Me, not really. I have a shitton of acquaintances and a couple people I hang out with sometimes, but only a couple people I hang out steadily (like every day) with. I have a gf who is probably my best friend, and another really great friend who is also probably my best friend, but that's all really.

I'm not anti-social at all, or weird, or anything. I used to be REALLY anti-social. In retrospect, people were reaching out to me to be my friends and I was a jerk, so I basically rejected them. Then I realized that was a really retarded and mean thing to do, and that I was gonna be friends with everyone. So more recently, I've been really friendly to everyone.

But now it's kind of flipping back, and I'm realizing that even if someone is really nice, it doesn't mean they're fun or interesting, or someone I could really be friends with. Also, a lot of my semi-friends are turning into total tools.

How about you? Are you the classic totsean who hasn't seen natural light in years, or do you actually have friends?

University has helped me acquire a pretty large circle of fairly close friends, and a larger circle of acquaintances who I'm happy to see. I'm living with three of my closest friends and we share most of our larger circle of friends at uni, so I'm constantly around a lot of the same people a lot of the time. In a good way.

I used to be more stereotypically Totsean. A few close friends and a larger group of people I could get on with, and that was about it. I'd recommend university to anyone, just for the social side of it.

i used to, and i guess i still do. though i realized most of the people i know are idiots so i don't talk to them much. its nice to catch up once in a while. i don't feel like i need a lot of friends. 20-30 family and close friends is all i need.

There are 2 - 3 people I consider friends.

I hang out with one a few times a week, and the other a few times a month.

I have maybe 5-10 good friends, but I get sick of people really easily. I like solitude a lot, but I also like socialising. I wish I had better friends, but not necessarily more of them. I've never been that anti-social but for some reason people were afraid of me all through highschool. Uni is better.

I used to have quite a few friends but they got me into a lot of trouble with the law, so i moved to a different county and only hang with one or two people on a regular basis. Now if i could only get a girlfriend everything would be great.

I like solitude a lot, but I also like socialising.

This.

Despite my dysfunctional persona on totse (heh), I am actually reasonably normal in real life (believe or not). However for whatever reason I just can`t seem to make really good friends with real life people, for some reason, and I am sure a lot of totseans can relate.

I am extremly friendly and have tons of friends but low self estteem so gf is kinda hard :(

I'm just starting to overcome all the insecurity/hormone/autistic shit that I suffered through highschool, so now that I'm out, I'm making the most of the friends that I already had (but didn't really like for the longest time) from there I imagine in the near future I'll get lot's more friends, especially since I've got uni next year.

Nothing makes you wanna be more social than living in your own world for 12 months.

I'm not anti-social by any means, but I am very...independent I guess you could say. I am kind of shy around people with whom I'm not comfortable or familiar, but for the most part I'd say I have a fairly normal social life. I have lots of friendly acquaintances, the kinds of people you'd stop and say hi to if you saw them on the street, and a small handful of people I would consider friends, and who I hang out with now and then. I also have a wonderful boyfriend who is about the most outgoing and social person I know. However, although I've got friends and social skills for the most part, I honestly do enjoy spending more time by myself. I don't have a problem going out and being with people, but I don't crave it, you know? I feel just as fulfilled with my many hobbies and I value my personal time. I don't know if that makes me maladjusted or something, but I'm happy with my social life, so I guess it doesn't really matter.

I have many acquaintances but few friends, I'm happy enough with that state of affairs. :)

Well I guess to consider someone a friend you have to trust them. So no, I don't have any friends. I have many, many aquantinces. I used to have friends, but they all fuck you over eventually so i've learned to just use them to my advantage. I trust my close family and hang out with them mostly. I have almost-friends, but I don't completely trust them, I just stay wary. Always supicious.

Well I guess to consider someone a friend you have to trust them. So no, I don't have any friends. I have many, many aquantinces. I used to have friends, but they all fuck you over eventually so i've learned to just use them to my advantage. I trust my close family and hang out with them mostly. I have almost-friends, but I don't completely trust them, I just stay wary. Always supicious.

Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they're not out to get you.. :p

University alienated my close friends almost and left me with airheads.
Luckily I still know a few solid people but most of them are, and will stay, in the acquaintance circle.
PS: One should not go to university for strictly social reasons.

I'm just in a point in my life where I only know a few people I could actually ever seeing myself being good friends with, like friends who I'd still want to be around in a couple years.

I've got plenty. Before high school I was a total loser though.

