I've personally never wanted to do them. I thought my boyfriend wasn't interested either. But, as I come to find out as of last night, he is. He wants to smoke pot and try some hallucinogens. So I get pissed. I get pissed and tell him no, I DO NOT want him to do drugs. And he tells me that he's going to do it anyway and not tell me. So then, I think maybe if I tell him I'm going to do it with him he'll say no and decide not to because he doesn't want me to do it. I was wrong about that too. He's fine with it. So then I start to consider doing it with him, and he says that he's not going to do it with me, he's going to do it with a friend instead. I can partially understand because this friend smokes pot every so often and I agree that it would be better to do it with someone who knows what they're doing a little more. BUT I'm a very jealous person, and it pissed me off at first because he said he was going to do it with his friend, Then I realized it would be a bit smarter with his...somewhat experience. But I really don't want him to do it, let alone want to do it. Today I decided to just flat out tell him I didn't want to, and he asked me why. I thought maybe he actually cared about my opinion, and that maybe if I let him know he wouldn't do it. At the end of the day I find out that he just wants me to tell him a reason so he can prove me wrong somehow. I'm pissed.

I don't really know what to do. I don't really have a reason why I don't want him to besides it's just not something I'm comfortable with, and it is a big deal to me for whatever reason. He doesn't understand that and tries to act like it's not a big deal, but that just upsets me because it IS a big deal to me. I don't know what will happen when he does it and neither does he, although he tries to say he does. It doesn't seem very apparent something could happen, but there is such thing as bad luck or things going wrong. I wish he could understand how much I dont want him to. But all of that aside, if I just can't change his mind then I want to do it with him, it would make me feel better and...idk if I can't stop him I'll join him, why not. And he doesn't understand that either. He says that I don't want to do it and I'm concerned he's going to do it without telling me. He thinks I'd get mad if he told me, and I agree I might, but not nearly as pissed as if I find out he did it behind my back, without me.

Anyone got anything to say?

so dont? gotta give him credit for being honest and straight-foward. news flash, your relationship just got set up for epic fail unless one of you two budge...


and S&A is where you shoulda went, although you are bitching and moaning. how are your opinions more justified than his?

They aren't and I understand that completely. But it seems like that's how he's trying to act towards me. One of his favorite things to do is do something to me then complain about how I react, then I do it back and he reacts the same and I try to point it out to him so maybe he'd understand but then he just tells me he can do that and I can't. I'm glad he told me, I'm very glad he told me. But with how I am, at the same time it upsets me some that he would ask for my opinion just because he was curious, and not because he was even going to bother with incorporating how I felt into his decisions. It's frustrating, to me, to have him ask me that and for me to think it will make a difference if I tell him I don't want to and then say okay and not give much regard to it. Maybe I just mistook how he wanted to use my opinion?

And it feels like I'm the one who has to budge a lot...I know that I'm pretty stubborn, maybe more than I want to admit, but it seems like he's hardly ever the one to give. I can't stand to fight with him for very long, and after a day of arguing or whatever, I just can't hold up anymore and I apologize or something of the sort. There's so much more that I can go on about, and I know it's not all his fault, a lot of the time I feel the opposite. I care a lot about him, but I don't feel like that favor is returned as much as it's given.

I'm terrible at voicing myself clearly, especially to him. It's hard because he always wants to know why, that's his favorite question. And I can't answer well enough to suite him, and so he just thinks that if I can't talk about it then I'm lying about caring, and that it doesn't matter, it's fine for him to do it.

Strung Out, I'm sorry for that. You should have walked away from him. Now I'm not tooting my horn here and telling you All drugs are bad. I love my medical cannibus I smoke. I never want to give it up.. I wish the US Government would just allow states and people to vote on wether it should be legal or not in each state. States like Kentucky, Iowa or Texas may never vote it in. But States like those in New England and the Entire West Coast (Cali is already one of them) and maybe even in the Dakotas, Il, Wi, Mi would probably vote a yes. You shouldn't do drugs because someone said "Hey this will make you feel good". You do drugs for a reason. You're sick with stress or pain or some other serious medical reason is the only reason to do drugs. You should get help if you have a problem and if you don't want to be with someone with drugs you can either try and get him help and off of it or leave him. It's up to him to decide once you place the option card on his side of the table. So get away from drugs. especially hardcore stuff like Coke and Meth. Those drugs will make your heart "Leaky". My doctor told me that. Your heart valves will just weaken and start leaking blood causing your blood pressure to drop. some people have been doing meth for a long time and they think they're impervious to dying from it. but time will catch up. I guess i'm trying to say stop drugs if you're doing it for fun.