Hi, my dad past away in ocotber of 2003, it has left a gfreat indent in my life i am only 14. He coached every sport and was a police officer. Anyway, i am having alot of dreams of a orthodox jew living in my house (which there is because we moved) and it bothers me, also i am starting love everything more because im afraid i loose it too... what i am asking here that do you know whats happening and IS THERE A CHANCE I WILL SEE MY FATHER... after life anything man? please.

Nope.

Well, if you are in God's favour, you shall get whatever you want after death.

If you are not, you will never (or at least untill you repent).

i'm sorry for your loss.

and i'm sorry for my opinion, if it causes you further sorrow, but you've asked, and it's not in me to easily refuse the wish of a suffering young person.

i don't think you'll ever see your dad again. that said, i hope i'm wrong.

...regardless, there is still this powerful new life ahead of you. if you hear his heartbeat in yours, he will be with you now, alive forever in your memory. when you need or miss him, look there.

it is good to love everything. don't let the memory of losing your father cloud the memory of loving him.

thank you for being honest, EVERYBODY IN THIS WORLD YOU THINK HEAVEN WILL BE SO GOOD BUT YOU CANT PLAY BASEBALL LIKE YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE 10 OR HANG OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS WHEN YOU WERE JUST A STUPID TEENAGER... LIFE IS BETTER THAN HEAVEN, AND NOTHING WILL BE THE SAME PARADISE IS LOVE AND HAVING FUN NOT HEAVEN!

right on, brother.

Eil man your really said it man, i dont think i will see him either... if i dont see God now why would i see my dad.

well, i'm just glad it helped. you never know on totse what people are capable or incapable of understanding. i only hope you luck, you seem to be a bright person with a positive future...

btw, what was all that orthodox jew shit all about? very random.

lol well a orthodox jew moved into my house, and ever since my dad died, i seem to love stuff more and i miss my house because it has so many mememories... and i have dreams of the stupid jew making changes and stuff... idk sorry it was random.

haha.. damn jews!

jk

haha i know man, the german in me came out

yeah, try to keep him in there until you're old enough for sex and beer.

actually, that's probably really bad advice.

definitely follow it, peace dude.

haha thanks man, i owe u

i love everything too, 'cept life. pisses me the fuck off

same here man same here.

you're definetly gonna see your pops agen...just lead a pretty good life, dont stop partying and go to church as often as possible

good luck and party hard

christ

why dont you guys go buy some more skin tight clothes and big black glasses and die your hair black you fucking emos

christ

yo fuck u, im not an emo u fucking retard go fuck ur mom again u stupid skank.

I can't say that I know what is happening to you...only God knows what He has planned for your life. All I have to offer on that is "be open to whatever it is." Doing things your way NEVER works out, in the end.

Secondly, I will tell you that from a Christian perspective, you WILL see your father again, if you both end up in the same place. If he was a Christian (by faith, not by religion), and you are too, then you will be reunited in Heaven.

However, I must be clear that you won't "know each other" in the same Father/Son way that you did here on earth.

You will recognize each other, and be capable of a relationship, but the institution of "family" will not be the same in heaven as it is on earth...we will all be related to each other as "the church", instead of separately, as individual families.

Anyway, I won't assume what you believe (if there is a God or not, if Jesus is really the savior of the world, etc.), but I just wanted to answer your question from a Christian perspective.

I am very sorry to hear of your loss...I won't embellish and try to say something that will make you feel better, because I consider that almost an insult coming from someone who doesn't even know you personally.

Suffice it to say that things will get easier (emotionally) with time.

The best thing you can do for yourself is not dwell in the pain, but understand it, and use it to strengthen yourself.

It sounds as though you are already doing that by appreciating the things you still have ! That is awesome...and is not something you should take for granted. Be thankful that you can see the good in the bad.

Time really does heal all wounds. I lost a child 4 years ago, so I am not speaking completely from inexperience here.

Good luck to you, doll...I wish you the best.

God bless.

quote:Originally posted by dbironman1:

thank you for being honest, EVERYBODY IN THIS WORLD YOU THINK HEAVEN WILL BE SO GOOD BUT YOU CANT PLAY BASEBALL LIKE YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE 10 OR HANG OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS WHEN YOU WERE JUST A STUPID TEENAGER... LIFE IS BETTER THAN HEAVEN, AND NOTHING WILL BE THE SAME PARADISE IS LOVE AND HAVING FUN NOT HEAVEN!

I have to disagree.

There will be no pain, no suffering, no loss...

There will be a happiness there that we have not experienced in the physical world.

We will be able to experience love as a perfect entity in and of itself. We cannot do that now.

I think you don't have enough life experience to know what you THINK fun is...

So, I would say wait 18 years, look back on your life, and THEN formulate an opinion.

thank you for your opinion digital, i have now seen a different side of this, i appreciate it. very much, but the main factor of this is that my relationship with my father will never be the same.

I know, hon...and trying to tie in the "cosmic" purpose of our universe into the "why" behind your father's death at your age is not (in my humble opinion) wise.

I would recommend just "feeling" for now.

Get angry...get sad...feel rage...feel sorrow.

Avoiding it will only serve to stunt your emotional growth, and ability to move on with your life in a healthy manner.

I know I sound like I am preaching, but I have been through my fair share of emotional suffering, and I have both avoided it, and faced it head on. My response is closer to "empathy" than it is "observation" of your situation.

Head on works best.

I truly am sorry that you lost your father...they are the most important influence on any young man's life.

You have people that you can rely on right now, right ?

I would hate to think that Totse is "it".