I'm a 22 year old senior in college and still a virgin. Most people are nervous about leaving HIGH SCHOOL virgins. And I've already been in college for over 4 years! This is killing me, if I don't have sex within the next year, then that would mean it could be several years until I have another opportunity.

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I'm also fairly depressed. And not having sex is leading to depression. If I had sex, I think all my problems would fade away.

I'm also fairly depressed. And not having sex is leading to depression. If I had sex, I think all my problems would fade away.

thats not how sex works..........

maybe you're focusing on it too much. really try to focus on yourself, and a girl will just pop up. thats how it works for me. but then there are some people that are so socially stupid that it's hopeless... i blame the parents

A girl won't just "pop up" I've had hopes that a girl would just "pop-up" for over 8 years now.

A girl won't just "pop up" I've had hopes that a girl would just "pop-up" for over 8 years now.

then i believe that your the problem :p

well you didn't read what i wrote. forget the girl. take care of your sorry ass self first. no girl wants a fucking social loser whos only trying to get at her to make himself feel like more of a person. find a hobby and enjoy the shit out of it. get in shape. become a better person. then you'll get a girl without trying.

Stay at uni until you get laid. That's what I'd do. Keep taking more courses!

Maybe you should post a pic of yourself OP. I'm gonna go ahead and guess that you're tall, overweight, and you have a goatee or some shit. Glasses, too, probably. I bet you talk alot around other people, thinking you sound 'worldly' and 'intelligent', but you don't realize that you come off as a stupid, desperate asshole.

So shave your facial hair, go to an expensive salon and get a decent haircut, start running or working out, and quit wearing Wal-Mart clothes. When you talk to people, make your conversations brief and dumbed-down. Don't even hang out with your same friends (if you even have friends). Any girl you know already knows you as the "creepy virgin". Yes, they can tell you're a virgin. Go make new friends, and don't talk to your old ones for at least a couple of months.

I'm not trolling, I'm being serious.

Maybe you should post a pic of yourself OP. I'm gonna go ahead and guess that you're tall, overweight, and you have a goatee or some shit. Glasses, too, probably.

Gordon Freeman?! :eek:

srsly these threads keep rising up like yeast...

Like others have stated, make sure you concentrate on yourself first before you start fantasizing about chicks popping up outta nowhere, cause in reality this won't happen. Self-improvement is the key, and you need to stop doubting yourself and remove all those inhibitions or limitations you have and just chill out, loosen up and try to get more social. Start acting really cool round your circle of friends, once you establish a good libido then roll up to the local clubs and tear it apart. Women can sense the scent of swagger if it's strong enough, and they hunt it down like bloodhounds. If you're not the upbeat partying sort of lad then just begin working charm on women in your college, and expand your range of pussy, choosing which ever to have a shot at if you feel you gotta fair chance. :)

Maybe you should post a pic of yourself OP. I'm gonna go ahead and guess that you're tall, overweight, and you have a goatee or some shit. Glasses, too, probably. I bet you talk alot around other people, thinking you sound 'worldly' and 'intelligent', but you don't realize that you come off as a stupid, desperate asshole.

So shave your facial hair, go to an expensive salon and get a decent haircut, start running or working out, and quit wearing Wal-Mart clothes. When you talk to people, make your conversations brief and dumbed-down. Don't even hang out with your same friends (if you even have friends). Any girl you know already knows you as the "creepy virgin". Yes, they can tell you're a virgin. Go make new friends, and don't talk to your old ones for at least a couple of months.

I'm not trolling, I'm being serious.

anyone ever tell you your an asshole?

srsly these threads keep rising up like yeast...

Like others have stated, make sure you concentrate on yourself first before you start fantasizing about chicks popping up outta nowhere, cause in reality this won't happen. Self-improvement is the key, and you need to stop doubting yourself and remove all those inhibitions or limitations you have and just chill out, loosen up and try to get more social. Start acting really cool round your circle of friends, once you establish a good libido then roll up to the local clubs and tear it apart. Women can sense the scent of swagger if it's strong enough, and they hunt it down like bloodhounds. If you're not the upbeat partying sort of lad then just begin working charm on women in your college, and expand your range of pussy, choosing which ever to have a shot at if you feel you gotta fair chance. :)It worked for me!

