so i just had orientation for 2.5 days. It went o-k but i just found it kinda weird and awkward trying to hang out with people i just met. I'm assuming I'll be more gung-ho about it in the fall because then it will actually be college. anyway, how did you all make new friends...parties? intramurals? clubs? classes?

Talk to/hit on girls, expand your social network from there.

edit: In class.

Parties? Yes.
Intramurals? No.
Clubs? No.
Classes? Yes.

Also, just introducing yourself to the people that live around you in the dorm, and I met a few people just kinda loitering around outside.
Honestly you'll more than likely meet more people than you'd even want to be friends with. Like you meet one or two people, go hang out, meet their friends, meet their friend's friends, meet that random dude who shows up at dorm parties that no one really knows, and by the end of the night you forget half their names anyways.

It'll come naturally, boss. You'll meet people you have stuff in common with, even if it takes a while. Until then, just be pleasant, and hey if people have an issue, who gives..... generally everyone's in the same boat. They all know there's plenty more fish in the sea, and not to take stuff to seriously, just enjoy whittering away with a load of random people roughly your own age.

Or just get drunk and do lots of drugs, get the party rolling and hit on every chick you meet leading to wild sex all night.

I guess it depends on your personality really. Either way, don't stress.

generally, finding the first few friends is hard, especially if you dont know anyone. after that, youll meet their friends, and your network with expand gradually

A great way is at the beginning of class. Make small talk. Ask if a seat is taken. Introduce yourself. Its easy because everyone is in the same boat. And why the fuck is your college starting in June?

A great way is at the beginning of class. Make small talk. Ask if a seat is taken. Introduce yourself. Its easy because everyone is in the same boat. And why the fuck is your college starting in June?

its not...I just had orientation and the thought was fresh in my mind. Fall semester starts sept. 2

Facebook seriously join your colleges group, talk to a bunch of people and girls and crap


i met all of my friends through one girl i talked to on facebook, i saw her the first day of school and said hay ladzy and she said oh hai, and then she walked away with people who later became some of my best friends

later that day she and my future friends walked by and she invted me to hang out with everyone. so there we go, if not for facebook i dont know what would have happend

my orientation sucked so much, none of my future friends were in it, NONE.

Sports. Met a lot of friends on the rugby team, their friends, friends' friends, and so on.

Also, at the pub. Seriously.

Looking forward to basketball in the fall, gotta expand my network of black friends.

Why would you want friends?

Also, of course it's akward at first.

Also, of course it's akward at first.

The fuck it is. If you can't make a friend a day in college, you're antisocial.

Seriously, ask someone in front of your building for a light, and join in their conversation.

If you can't make friends, it's not anyone's fault but your own.

And as a guy who's annoyed by everything and everyone, if I can make this many friends, you can too.

The fuck it is. If you can't make a friend a day in college, you're antisocial.

Seriously, ask someone in front of your building for a light, and join in their conversation.

If you can't make friends, it's not anyone's fault but your own.

And as a guy who's annoyed by everything and everyone, if I can make this many friends, you can too.

Those aren't real friends. Drinking buddies or "party friends" aren't real friends. It's hard to find lasting friendships. I met shittons of people in college, but like someone already said, I'd forget half their names by the end of the night. There's always a lot of people around, sure. The hard part is actually finding people who are worth the effort friendship requires.

this is probably gonna sound retarded as shit but I made my closest friends with the help of guitar hero.

Those aren't real friends. Drinking buddies or "party friends" aren't real friends. It's hard to find lasting friendships. I met shittons of people in college, but like someone already said, I'd forget half their names by the end of the night. There's always a lot of people around, sure. The hard part is actually finding people who are worth the effort friendship requires.

Good point.

OP, did you want actual friends, or just buddies to party with?

this is probably gonna sound retarded as shit but I made my closest friends with the help of guitar hero.

This is a basis for a good plan. Just do stuff you like to do in a public setting. You'll get attention and it's probably a conversation starter. Even if it's something like setting up a console in a cafe/lounge and having a lan game, or playing an instrument in the same setting.

Don't even attempt to make friends in college. Just try to fuck chicks if thats high on your to-do list.

Its really not worth it because they really don't care. College is a competition remember?

Two ways my best friends lived on the same floor as me. And i joined the USMCR and alot of people from my unit turned out to go to my school.

I found most people in college to be surprisingly shit.

All you have to do is say "Hi" and start a conversation. Unlike highschool, where everyone is separated into a clique of friends that have known each other for years, in college mostly everyone in the same exact position you are. Keep in mind you won't become friends with every single person you meet. You might just have a 1 minute convo and then never talked to them again. No big deal, just keep talking to different people.

Go to parties, join clubs, go to fraternity shit (yea, it's stupid, but you'll still meet people), and just fucking go to every gathering or event you possibly can. If they have some kind of involvement fair or whatever, go to that. Don't be shy. It sounds stupid/lame/cliche/gay/conformist/etc but if you want to meet people, that's how you do it. The people who go to/run those things WANT you to meet new people. That's the whole point. Free food, cool people (usually) and cute girls. DO IT!!

