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Cant Quite Tell
2008-12-24, 20:33
In the area I am for the moment, I don't have many friends or much family. So as it happens, I'm going to be completely alone on Christmas day. I'm not religious or anything, but it's just nice to be with someone on a day when everyone is giving each other gifts and just being together.

My gf doesn't celebrate Christmas (another religion), but is going to be going out to the movies with a couple family members on Christmas. She pretty much knew in advance that I would be alone and that I wasn't thrilled about it. I didn't explicitly say "Please be with me, I'm going to be so alone, don't go to the movies which you can do any day, you selfish ass", but I put it in blunt enough terms that anyone could pick up on the fact that I wasn't happy.

But this isn't the first time. Last new years, I was in the same place and she basically was gonna go get trashed with a few friends, while leaving me at home alone (because I don't know anyone around here and no one had invited me). And she was basically going to ditch me on my birthday for some fairly inane reason.

Basically, I feel like during the MANY times I've needed a friend to hang out with, she has just let me down for dumb reasons. I've been there for her SO MUCH. She has had so many problems or just been plain lonely, and I've ditched people or plans I had or things I needed to do just to be there for her and make her happy.

I love her and want this to work, but it seems to be a general pattern...when I need her, she's not there for me. Hell, it doesn't even need to be a S.O, I wouldn't want any decent friend to be alone on a mildly special day.

the soft skeleton
2008-12-24, 20:38
That's pretty shitty. I'm going to be alone on Christmas too.

Anyway, she sounds completely selfish. Why do you even want it to work if she keeps letting you down?

resmeplz
2008-12-24, 20:38
damn. that is shitty. i can't contribute to this thread.

If i still lived in michigan i'd hang with you, if thats any comfort.

Cant Quite Tell
2008-12-24, 20:40
That's pretty shitty. I'm going to be alone on Christmas too.

Anyway, she sounds completely selfish. Why do you even want it to work if she keeps letting you down?

Because she's a lot of fun when I'm with her, she's just so freakin inconsiderate when it comes to this stuff.

colorsoc
2008-12-24, 20:47
Get her into BDSM.

You dom, she subs.

Cant Quite Tell
2008-12-24, 20:50
Get her into BDSM.

You dom, she subs.

Go away...

The worst part about this is that I talked to her about it, and after like an hour of me basically like bitching, she says she "didn't realize how important Christmas is to me" and that now she'll spend it with me.

GRRR! That pisses me off in so many ways. First of all, xmas ISN'T important to me, I just want to be with someone when everyone else is happy and together. And what she apparently doesn't understand is that this will be true for EVERY holiday or situation like this.

Second, now she's basically blowing off her family (which makes me look like a total shithead) to spend xmas with me, resenting me the whole time. Fuck. There's no winning...

colorsoc
2008-12-24, 21:05
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I was being serious. It sounds like you have some serious tension built up in your relationship and you like to control things. I think you'd probably like it and it would help you blow off steam. Just a thought.


You need to lay all the facts on the table and make her see this 'holiday thing' from your view. If she continues to be self-absorbed and continues to leave you high and dry than you have bigger problems.

LSA King
2008-12-24, 21:20
Sounds like you guys have been dating over a year so here goes. For her to miss the last new years, okay that might be fine, fucked up but tolerable. Your birthday so she can get trashed with some others thats pretty fucked up. Either your both to young or the relationship is still new for this to be realized. Another important holiday like Christmas thats kind of up in the air. Its a time to be with family but also friends so technically you come second on the list. She still sounds pretty shady to me from how you described her.

Cant Quite Tell
2008-12-24, 21:25
Sounds like you guys have been dating over a year so here goes. For her to miss the last new years, okay that might be fine, fucked up but tolerable. Your birthday so she can get trashed with some others thats pretty fucked up. Either your both to young or the relationship is still new for this to be realized. Another important holiday like Christmas thats kind of up in the air. Its a time to be with family but also friends so technically you come second on the list. She still sounds pretty shady to me from how you described her.

No, she didn't get trashed on my birthday, it was just slightly more convenient for her not to be there that day. And I agree with the family thing, except she doesn't celebrate Christmas. So its basically like any other day for her.

CosmicZombie
2008-12-24, 21:39
Honestly if she is not gonna be there for you then she is not worth it

Nitronick
2008-12-24, 21:41
Shes gunna leave you soon, mark my words lol.

Rykoshet
2008-12-24, 21:47
Your girlfriend is not wife/long-term material.

Shag her a bit more and then leave her.

I'd hate for my girlfriend to be alone on a random day, let alone xmas or new year.

Sounds like a cunt.

Rykoshet
2008-12-24, 21:49
No, she didn't get trashed on my birthday, it was just slightly more convenient for her not to be there that day. And I agree with the family thing, except she doesn't celebrate Christmas. So its basically like any other day for her.

Yeah, except any other day should be filled with "I love my boyfriend and I want to spend time with him", at the very least you should be comfortable enough to have her invite you out to the movies with her family.

She's a cunt man, and probably already cheating on you.