It worked for me!

There you go, results to strengthen the theory, dude.

anyone ever tell you your an asshole?
Anyone ever tell you the difference between "your" and "you're"?

thats not how sex works..........

You've obviously never tried it, then.

Anyone ever tell you the difference between "your" and "you're"?

yeah, your mom did.:cool:

You've obviously never tried it, then.

sex solves all your problems? well, aint that swell!

dumbass:rolleyes:

sex solves all your problems? well, aint that swell!

dumbass:rolleyes:

If being a virgin is the cause of his depression, then he isn't stupid for suggesting that having sex will make him feel better.

If being a virgin is the cause of his depression, then he isn't stupid for suggesting that having sex will make him feel better.

Anyone that bent up over it probably has more general self-esteem issues. Without fixing those first he'll probably just finish in seconds and then go huff raid because his mentally built-up miracle cure failed and humiliated him.

dude you seem like a nice enough guy from what I read in your post. But you can't keep thinking that a girl will just magically pop up out of nowhere. Funnily enough we of the female gender don't spontaneously erupt out of random holes in the ground.
Go out, meet some new people. I agree with whoever said you should post a pic of yourself. This isn't just so that we'll all laugh at you (although I'm sure there are a few who will... but they'll laugh at anything really) but so we can help you perhaps develop a new image. Now by this I don't mean become something you're not. But at least by straightening out your image and maybe acting a little more confident then the ladies may well start noticing you.

But don't feel bad, a really good mate of mine didn't lose his virginity until he was 21 and he just banged the first thing that came along. Unfortunately this was an absolute slag whom he found out a few months later had gotten the clap. Luckily it was after they had sex. Anywho, what I'm trying to say is that even though sex may seem like the most important thing in life at the moment, it isn't. And if you jump on the first woman at a party then it could end up badly for you.

Just relax about it. Sex isn't everything, and when the time comes it'll be great. You just need to put yourself out there so that an opportunity can actually arise with someone who won't give you some kind of disease.

yeah, your mom did.:cool:
She has a degree in teaching, but obviously you didn't take Social Studies.

dude you seem like a nice enough guy from what I read in your post. But you can't keep thinking that a girl will just magically pop up out of nowhere. Funnily enough we of the female gender don't spontaneously erupt out of random holes in the ground.
Go out, meet some new people. I agree with whoever said you should post a pic of yourself. This isn't just so that we'll all laugh at you (although I'm sure there are a few who will... but they'll laugh at anything really) but so we can help you perhaps develop a new image. Now by this I don't mean become something you're not. But at least by straightening out your image and maybe acting a little more confident then the ladies may well start noticing you.

But don't feel bad, a really good mate of mine didn't lose his virginity until he was 21 and he just banged the first thing that came along. Unfortunately this was an absolute slag whom he found out a few months later had gotten the clap. Luckily it was after they had sex. Anywho, what I'm trying to say is that even though sex may seem like the most important thing in life at the moment, it isn't. And if you jump on the first woman at a party then it could end up badly for you.

Just relax about it. Sex isn't everything, and when the time comes it'll be great. You just need to put yourself out there so that an opportunity can actually arise with someone who won't give you some kind of disease.

Im not a woman... but this.

and yeah do post a pic of yourself. If your normal then your fine, if your not our advice will fix it. Its a win win situation for you. :D

If being a virgin is the cause of his depression, then he isn't stupid for suggesting that having sex will make him feel better.

yeah but thats the point, he may think it is but it 100% isnt.

Your putting the pussy on a pedestal.

A girl won't just "pop up" I've had hopes that a girl would just "pop-up" for over 8 years now.

Speak for yourself. I waited for a girl to just "pop up" and now I'm married. I waited a grand total of 2 months.

