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resmeplz
2008-12-23, 05:28
Me: i'm a useless human being who only fucks up

her: Shut up.

me: i cut myself 9 times yesterday. i counted. i'm obviously not a very stable person.

her: Its done, man. You did something stupid. Everything blows over in time. Fyi, your dad doesnt have a choice but to forgive you.

me:so many mistakes..i don't even want to live.

her: Dont be dumb. Your life is worth more than your mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of person you are.

me:i know that. but my life..it's so..wrong.

her:You have not made THAT many mistakes. Dont be so selfish as to think that way. Everyone makes fucking mistakes.

her: It could be a lot worse. Everyone has shitty times, man. People survive.

me:my whole life is just one big shitty time. i have to go. you can call me tonight if you want to

me:hey..?

me:do you not want to talk to me?

me: alright i'll stop texting.

me: forget what i just said. we need to talk about this. your obviously upset with me.

her: Im just not in the mood. Im tired and sick. Im sorry if youre having another bad day.

me: i'm not. i'm sorry ok? i know you've had a shitty day, i dont want to make that worse. i just don't want there to be tension

her: I dont even know what to say to you.

me:clear the air. or you could just tell me to shut up.

her: I just dont want to talk to anyone. you really disappointed me yesterday and i cant just forget it.

me:i'm sorry. truly. i though that you could understand i can't always be strong. i'll try not to disappoint you again

her: I wouldnt understand would i.

me:thats not what i meant =/ i wasn't trying to insult you. i wouldn't do that. =(

this is a text-conversation i'm having with my best friend. i know i'm being an idiot in ruining this relationship with the person that i love the most, is there any chance i can make this better? i'm so lost..i dont know what to do anymore.:(

PirateJoe
2008-12-23, 05:34
That reads like a bad episode of degrassi.

Furthermore, no one here can help you if you don't post your problem (from this post alone, it seems your problem is that you're a whiny cutting bitch, but I guess there could be good reasons for that (sike)).

resmeplz
2008-12-23, 05:43
i'm not a whiny cutting bitch. i don't usually do this. my problem? i don't know; i just keep pushing away and making mistakes i don't mean; don't want. i'm usually a logical person but i've been so emotional lately.. i'm only asking on how i can save this one relationship now. this is the only place i can go right now.

Chichi
2008-12-23, 05:44
Attention whore.

dark_rider_666
2008-12-23, 05:49
just explain to her, and apologize, I've been in similar/worse situations, and things turned out fine, just re-think stuff, is there maybe something that has come into/left your life lately?, a loss of a friend, etc?

arquin
2008-12-23, 05:57
Holy shit...

PirateJoe
2008-12-23, 06:11
i'm not a whiny cutting bitch. i don't usually do this. my problem? i don't know; i just keep pushing away and making mistakes i don't mean; don't want. i'm usually a logical person but i've been so emotional lately.. i'm only asking on how i can save this one relationship now. this is the only place i can go right now.

Here's what I would do: next time you get the urge to stir up pointless drama, just don't. Here, I'll even help you.

Me: i'm a useless human being who only fucks up
Don't say this..

her: Shut up.

me: i cut myself 9 times yesterday. i counted. i'm obviously not a very stable person.
...or this. If you are an unstable person, it should be readily apparent. You are simply trolling for pity here

her: Its done, man. You did something stupid. Everything blows over in time. Fyi, your dad doesnt have a choice but to forgive you.
Intriguing...what did you do to fuck up? Tell us, so we can, you know, help you.

me:so many mistakes..i don't even want to live.
Shut...the fuck....up..

her: Dont be dumb. Your life is worth more than your mistakes. It doesnt matter what kind of person you are.

me:i know that. but my life..it's so..wrong.
I wouldn't have said this either

her:You have not made THAT many mistakes. Dont be so selfish as to think that way. Everyone makes fucking mistakes.

her: It could be a lot worse. Everyone has shitty times, man. People survive.

me:my whole life is just one big shitty time. i have to go. you can call me tonight if you want to
ahh, stoic resignation, maybe there's some hope for your dignity after all...

me:hey..?
..*sigh* I guess not

me:do you not want to talk to me?
Thats right, lay on the guilt...

me: alright i'll stop texting.
....and close with martyrdom

me: forget what i just said. we need to talk about this. your obviously upset with me.
If you were auditioning for the teeny-bopper Days of Our Lives, I'd give you a fucking medal, but you're not, so I give you an F. For fallopian tubes.

her: Im just not in the mood. Im tired and sick. Im sorry if youre having another bad day.
Translation: you sound like me when I'm on my period, and I would help you if you weren't so hell bent on feeling sorry for yourself

me: i'm not. i'm sorry ok? i know you've had a shitty day, i dont want to make that worse. i just don't want there to be tension
Don't be such a manipulator

her: I dont even know what to say to you.
Translation: Shut...the fuck...up..

me:clear the air. or you could just tell me to shut up.
So close, yet so, so far away

her: I just dont want to talk to anyone. you really disappointed me yesterday and i cant just forget it.

me:i'm sorry. truly. i though that you could understand i can't always be strong. i'll try not to disappoint you again
Cue world's smallest violin..

her: I wouldnt understand would i.

me:thats not what i meant =/ i wasn't trying to insult you. i wouldn't do that. =(
bawww im such a nice guy blah blah blah pick up a package of tampons for me while you're out next

You better have fucked up real bad to warrant this kind of vaginal bleeding.