I'm a Totsean.

I'm friends with most everyone. A few people dislike me, but only the ones I want to dislike me.

In highschool I had tons of friends but now that I work full time and have an apartment and things to take care of, I can't be spending all my time socializing. I still hang out with my good friends from hs but only about 1 or 2 times a week.

I wish I had a job where I worked with more people. I'm a driver so it's just me and the open road. Kinda lonely.

Me, not really. I have a shitton of acquaintances and a couple people I hang out with sometimes, but only a couple people I hang out steadily (like every day) with. I have a gf who is probably my best friend, and another really great friend who is also probably my best friend, but that's all really.

I'm not anti-social at all, or weird, or anything. I used to be REALLY anti-social. In retrospect, people were reaching out to me to be my friends and I was a jerk, so I basically rejected them. Then I realized that was a really retarded and mean thing to do, and that I was gonna be friends with everyone. So more recently, I've been really friendly to everyone.

But now it's kind of flipping back, and I'm realizing that even if someone is really nice, it doesn't mean they're fun or interesting, or someone I could really be friends with. Also, a lot of my semi-friends are turning into total tools.

How about you? Are you the classic totsean who hasn't seen natural light in years, or do you actually have friends?

Ohhhh, so that's why you're a such a dickhead all the time.

You're just butthurt that you have no friends.

Ohhhh, so that's why you're a such a dickhead all the time.

You're just butthurt that you have no friends.

God I hate you so much.

God I hate you so much.

I bet you were the kid who sat on the teeter-totter all by himself.

I have a whole pool of acquaintances, but only one genuine close friend who I can faithfully rely on. There's a tight circle of buddies who I kick it with sometimes in the week, but nothing really gets too deep with them and we just socialize and reach raves most of the time. My other friend will almost certainly be there for a long time, and I can share my innermost secrets with said counterpart. I'm a cool guy, dead friendly and chill, but I'm sort of withdrawn at times and won't let people see the real side of me too quickly as I'm afraid to let them in.

I have a lot more friends than I realised. I'm the sort of person that has a few VERY close friends, then a bunch who are close but I don't see as often, then my larger circle (discounting aquaintances). I am never anything but impressed with my closest friends for putting up with my abi-isms. They deserve medals

I bet you were the kid who sat on the teeter-totter all by himself.

I can only assume that you spend all your time on internet forums patronising and insulting people because you have a vast and thriving social life.

Hmm..

probably 50? acquaintances who I would stop and be like 'hey' if i saw, 10 friends who i hang out with regularly, about 10 more i see irregularly(not as close of friends if this is confusing), and 2 friends who i chill with every day.

Do drugs, you'll make loads of friends.

I can only assume that you spend all your time on internet forums patronising and insulting people because you have a vast and thriving social life.

No, not because of my thriving social life...

I bet you were the kid who sat on the teeter-totter all by himself.

Nah, I was clever. I would find a rock of nearly my exact mass to use as a counterweight/friend.



To clarify, what do you guys mean by "friend"? Here's what I think:

Acquaintance: You will stop and say hello if you pass them, make smalltalk. But you never hang out. A friendly face, but really no more.

Distant friend: You end up hanging out sometimes, but only because they're at the same parties as you, or you each have a mutual friend.

"In your group" friend: Kinda like the last one, but they're basically only around because they're one of the group of people you hang out with.

Closer friend: You actually solely hang out with this person sometimes. They're kinda cool.

Really great friend: You can trust them, they laugh at the same jokes, great person. He'll always be there to help you dispose of an eleven year old Taiwanese hooker's body that grabbed the money and ran while you were in the bathroom putting on the Ronald McDonald suit even though I fucking gave her years of business and paid for her to go to private middle school so she could learn to say the awful things I wanted to hear. You know you'll be friends with them in a few years.


By my definition, I have an ungodly amount of acquaintances. Then I have a bunch of distant friends, and about as many "In your group" friends. Then I have about...5 closer friends I'd say, then only 2 Really good friends. But that will probably change if me and my gf break up, which makes me question how good our friendship is :(.

No, not because of my thriving social life...

In lieu of a thriving social life?

In lieu

Pardon?

Pardon?

Ah, right. You're a fucking retard.

Ah, right. You're a fucking retard.

A fucking retard with friends. :mad:

sometimes i think i have to many friends

In highschool I had tons of friends but now that I work full time and have an apartment and things to take care of, I can't be spending all my time socializing. I still hang out with my good friends from hs but only about 1 or 2 times a week.

