So I went on a 7 day cruise last week and met probably one of the most incredible girls I've ever known. She's gorgeous, she's my age, we have tons in common, and from the second I met her til the second the cruise ended we had more fun than either of us had ever had with anyone in that amount of time. We got drunk together and had sex at least 3 times a day for that whole week. It felt like I'd known her for 10 years. If I could I'd marry her. She lives about 4 or 5 hours from me though so I don't really see a relationship going anywhere.

Okay now that I got that out of the way here's my issue. So yesterday I'm getting home from my trip and all I could think about was her, just everything about her. Well my ex girlfriend texts me out of nowhere (the one that cheated on me a month ago so I broke up with her). Well, I started talking to her and she started telling me how she still loves me and was miserable without me and all that. Well I ended up going over to her house last night after I got home from my trip and it turned into drinking and kissing and talking. We actually got a lot of shit sorted out between us and it was a really good talk. And I guess we're sort of somewhat dating again.

Well now I'm so confused. I can't stop thinking about the girl from the cruise, but I'm dating my ex again. It feels like I'm sort of using my ex to mend that feeling of missing the other girl. But I don't know because I think I really felt something between me and my ex yesterday.

I mean damn I feel so torn. Just the fact that I'm back with my ex who cheated on me is weird enough, but then add in the fact that I can't stop thinking about another girl and it's all sorts of fucked up. I really do want to make things work again with her and I feel like I can, but how do I just erase this past week with the other girl out of my head?? I don't want it to interfere with my relationship I just got myself back into because it's hard enough to handle that in the first place.

What would you do? Do I just need to do everything I can to get the girl out of my head? How do I do that? Does anyone know how I feel?:confused:

Fucking trainwreck you got yourself, there.

I think the other girl was just using you to make the cruise more interesting, man. To me it doesn't seem like anything special or even romantic. And even if she lived close and you had a thing with her, are you sure you want to be with a girl who would randomly fuck some stranger she meets on a cruise...THRICE daily? For all you know she could already have a boyfriend.

And about getting back together with your old girlfriend, I think it could work (though I still wish you'd worked out your feelings with the other girl first). I mean, she was drunk when she cheated on you, right? I love the living shit out of my girlfriend and I've come pretty close to cheating on her when I was shitfaced. Of course I didn't, but it's understandable. And it was only a kiss, dude.

So yeah, I'd say get over the cruise girl and try to forgive your girlfriend.


Also, good to see you back man. *hug* :cool:

Get rid of the ex! Now! Fuck that bitch!

i went on a cruise last summer and i met this gorgeous scottish girl. we slept together a few times, it was so romantic and short lived.... never talked to her again lol. i kind of miss her now but not really. you'll get over her.

Well, have you since contacted the girl from the cruise since you got home? If not how long ago was it. If it was over a week and you made no contact stick with your ex and suck it up or find a way to make the girl living 5 hours away work.

Look, if for no other reason, I don't want you back with that ex and cluttering up this forum with predictable threads.

For a good reason, just don't. I don't believe "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is necessarily true but in her case it probably is. People like that have some messed up issues they need to sort out before anyone can reasonably be with them. Just please don't get back together with your ex?

Stay good friends with your ex. See if this cruise girl is interested, its a clean slate anyway.

Look, if for no other reason, I don't want you back with that ex and cluttering up this forum with predictable threads.

For a good reason, just don't. I don't believe "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is necessarily true but in her case it probably is. People like that have some messed up issues they need to sort out before anyone can reasonably be with them. Just please don't get back together with your ex?

Stay good friends with your ex. See if this cruise girl is interested, its a clean slate anyway.

You're stupid, man. This isn't even because you're my e-nemisis. That's just really shit advice.

What do you mean "in her case"? What was so evil about the way she cheated? As far as I know she got drunk and kissed some dude. That could pretty much happen to any of us. You're blind drunk, there's an attractive person hitting on you and you can totally get away with it. Who the fuck wouldn't go for it?

Of course, I've never cheated even under those conditions, BUT it's hard to say no.