Your putting the pussy on a pedestal.

This.

Thanks, but I won't ever post a picture of myself on Totse. Because this is a fringe forum where some illegal things are discussed and I don't want to post anything that could lead to me in person.

In the words of Michael Cera, from 'Arrested Development' to his father, upon learning he had only slept with a total of four:

"You went to college... There must have been parties..."

I'm a 22 year old senior in college and still a virgin. Most people are nervous about leaving HIGH SCHOOL virgins. And I've already been in college for over 4 years! This is killing me, if I don't have sex within the next year, then that would mean it could be several years until I have another opportunity.

Haha it's too late to just start.. hahahaha

So itr's like :/ I know.

i dunno what to do. I don't think anyone does. i think you have a bunch of mental blockage and we can't remove it and you can't either so it's like Faaaaaaauuck ;/ *hops in that straight, rigid leather*

Sex always leads to more problems to me.

Everyone has problems like this. Me, I'm 20 and I just had to move back in with my parents after having my own place for 2 years. I've got no car and no license. Guess what though? I'm not beating myself up over it. It'll take me a month to get my license, with a little bit of work, and a few months to save for a used car.

Your situation works similarly. I don't see why you assume that it will take you several years after college to have sex. There are women EVERYWHERE. At least one is bound to find you attractive/compatible. Stop worrying about it so much. Instead of worrying, plan out steps necessary to achieve your goal.

Everyone has problems like this. Me, I'm 20 and I just had to move back in with my parents after having my own place for 2 years. I've got no car and no license. Guess what though? I'm not beating myself up over it. It'll take me a month to get my license, with a little bit of work, and a few months to save for a used car.

Your situation works similarly. I don't see why you assume that it will take you several years after college to have sex. There are women EVERYWHERE. At least one is bound to find you attractive/compatible. Stop worrying about it so much. Instead of worrying, plan out steps necessary to achieve your goal.

i really don't think you understand OP's problem. he has no idea how to even start I bet. If he has NEVER found a girl who finds him attractive/compatible before, why would he be able to easily start finding such females. It makes no sooonse.

i really don't think you understand OP's problem. he has no idea how to even start I bet. If he has NEVER found a girl who finds him attractive/compatible before, why would he be able to easily start finding such females. It makes no sooonse.

I understand that, but I really don't know what to say except that worrying about it will only make it more difficult. That was really the point of my post, but I'm bad at expressing myself alot of the time.

Have faith.

Carry on.
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Have faith.

Carry on.
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Carry on. Better.
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^Debatable

Need pics.

if you do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten.

so instead of complaining about it, get off your ass and do something about it. learn to socialize and make friends. sometimes it'll be better to let your old friends go and make new ones... also, if you're in college, there should be parties. get a makeover, too. that'll help a lot for your first step. if you're confident in yourself, then women will see that.

A girl won't just "pop up" I've had hopes that a girl would just "pop-up" for over 8 years now.

maybe if you weren't juggling knives all the damn time you wouldn't have scared them all the fuck away

Carry on. Better.
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Carry on. More better.

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I'm a 22 year old senior in college and still a virgin. Most people are nervous about leaving HIGH SCHOOL virgins. And I've already been in college for over 4 years! This is killing me, if I don't have sex within the next year, then that would mean it could be several years until I have another opportunity.

Oh boy, a whole 4 years :rolleyes:
People who their whole lives without it. Don't whine. If you're really that pathetic and think "oh manz i need to haves sexes to be coolez!!!11" then go find a prostitute. Anyone can do that. Seriously.

dont do it with a prostitute it doesnt count.

part of having sex is being able to get a girl to want to have sex with you.

dont do it with a prostitute it doesnt count.

pat of having sex is being able to get a girl to want to have sex with you.

Sex is sex. Gravity is gravity. It's the same everywhere (haha, within reason, some girls suck at it horribly).
By what you're saying, then were defining a new ring called 'social standards'; OP should make that more clearer if his intent.