I wish I had a job where I worked with more people. I'm a driver so it's just me and the open road. Kinda lonely.

Shit yeah when i went to school i had probly 20 cool friends, now that im working its about 5 - 10

I have a rather large group of main friends that I hang out with every day near enough, then I have another large group who I see whenever we all do something then I have even more that I see when I see.

I have no friends so I consider myself lucky. No one to stab my in the back later or tell all my secrets.

More than I can possibly fathom, my imagination is quite active :cool:

I have no friends so I consider myself lucky. No one to stab my in the back later or tell all my secrets.

I imagine you'd have no secrets then if you haven't made a 'secret' to tell anyone?

Plenty of acquaintances, probably about 5-6 "good" friends who I hang out with regularly (one to four or five times a week) and feel completely at ease around. I'm happy with that.

Having lots of friends wouldn't be that great. With smaller amounts of close friends, I find you have much tighter relationships.

I have many acquaintances but few friends, I'm happy enough with that state of affairs. :)

This.
I have about 5 good mates who I'd call up and say ey want a beer or what ever. (There was a few more but a recent falling out halved it)

But becuase I work in a public place and go out drinking a fair bit i have about 100 people I like to see at the pub or on the street say hi have a beer and wander of to talk to someone else.

And thats how I like it.

I'd say I get on with more people than most do. For example, people usually have a friendship "group" at school, you know the sort. I got on with a few people from most groups, I can't really explain why, I guess I'm just an honest guy. I don't piss people off, I speak my mind, stand up for myself, have what I think to be a very good sense of humour and I'm reasonably good at sports.

For those reasons, I seemed to get on with most people, for example there was a group of fairly popular people at school, a few of which I got on with very well, as I was in their classes, they learned that I was a good laugh, although originally just ignored me, as a result, they speak to me if I see them, where as other friends of mine they wouldn't speak to at all. I played sport so got on with most of the sports people, and got reasonable grades at school so could communicate with nerds as well.

I seem to be able to make new friends very quickly, that's come in the last few years though, I wasn't amazingly confident a few years ago, especially talking to older people, now it makes no difference.

I have a lot friends, but I don't know who I'd call my best friends, as I don't hang around and talk to people for hours, nor do I hang around with people on a daily basis, I enjoy being alone more often than not, but when I go out and meet friends I'll usually see a shitload of people I know.

Most of the people I've known as best mates have either moved away or gone to do other such things with their lives, which has led them away from me, I see these people now and again and have a great chat with them, and I've made plenty of new friends in the meantime.

I don't get too attached to anyone though, I certainly don't miss people.

I'd say I get on with more people than most do. For example, people usually have a friendship "group" at school, you know the sort. I got on with a few people from most groups, I can't really explain why, I guess I'm just an honest guy. I don't piss people off, I speak my mind, stand up for myself, have what I think to be a very good sense of humour and I'm reasonably good at sports.

For those reasons, I seemed to get on with most people, for example there was a group of fairly popular people at school, a few of which I got on with very well, as I was in their classes, they learned that I was a good laugh, although originally just ignored me, as a result, they speak to me if I see them, where as other friends of mine they wouldn't speak to at all. I played sport so got on with most of the sports people, and got reasonable grades at school so could communicate with nerds as well.

I seem to be able to make new friends very quickly, that's come in the last few years though, I wasn't amazingly confident a few years ago, especially talking to older people, now it makes no difference.

I have a lot friends, but I don't know who I'd call my best friends, as I don't hang around and talk to people for hours, nor do I hang around with people on a daily basis, I enjoy being alone more often than not, but when I go out and meet friends I'll usually see a shitload of people I know.

Most of the people I've known as best mates have either moved away or gone to do other such things with their lives, which has led them away from me, I see these people now and again and have a great chat with them, and I've made plenty of new friends in the meantime.

I don't get too attached to anyone though, I certainly don't miss people.

You seem like you flutter between social groups and shit at school quite easily, reminds me of me...

I imagine you'd have no secrets then if you haven't made a 'secret' to tell anyone?

When your with other people, and something happens that you don't want anyone to know, you can count on your friends to spread it around. If you don't believe me, you need to grow up.

When your with other people, and something happens that you don't want anyone to know, you can count on your friends to spread it around. If you don't believe me, you need to grow up.

You've obviously never had a real friend. I feel sorry for you.