You're stupid, man. This isn't even because you're my e-nemisis. That's just really shit advice.

What do you mean "in her case"? What was so evil about the way she cheated? As far as I know she got drunk and kissed some dude. That could pretty much happen to any of us. You're blind drunk, there's an attractive person hitting on you and you can totally get away with it. Who the fuck wouldn't go for it?

Of course, I've never cheated even under those conditions, BUT it's hard to say no.

Where do you get off that in the 15 years of your life, you somehow have the audacity to deem yourself the end-all know-all of everything S&A? Get over yourself.

That could pretty much happen to any of us. You're blind drunk, there's an attractive person hitting on you and you can totally get away with it. Who the fuck wouldn't go for it?


Anyone with the slightest bit of self control.

Voodoo, here's what you should do. You've got to dose the ex with some of her own medicine man. Go fuck this girl and a lot. Don't even try to hide it. Post pics all over the internet (including totse of course). Your ex will find out and probably be pissed and that's when you laugh maniacally because that was your plan all along, right?

Seriously, even if you don't want to cheat on her, I don't understand why you'd be back together with her.

don't listen to chichi, anybody making so many topics with questions himself can't have a clue


But, why get the other woman out of your head? Thinking of her during doing your former ex is what she deserves for cheating on you


Plus, i think you liking this other girl will be good for your relationship cause you'll probably will take less shit from your gf... cause she's not the one at the moment anyways

An ex is an ex for a reason.

She cheated on you, you broke up with her. And now you take her back? I don't know what you two talked about, but you established boundaries, she walked all over them and then you ended up taking her back.

Find someone that won't cheat on you :)

You think you can make it work again? Bro, it wasn't your fault in the first place. You just fucked yourself

Fuck you. Fuck you to hell.

I cannot muster up any more pity or advice for you, because you're incredibly stupid and have no self-respect. Have fun in your shit relationship where you know you girlfriend is off blowing everyone when you're not around, and you're wishing you were with anyone but her.

Where do you get off that in the 15 years of your life, you somehow have the audacity to deem yourself the end-all know-all of everything S&A? Get over yourself.

Notice how instead of arguing against my advice, you just jump in and say "DUDE YOU'RE FUCKING FIFTEEN YEARS OLD YOU DON'T KNOW SHIT GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE. :mad::mad::mad:"?

I'd appreciate it if you grew the fuck up and learned how to debate properly, as opposed to telling me that my age means that anything I say is automatically wrong.

Where do you get off that in the 15 years of your life, you somehow have the audacity to deem yourself the end-all know-all of everything S&A? Get over yourself.

Yo, dude when you bring age into the concept you just waged a feud with a bunch of crazy 15 year olds. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and you can't be hypocritical acting as if what their saying is not plausible, when anyone could dispute what you'd do in the certain scenario. We all react to situations differently; some would flip out and hate the bitch for being unfaithful, scheming to ruin her life and so; others will break it off and sever all contact, with the incentive of letting the relationship wane out with the deadly silent treatment, giving the partner time to reflect on their mistakes, and come begging back in a pitiful state apologizing every two seconds.

In conclusion, don't discriminate 15 year olds because of their age, because some have experienced far more things than you and have inherited knowledge beyond what you believe is capable given their youth.

Chichi is automatically wrong because he's 15.

He probably has dreads and skateboards at the mall BECAUSE HE'S HARDKORE AND ANARCHI 4 LYF.

Get rid of the ex! Now! Fuck that bitch!

Wrong order kid.

Fuck the bitch then get rid of her.

If your not talking to the bitch you met on the cruise by now, then let it the fuck go. It made your cruise more fun, you got laid a bunch of times, its a fucking vacation. Now you're with your ex back in the "real world" you managed to have a good talk with your girl friend, Now try to fix your relationship with her. The bitch on the cruise was just trying to make hte cruise more fun, which she did. Just keep fucking your ex and you'll get over the "cruise bitch"

Damn I didn't think there'd be this many replies. So I hung out with the ex today and uh, well we fucked. It's going great on my part though because I told her all about the girl on the cruise, every detail. She told me it felt like being punched in the stomach when I told her but I really don't care. She even tried getting a little mad at me for a few minutes until I brought up what she did. She has no right to be mad after what she did and besides we weren't even dating when I did it.