Gravity is gravity. It's the same everywhere

The gravitational pull here on earth is stronger than say......on the moon.

*I'm just a dick. Carry on with the thread.

I'm sure it's not that the OP wants to lose his virginity, it's that he wants to be validated by a female.

its really hard to help without a pic, you could have a big jew nose or evil eyes or something that keeps women away. but ya the answer was already given, its likely a confidence or desperation problem. you might wanna up-date your wardrobe and start working out. you should really post a pic, where not talking about anything illegal and then you would know if your hopeless or not. learn to love yourself then the ladies will be more attracted to you. apparently women can tell if a dude is a virgin, anyone know how?

its really hard to help without a pic, you could have a big jew nose or evil eyes or something that keeps women away. but ya the answer was already given, its likely a confidence or desperation problem. you might wanna up-date your wardrobe and start working out. you should really post a pic, where not talking about anything illegal and then you would know if your hopeless or not. learn to love yourself then the ladies will be more attracted to you. apparently women can tell if a dude is a virgin, anyone know how?

He can create a new account and post the picture under it, as far as I know the mods here are ok with it if it's done for anonymity.

To the OP, PICZ NAO.

The gravitational pull here on earth is stronger than say......on the moon.

*I'm just a dick. Carry on with the thread.

But it is still gravity nonetheless, which is still Gravitons at a varying magnitude.
Nah you're not a dick (aha punny, S&A joke!)

Man dude buy a oz of dank and smoke yourself into an understanding....

Honestly bro if your trying to end this with a "to do before date" type deal your going to make things worse. What happens if you get with some ugly bitch and some shit goes down cause your desperate.

My friends brother was in a extreme depressive state because he wasnt pullin any chicks in, i thought i was going to have to check him into a mental health clinic because of how fucked up he was acting. Now hes with some 220lb big game and he seems to be happy again....

man, i mean, i don't know how you made it this far without having sex but thats not the point.

ok, im only 18 and ive been with my girlfriend the longest of any girl. And she was the first girl i had sex with, when i was 17, but the whole thing was i was beating myself up about leaving high school a virgin and how that was really a depressing thing. (though looking back i see how little that really mattered) But i was really getting stressed about the sex thing. Then i sorta gave up. i stopped pushing it and stopped looking for random girls.
And i realised my, now, girlfriend had been there the whole time. But she is also a girl that i really love and was worth not banging some tramp. So we started going out and had sex two days later.

ok, your situation isn't exactly the same, but my point is that you shouldn't stress it man. Everyones different with it and when you relax, not only will you feel alot better, your attitude around girls will change and it will happen.
Though theres also the probably that you may have some issues flirting and things like that, but man this can be learnt.
I mean flirting isn't hard. i mean, i can flirt like nothing else, but i can't close for shit.......


or mabye i arrived to late for this thread.....
*slinks into darkness*

I just turned 22 and am still a virgin and will be for the for-seeable future. I'm not ugly, i have had some really good looking females tell me that i look good:). When i was in high school i didn't give a damn about girls, i was into the drugs (all of them) hardcore. I started to care when i turned 20 but didn't know any females and was too lazy to go out and actually look for someone (where would i find one anyway). I had quite a few friends when i lived in washington county but they started to get me into trouble with the law. so i decided to move with my parents to a different county and have been here for a little over a year. I cut contact with all of my so called friends and i only hang out with one or two people now (i like it better this way anyway).

I've never even had a real relationship with a female! Pretty sad huh?
I plan on making a thread once i get a new picture of myself to get some advice, because i guess im clueless...

dont do it with a prostitute it doesnt count.

part of having sex is being able to get a girl to want to have sex with you.

It's all mechanical at the end of the day. A prostitute is just what this guy needs to get over the initial bump (so to speak), once he's out of the mystical vagina mindset he'll be all set to start approaching woman and not have to worry about lurching into the unknown.

Sex always leads to more problems to me.

cuz number one you never get it, number 2 when you do you can't get it up.