u thought

me: why does it matter, you have made ur choice....

somebody tell me what the fuck is goin on please, i think i just got sold out for her imaginary friend God

Beliefs run deep. She probably has complicated reasons that make sense as to why she made the desicion. I doubt it was actually God that told her but her own understandings of what's best.

It's still fucked up tho.

yeah i know right? i have been w/ her for like almost five yrs now. i mean i am the one who took her virginity. and i have done nothin bad to her ever. i mean u could ask her (figuratively speaking). and i know she loves me, she loves more than i can imagine, but i just want to know what reasons there would be for just dropping me... and now she still wants to be friends. and i am kinda wondering if this is like only a temp thing to where she is just confused about shit and will eventually come around... oh well, its noon, but its 5 o clock somewhere, so i am gonna start getting fucked up

I think you should demand an explanation, and become angry if she doesn't deliver.

5 years and that's what she says. That's too fucked up.

Tell her you respect her beliefs but she really has to consider whether it was God talking to her or the voices in her head (in more flowery, girlfriend-friendly terms). Failing that, kill her and skullfuck her.

Hate to say it, but it might not be worth the trouble.

If she's going to end a 5 year relationship with you over the phone because she thinks God told her to there's trouble ahead.

Even if you get past this, what's God going to tell her to do 5 years from now? You have absolutely no way of knowing.

When I was young, back in my devoutly, on-fire-for-Christ days, I had a similar thing happen. Only I was the one told to let someone go. It's hard, on both parties. Obviously it's hard from your end. But believe me, this isn't easy for her.

If you truly love her, if you truly respect her, then the only thing for you to do is to let her go. This is important to her right now. Someday, she might come back to you. Or someday, you might get curious enough about this to find out why she dumped you (i.e. go to her church, see what the fuss is about, which is more than likely what she wants you to do). In the meantime though, you need to give her room to grow. Yeah, I know, it sounds like a cliche load of crap, and mostly, it is. But it's also true. If you want to stay friends with her, then you have to respect her wishes.

I'm really sorry this happened man. But please, please don't think this means you somehow aren't good enough. It's quite possible, and highly likely, that she simply needs space to do what she considers to be her "higher calling." I assure you, this really does have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her personal walk with the God of her understanding, and the faith to do what she feels he wants her to do.

I hope this gets better for you, dude. I sincerely do.



~Lilly