So now I have the upper hand with her like I used to and things are starting to feel better between us. But I did talk to the girl from the cruise a little bit and she sent me some pictures she took of us and all that. I thought about what some people were saying about how she just wanted a cruise hook-up and yeah I guess your right. It was incredible at the time but I think I'll leave it at that. I was still pretty wrapped up in her when I made this thread.

I'm still a bit confused about what to do with my ex though. I had sex with her tonight... even though we both had agreed to take it slow and see what happens over the next few weeks. Fucking hormones... and beer... they always end me up in these kind of situations.

And come on Silverfuck. I've thought this shit through a lot, and even though I'm still mad, she really only kissed a guy when she was drunk. I've done much worse.

And come on Silverfuck. I've thought this shit through a lot, and even though I'm still mad, she really only kissed a guy when she was drunk. I've done much worse.

You're right, that was very harsh. I apologize. I just remember how when you thought she was cheating on you that first time, how you were so angry and hurt that you made the 'all women are whores' thread...and then when you actually found out what happened...well your posts made it obvious that you were very upset, and I didn't think you were the type to let someone treat you that way again.

However I stand by my lack of sympathy. You put yourself in the position to have your heart stomped on, and stomped on it shall be.

You're right, that was very harsh. I apologize. I just remember how when you thought she was cheating on you that first time, how you were so angry and hurt that you made the 'all women are whores' thread...and then when you actually found out what happened...well your posts made it obvious that you were very upset, and I didn't think you were the type to let someone treat you that way again.

However I stand by my lack of sympathy. You put yourself in the position to have your heart stomped on, and stomped on it shall be.

Fair enough. I get angry sometimes and vent on totse and thats where the "women are whores" thread came from. I guess it's better than venting on the women right? Although that does sound like a good idea sometimes.... nevermind. :D

*facepalm*

Man, relationships shouldn't be about having the "upper hand". I think you shouldn't be with her.

Notice how you still call her your "ex"?

I wonder if that means something.

Notice how you still call her your "ex"?

I wonder if that means something.

Well I don't know what to call her at this point. It's like we're dating but my pride is getting in the way of me calling it that. It's hard to explain. I might as well be calling her my girlfriend though.

I'm so lost...:( I don't know what I want. All I know is that when I'm with her I feel that awesome connection we had before things went wrong and I know she does too. I've never in my life been able to communicate so well with anyone. But I still have that sense of urgency to keep away from her somewhat just because of what she did. It's like going to pet a dog that bit you before.

Man this is totally your call, and I don't know anything about this girl, but I think you should jettison the ex and the cruise girl. Start anew. Dealing with exes ends up dragging up a LOT of old emotions, things you can never get over, things you wish didn't happen, mistakes you made, etc. So I would say (from my own experience) just be done with that shit and find some new girl. There's always another.

An ex is an ex for a reason.

She cheated on you, you broke up with her. And now you take her back? I don't know what you two talked about, but you established boundaries, she walked all over them and then you ended up taking her back.

Find someone that won't cheat on you :)

Hey, your name looks like mine!

I think it will be fine.

I mean the way you punished her (leaving her, then telling her the details of the cruise) must have hurt her pretty bad. It's safe to say she probably learned her lesson.

Also, I would tell her she's not allowed to drink alone with other guys anymore, at least for a while. If she cooperates, then all is well.

:confused:

I think it will be fine.

I mean the way you punished her (leaving her, then telling her the details of the cruise) must have hurt her pretty bad. It's safe to say she probably learned her lesson.

Also, I would tell her she's not allowed to drink alone with other guys anymore, at least for a while. If she cooperates, then all is well.

:confused:

I'll do something along the lines of that. We just got done sepnding new years together and Im relaly drunk right now. it was gooooooooooooood shit i love totse you guys are all fuckin awesome and thanks motherfuckers

happy new year ya gooks!!