Crystal Antlers
2008-12-23, 06:13
there's waaay too much we don't know to help you out.

Like, that could be any one of thousands of relationships between a guy and girl friend.

BUT in trying to help....

I mean, i really think you need to help yourself first. When you bring poisonous emotions and stuff like that into another person's life, it does affect them. Like, would you rather live eternity with a depressed person, or with a happy person?

But with that first text its like you're expecting her to say something positive and uplifting to you. Well- guess what- if you keep that up, she might eventually just cave and say "yeah, you're totally right, you are worthless". People can't go on trying to help you if they're always met with failure. Pretty soon it will get tiring.

but you also can't just be this person who always feels bad for himself. Saying things like "I'll try not to dissapoint you again" and "or you could just tell me to shut up" seems so.....i don't know man......that's not good. Like, i could see myself holding back so much frustration if someone said that to me. I'd want to say "WELL OK, SHUT THE FUCK UP"

If you want to save the relationship, you have to save yourself. But going down that road is a whole other adventure.....not one that i will write in this post

Minority Deport
2008-12-23, 06:17
The best dating advice i ever got was to reverse your viewpoint What would you do if some girl was doing this to you. Guilt wouldn't work i'd get tired and tell her to STFU.

Hexadecimal
2008-12-23, 06:21
You know OP, you have the same choice today that you did when you were 5: Be a whiny little shit and piss everyone around you off, or be happy and enjoy life no matter how much you think it might suck.

Before you even BEGIN thinking your life is crappy, just remember this: You don't live in Darfour.

Warped Mindless
2008-12-23, 06:28
You know OP, you have the same choice today that you did when you were 5: Be a whiny little shit and piss everyone around you off, or be happy and enjoy life no matter how much you think it might suck.

Before you even BEGIN thinking your life is crappy, just remember this: You don't live in Darfour.

This! Mother fucking this!

"I cant help but smile while that damn sun is shining down on me."

LJ
2008-12-23, 06:37
Cut a little deeper next time, pussy. She obviously doesn't care anymore, might as well kill yourself.

Nitronick
2008-12-23, 18:29
this is a text-conversation i'm having with my best friend. i know i'm being an idiot in ruining this relationship with the person that i love the most, is there any chance i can make this better? i'm so lost..i dont know what to do anymore.:(

Sort your fucking life out.

SomeLowLife
2008-12-23, 18:35
Remove that sand from your vagina and then calmly handle the situation. I'd leave her alone for now but talk to her in a few days. Let her cool off from your PMS episode. Girls don't like it when your a whiny bitch, in fact, no one does.

jackketch
2008-12-23, 18:58
Emo much?

electric_wizard
2008-12-23, 20:06
The problem is twofold. You're too whiny, she is too callous. You made no attempt to view things positively, she made no attempt to comprehend why you feel how you do. Both of you should get your heads straight.

resmeplz
2008-12-23, 21:00
Emo much?

i have times. i apologized to her and told her i knew i was wrong and she forgave me but told me that i can't always expect an apology to be enough.

i've realized that the people in this thread are right, and i'm trying to fix myself. this is why i like totse. a completely honest and unbiased opinion. now you may all properly, go fuck yourselves. :D. merry christmas.

Retaliatory Anus
2008-12-23, 21:52
No girl wants a little cry baby bitch to tell her about all his/her problems. Who in that relationship has the fucking vagina? From here it looks like you, sort your shit out or kill yourself you whiny faggot.

jewishnazi
2008-12-23, 22:12
1) grow a pair and dont be such a whiny baby
2) problem solved


go work out, it will help you feel better about yourself. i know i did when i was working out.

WritingANovel
2008-12-24, 14:25
Don't listen to all those people.

There exists a kind of women who will not only love you despite of your vulnerability, but because of it.

That being said, you should have gone to a shrink instead of confiding your self-harming behaviours in this girl. She is probably young and has no experience dealing with this kind of stuff.

Don't get me wrong, I think sensitivity and sentimental-ness are rare and very precious in a man, and you should try to stay this way. However if it ever gets to the point where it's pathological, see a medical professional.

Clover
2008-12-24, 14:39
http://i177.photobucket.com/albums/w233/caturdayskwerl/annieattack0006copyav7.jpg

Don't be a pussy ass fag about the cutting fag, if you're gonna cut yourself do it deep enough to bleed to death. That's the only reason you should cut is to cut enough to bleed to death. Anything else is for attention, but that's what you're craving. But only know how to get it by threatening your own life to your friends for sympathy. What a pathetic waste of life you are.

fatkitty420
2008-12-24, 16:45
That reads like a bad episode of degrassi.



There are no bad episodes of Degrassi.