Around January of this year, I had met this girl. I had never had a successful relationship with a girl before, and I very strongly felt that she was a gift from God - the soul mate He had in store for me. When I started dating her I was in love with her immediately, and things were great at first. But then I realized that she was just using me all along.

I was so much in love with her because I guess she was the only girl who could ever like me...and it blinded me. Everyone else could see what she was doing and tried to convince me to break up with her but I never listened. Day after day I suffered in great agony, wondering if she really liked me or if what my family and friends told me were true. After all this I feel as though I am losing my faith in God. There is no way God can be evil, but I feel as though He did this to me on purpose. When it first happened I was angry and confused and upset with God, God would never guide us on a path leading to harm (Jeremiah 29:11), yet He made it happen.

Could He perhaps be trying to teach me something? I haven't learned anything....I just suffered to a point where I had almost considered buying drugs or committing suicide. I still hurt from it today because I can't get rid of my feelings for her.

What could possibly be going on here?

Just think about how your amount of suffering does not compare one iota to the suffering of a vast amount of people in the world, and just because some girl broke up with you does not make you special, or even mean you're suffering all that much.

Plus, if she was stringing you along the whole time, then she wasn't the right girl, so who really cares, just forget about her.

Could He perhaps be trying to teach me something? I haven't learned anything....I just suffered to a point where I had almost considered buying drugs or committing suicide. I still hurt from it today because I can't get rid of my feelings for her.


Maybe you should learn to love yourself.
What she is probably doing is absorbing the energy you constantly send to her by obsessing over her. She is feeding off of your love, and keeping it all for herself. Stop sending it to her. Say that you love her, but you must now learn to love yourself. Power up, and try not to let others affect the way you feel. Don't let others muddy your vitality. You have a choice.

Both of you are right, the fact is I was blinded by my love for her, I could not see what she was really doing when everyone else around me could. So where does God fit into all this? I just don't get why He had us meet in the first place if He knew what would happen.

There are a whole lot of things about God you are unlikely to ever "get". As God is infinite, you finite. God designed evolutionary process, which is a terribly cruel system. God never said He was nice, or that the righteous would prevail, man did. God's plans are utterly beyond us in everyway, unknowable and seemingly callous.

Both of you are right, the fact is I was blinded by my love for her, I could not see what she was really doing when everyone else around me could. So where does God fit into all this? I just don't get why He had us meet in the first place if He knew what would happen.

Perhaps, just maybe you should ignore your question for a minute and ask it from, say a child in Egypt's point of view. "Why did god have me step on that landmine from world war 2 and lose both my legs?"

Shit happens, and you either believe god did it in his "almighty wisdom of which you will never understand", or just believe it happened. One is very comforting, while the other is like treading water in a shoreless ocean.

God doesn't fit into this. Your fantasy has nothing to do with this. Things happen because they happen, not because some asshole in the clouds deems them worthy of happening.

Of course all the theists will just spout the bullshit... "you can't understand His Divine Plan"... "God works in mysterious ways"... "He wanted you to suffer because you were evil/because he wanted you to learn/because it's funny", but those are just pathetic rationalizations of an ultimately false belief, and you know it, too.

It's called learning. You learn to ride a bike. It's fun but a bit scary. You fall off, hurt yourself, but now you have more knowledge to avoid falling off again in the same way. With this knew knowledge of what works and what doesn't you can take it further and have more fun the next time you get back on.


Also is what you call "love", her filling the empty void in your heart?

Also is what you call "love", her filling the empty void in your heart?

I was wondering much the same thing. I suspect OP has love confused with infatuation, codependence, or something else less exalted than love.

Time heals all friendo. Just chill and in a month, things will be back to normal.

What could possibly be going on here?

Here is a possibility: God doesn't exist, it wasn't a gift/test/whatever else from God.

I think you will find it the most logical one.

It was just a case of being fooled by someone. A case of shit happens, it happens to all of us at some point.

If shit like this didn't happen we would not grow as people. Learn from it and stop begging an answer from your ceiling as you try to sleep. Stop casting your eyes skyward and look inward.

Liberate yourself from the meme of theism.

When you stop groveling, begging, questioning, getting anger or frustrated with a figment of your imagination, you WILL feel better.