View Full Version : Text her now or wait to say it in person?
Psychiatrist_7
2008-12-29, 00:35
Well I've decided i'm going to go after my dream girl but I waited too late and now its this whole christmas/new years break. I really want to tell her I want her but I really don't know what to say so I'm debating either waiting until school starts up again and tell her in person I want her or send her a text message now telling her I want her.
Is that weird? "I want you"... Fuck.
Now I don't know your exact situation with this girl, but unless you're in a relationship with her already, which you've indicated that you aren't, I wouldn't text her "I want you" or even tell her that in those words. I don't know if that was your plan but if it was your chances of success aren't looking good.
Since you've got her number, I'm going to assume you know her at least a little bit. Just call her up and asks if she wants to hang with you/do something. If she's interested she won't say no.
Psychiatrist_7
2008-12-29, 00:48
Now I don't know your exact situation with this girl, but unless you're in a relationship with her already, which you've indicated that you aren't, I wouldn't text her "I want you" or even tell her that in those words. I don't know if that was your plan but if it was your chances of success aren't looking good.
Since you've got her number, I'm going to assume you know her at least a little bit. Just call her up and asks if she wants to hang with you/do something. If she's interested she won't say no.
Fuck, thats sound advice but I've already asked her out to do stuff twice and both times she was busy. I'm not sure if its a legitimate busy or a no busy but she seems happy to see me every time I go see her. Fuck I hate this game.
dark-easterbunny
2008-12-29, 00:54
in person
and realise i want you only works if you bring it to them in the right way, otherwise you'll just seem like a creep
And good luck
Fishmonkey
2008-12-29, 00:55
I would suggest waiting until the break's over to tell her. Doing it now would mean that if she DID want to be with you, she'd have to wait until she could see you again, and in that time she could change her mind. And besides, if she's like one of those girls who consults her friends first, she'd be able to talk to them faster.
then again... there is the possibility she would reject you, and if she does it during the break, it would prevent awkward moments in school when you run into her because by then, she'd probably be over it.
Mmm, that's not a good sign. I mean, if a girl who liked me rang me up and was like "Hey, ju wanna do something?" and I was busy, I'd be like "Naw, I is bizee 2day, hows about tomorrow?"
You know? But hey, there's always the chance that she is genuinely busy.
Psychiatrist_7
2008-12-29, 01:10
Mmm, that's not a good sign. I mean, if a girl who liked me rang me up and was like "Hey, ju wanna do something?" and I was busy, I'd be like "Naw, I is bizee 2day, hows about tomorrow?"
You know? But hey, there's always the chance that she is genuinely busy.
fuck times two.
Peoples Elmo
2008-12-29, 01:23
in person
and realise i want you only works if you bring it to them in the right way, otherwise you'll just seem like a creep
And good luck
yeah defiantly in person
I've made that mistake before
Psychiatrist_7
2008-12-29, 01:27
Yeah but what should I say...
Some Choad
2008-12-29, 01:46
Fuck, thats sound advice but I've already asked her out to do stuff twice and both times she was busy. I'm not sure if its a legitimate busy or a no busy but she seems happy to see me every time I go see her. Fuck I hate this game.
If that happend and she liked you she would of atleast tried to organise a different date when she isn't busy.
Peoples Elmo
2008-12-29, 01:50
Yeah but what should I say...
hello ____ i really like you
we should go drop acid sometime
sorry im not thinking clearly now
just dont think/worry about it, be direct make sure she knows what you mean
ThePhoenix
2008-12-29, 01:52
Yeah but what should I say... Ask to hang out over break so she doesn't forget about you completely. When you go back to school tell her you like her ...blah, blah, all that jazz.
Numberjumbo
2008-12-29, 01:57
Inb4seven pages
Why waste time. Call her and go see her.
Ask to hang out over break so she doesn't forget about you completely. When you go back to school tell her you like her ...blah, blah, all that jazz.
You should say this!
Fuck texting bullshit.
Do it in person. But to be honest... it doesn't sound like she likes you.
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2008-12-29, 04:58
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WritingANovel
2008-12-29, 05:03
wow..."i want you"
A very powerful statement, no?
I personally would just say, "do you want to go out with me"
Crystal Antlers
2008-12-29, 05:05
Now I don't know your exact situation with this girl, but unless you're in a relationship with her already, which you've indicated that you aren't, I wouldn't text her "I want you" or even tell her that in those words. I don't know if that was your plan but if it was your chances of success aren't looking good.
Since you've got her number, I'm going to assume you know her at least a little bit. Just call her up and asks if she wants to hang with you/do something. If she's interested she won't say no.
this is very true. If she's into you, you'd probably be together already, that's just my opinion though. When me and my girlfriend were just beginning to hang out and get to know eachother, i once got a text from her after i left her dorm saying "Now i can't study because i just want you"
and even though i was really into her, it was a little unusual, like....do people say that? I don't know if that's exactly what you were going to say, but yeah.....
Now that I'm in college and have been with girls, if something is going to happen- its going to happen. There needs to be a mutual attraction, and if you don't feel it...I don't know.....Its been obvious for me i guess
I hope this doesn't discourage you from trying though.
WritingANovel
2008-12-29, 05:08
this is very true. If she's into you, you'd probably be together already, that's just my opinion though. When me and my girlfriend were just beginning to hang out and get to know eachother, i once got a text from her after i left her dorm saying "Now i can't study because i just want you"
and even though i was really into her, it was a little unusual, like....do people say that?
I imagine some might, especially when they are trying to tell the other person that they want to have sex with him/her.
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Psychiatrist_7
2008-12-29, 18:39
Heres some details...
Shes 10 years my senior
has a kid
MAY not even be available but shes never mentioned anyone in the two years i've known her.
I only go see her every once in awhile maybe once a week if im lucky
and its always at her work (the school) (yeah shes a teacher...)
I can tell shes genuinely excited to see me and touches me at every APPROPRIATE chance she gets. (greetings/leavings)
There is that mutual attraction feeling but I'm scared and confused.
Kinda feel out of my league thats why I've not done anything thus far.
LSA King
2008-12-29, 18:47
Well I've decided i'm going to go after my dream girl but I waited too late and now its this whole christmas/new years break. I really want to tell her I want her but I really don't know what to say so I'm debating either waiting until school starts up again and tell her in person I want her or send her a text message now telling her I want her.
Is that weird? "I want you"... Fuck.
Do it! Especially if shes single your chances are much much higher before New Years. DO IT AND HURRY!
Agent 008
2008-12-29, 21:57
Is your name Harry by any chance?
^^Potter you sniveling brat, keep your wand in your pants.
srsly, dude, you stand no chance. You're deluded with make-shift fantasies that have a tiny probability of being fulfilled. Time to sling your hook and move on, find someone your own age and stop chasing older females with baggage in another age bracket. It's stupid and hopeless; that's the brutal, honest truth and you should recognize this.