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Graemy
2008-02-20, 03:42
He was cool for awhile, keeping his beliefs to himself, and just being a good person who is fun to hang out with. We would hang out and every once in a blue moon he would make an allusion to his religious practices in some way. Then he met some of my Christian friends and they would talk about Christianity, because that is what they had in common.

This little act of socializing sent him rolling down a hill. Soon he started carrying a bible around with him at school. The religious allusions gradually grew more frequent. I didn't bother me much, I don't care for religious preferences.

Eventually, I took interest in one of his religious novelty items, which he had become accustomed to carrying about. This childlike curiosity in an interesting trinket sent him over the edge. Now his religious presence is overwhelming.

At first, he attempted to get me on his side; bringing creationist books, talking about all the problems with evolution, and making jokes at evolution at convenient times for him. He was the only one laughing. I would refute simple arguments against evolution, the ones I could handle with my limited knowledge, it seemed to keep him at bay.

Soon, he had a few of his church buddies praying in the morning. One of them, a long time friend of mine, is pressured into it. They are both Christians and to avoid conflict, he goes along with the prayer. This morning prayer bolstered his confidence and soon became adamant in his stance, advocating evangelicalism to his last dying breath. He continues to make jokes at evolution that make no sense and aren't funny in the least. It annoys me, because it feels as if he is constantly making personal attacks on me, insulting me. To see my friend change from a peaceful, likable person to a belligerent, evangelical stereotype disappoints me.

My other friends, who are Christian, just ignore him. They haven't changed at all. Just him. I'm not Christian, in case it was ambiguous. Thought I would share my experiences with religion. Any other stories like this one?

AngryFemme
2008-02-20, 04:17
Maybe he'll calm down some after he's had a chance to thoroughly wear out his newfound enthusiasm and vigor. I'd keep him as a friend, since there was clearly something you two had in common before he got all fanatical on you. I'd make it clear to him that you feel like he's alienating himself from other people by being so aggressive about it.

Sometimes things like that have to run the course. I bet that eventually, he'll start to feel the negative vibe he's putting out and will finally mellow out some when he's hanging socially with his friends.

I've had acquaintances like that, but it seems like their enthusiasm comes in cycles. I just try to be absent when it's cycling at full-capacity. :D

Rust
2008-02-20, 04:26
0123456789ABCDEF ? :eek:

AngryFemme
2008-02-20, 05:19
0123456789ABCDEF ?

It's arranged perfectly in an alpha-numerical sequence, so it can't be a faulty keyboard.

Rust is possessed?!!11

o_O

Whore of God
2008-02-20, 12:27
*performs exorcism*

:mad:

BACK, DEMON! GET OUT OF OUR GREAT POSTER RUST :mad::mad:

Mark 16:17: "And these signs shall follow them that believe; In my name shall they cast out devils..."

godfather89
2008-02-20, 13:17
He was cool for awhile, keeping his beliefs to himself, and just being a good person who is fun to hang out with. We would hang out and every once in a blue moon he would make an allusion to his religious practices in some way. Then he met some of my Christian friends and they would talk about Christianity, because that is what they had in common.

This little act of socializing sent him rolling down a hill. Soon he started carrying a bible around with him at school. The religious allusions gradually grew more frequent. I didn't bother me much, I don't care for religious preferences.

Eventually, I took interest in one of his religious novelty items, which he had become accustomed to carrying about. This childlike curiosity in an interesting trinket sent him over the edge. Now his religious presence is overwhelming.

At first, he attempted to get me on his side; bringing creationist books, talking about all the problems with evolution, and making jokes at evolution at convenient times for him. He was the only one laughing. I would refute simple arguments against evolution, the ones I could handle with my limited knowledge, it seemed to keep him at bay.

Soon, he had a few of his church buddies praying in the morning. One of them, a long time friend of mine, is pressured into it. They are both Christians and to avoid conflict, he goes along with the prayer. This morning prayer bolstered his confidence and soon became adamant in his stance, advocating evangelicalism to his last dying breath. He continues to make jokes at evolution that make no sense and aren't funny in the least. It annoys me, because it feels as if he is constantly making personal attacks on me, insulting me. To see my friend change from a peaceful, likable person to a belligerent, evangelical stereotype disappoints me.

My other friends, who are Christian, just ignore him. They haven't changed at all. Just him. I'm not Christian, in case it was ambiguous. Thought I would share my experiences with religion. Any other stories like this one?

I'm not sure if your asking for advice but... In the Gospel of Thomas there is a saying: "Love your friends like your own soul, protect them like the pupil of your eye." You got to bring him back. I seem to associate your feelings, your friends changed and so has the environment around your friend. I am a bit nostalgic and I can understand your pain... Nonetheless, if there is any part of your friend that is still there talk to that part of your friend, in the past did he share the same beliefs as you?

You just need to give him a chance, I remember when I was like that... Born Again type Christian Demanding Evangelizing and Fundamentalism, then I changed my ways... Sure I still believe in God but not the way I did. Just remember the saying the time may come when you should keep that in the back of your mind if your arguements get a little hotter... Dont impose your view on him to much eithier, people like to impose there views on others all the time and that is why there is conflict...

Graemy
2008-02-20, 22:19
I usually just drop arguments by changing the subject. He might start to cool down. I hope so. I told him that I found it offensive that he is imposing his beliefs on me. He said he is sorry I felt that way. This response is understandable, considering his beliefs. Then everything appeared fine. Nothing unusual happened, we just hung out for the rest of the time.

-ScreamingElectron-
2008-02-20, 22:42
Just lay it out in front of him, let him know he is being an ignorant douche bag.

godfather89
2008-02-23, 04:24
Are u that ignorant he said "Friend" and if he is still friends with him calling him an ignorant douche isn't going to help...

Do unto others as you would have others do to you...

Would you like it if your friend was arrogant enough to you and said your an ignorant douche? Would you do it to your friend who is your friend for awhile? If so, you need to really ask yourself what the meaning is behind the word "friend" because, you dont know what true friendship is...

-ScreamingElectron-
2008-02-23, 15:37
Are u that ignorant he said "Friend" and if he is still friends with him calling him an ignorant douche isn't going to help...

Do unto others as you would have others do to you...

Would you like it if your friend was arrogant enough to you and said your an ignorant douche? Would you do it to your friend who is your friend for awhile? If so, you need to really ask yourself what the meaning is behind the word "friend" because, you dont know what true friendship is...

Lawl at the usage of 'u' once but not in the rest of the post.

Anywho, some people don't notice they are being douche bags. So you have to tell them I would tell any of my friends they are being douche bags.

ArmsMerchant
2008-02-23, 20:33
Anywho, some people don't notice they are being douche bags. So you have to tell them I would tell any of my friends they are being douche bags.

Good point. Some people get so far off the rails, they don'teven realize they are off the rails.

I do this once in a great (ahem) while, and my loving wife gently reminds me thusly-- "Greyfox, stop being an asshole."

godfather89
2008-02-24, 01:24
Lawl at the usage of 'u' once but not in the rest of the post.

Anywho, some people don't notice they are being douche bags. So you have to tell them I would tell any of my friends they are being douche bags.

I wrote it quick... What you said had me act quick without thinking... as I was writing I cooled down.

Right... I see I must of heard it differently in my mind at the time... :)