One last tip: Don't try too hard to hit on all the cute girls, because every other guy will do the exact same thing. If you're new to that sort of thing, you will fail. Rather, just have a normal conversation with them and make plans to hang out later or whatever. The usual college "dating game" involves going to a party with them, getting drunk, and making out. Drama ensues and you move on. Welcome to college.

Oh, and fuck all the haters. They're just bitter, anti-social crybabies who don't have any friends.

All you have to do is say "Hi" and start a conversation. Unlike highschool, where everyone is separated into a clique of friends that have known each other for years, in college mostly everyone in the same exact position you are. Keep in mind you won't become friends with every single person you meet. You might just have a 1 minute convo and then never talked to them again. No big deal, just keep talking to different people.

Go to parties, join clubs, go to fraternity shit (yea, it's stupid, but you'll still meet people), and just fucking go to every gathering or event you possibly can. If they have some kind of involvement fair or whatever, go to that. Don't be shy. It sounds stupid/lame/cliche/gay/conformist/etc but if you want to meet people, that's how you do it. The people who go to/run those things WANT you to meet new people. That's the whole point. Free food, cool people (usually) and cute girls. DO IT!!

One last tip: Don't try too hard to hit on all the cute girls, because every other guy will do the exact same thing. If you're new to that sort of thing, you will fail. Rather, just have a normal conversation with them and make plans to hang out later or whatever. The usual college "dating game" involves going to a party with them, getting drunk, and making out. Drama ensues and you move on. Welcome to college.

Oh, and fuck all the haters. They're just bitter, anti-social crybabies who don't have any friends.

Yeah, this here Totsean ^^ has summed things up nicely. What is bolded should be a commandment of College. College is a wonderful social scene, mainly because it's a giant fantasy land. You'll probably start off being friends with people who live relatively close to you or who you just happen to meet first. Not many of these relationships last, in fact, prolly 90% fail, but the surviving early friendships can be strong ones.

Here are some tidbits of advice for college friend making:

Start convo's with random people throughout the day over little amusing observations. Good example: One afternoon, in the weight room I was weighing a 30lb dumb bell trying to see if the scale was accurate. Some dude asked me what I was doing, so I told him, small talk about the scale ensued. That night at a house party, ran into the same guy, "Well, if it is the kid who was weighing the weights in the weight room" Bam! -- new friend and a doorway into a totally new group of friends.

While you will make friends from regular classes, gym classes are friend goldmines. Participating in activities that FORCE communication (i.e. ballroom dancing class) you get to meet a lot of members of the opposite sex, whereas in regular class you might only reach out to people who you're comfortable introducing yourself to (same sex, maybe lower social level).

When I was a freshman, everytime I walked out of my dorm I'd have to go through a huge cloud of smoke because there'd be 20 people out there at one time smoking....

cigarettes definitely helped me make friends as a freshman....but now I find myself not going out with these people because I'm trying to quit and everytime we go to the pub, I want a smoke.

best advice is to probably just be friendly to everyone you meet, distinguish yourself, and have an open mind. these are the best years of your life and they go by fast.

Facebook seriously join your colleges group, talk to a bunch of people and girls and crap


i met all of my friends through one girl i talked to on facebook, i saw her the first day of school and said hay ladzy and she said oh hai, and then she walked away with people who later became some of my best friends

later that day she and my future friends walked by and she invted me to hang out with everyone. so there we go, if not for facebook i dont know what would have happend

my orientation sucked so much, none of my future friends were in it, NONE.

No, you look like a massive fucker if you facebook people before you meet them. Trust me on this one.

Where are you going anyway?

really man you just gotta be open, like when shopping or doing laundry or even hangin around your place. just be friendly to everyone and youll make some friends. it is a little awkward to just start talking to people but seriously, its not that hard to start conversation

template
you: hows it goin?
them: pretty good and yourself?
you: doin alright, you live around here or what?
them: *answers back, may repeat question.
you: oh right on, yeah i just moved here from _____ for college....

make it up from there...

No, you look like a massive fucker if you facebook people before you meet them. Trust me on this one.

I guess it just depends, too many variables, its different for each person, your experience must have been a lot different than mine, i just went up to the girl i was talking to on facebook, and aim, and said hey whats up im so and so. Everyone who hardly knows anyone or that many people are in the same position as you.

maybe you come off as a creep or something, you must have a creepy mustache sir.


this next part is to everyone going to be a freshman in college

college is really awkward in the start

(and throughout it too but not as bad, i remember hearing someone say how awkward or creepy someone was almost once a day)

, you just have to suck it up and do what you have to do to make friends. I dont mean push yourself out of your comfort zone too much, but enough to network and make friends.

Be and look cool and wait for people to want to be your friend.

It's what I do I guess. I don't go looking for friends as I think I've got too many as it is and yet I keep making them.

I'd make friends in class.
When i went for my interview at college, i just started talking to the guy sitting next to me. I asked him first the time (swish move) and then asked him what school he'd went to and which subjects he was planning on taking.

:cool:

I'd make friends in class.
When i went for my interview at college, i just started talking to the guy sitting next to me. I asked him first the time (swish move) and then asked him what school he'd went to and which subjects he was planning on taking.

:cool:

Yeah, you do that and then never speak to them again.