As most of you are aware I like sex. I'd probably choose sex over eating. If I had it my way my boyfriend and I would never leave the bedroom. But there is a slight snag in my sex life. My boyfriend.

You know how married women just lose interest in sex after a while? That's how he is. We used to be all over each other. Sex was 3, 5, 7 times a day. We'd jump each other in public, or race home to do the nasty. We would try new things/places all the time. Even when friends were over we couldn't keep our hands to ourselves. It was bliss and I loved it.

But now, his libido is becoming less and less. I've tried to compromise. We were having sex once a day, which may be alot to some but not for me. I tried to work with his libido and not complain. I tried to make that one sex session a day special, last longer, feel better. He seemed content. But it keeps going downhill. Now it's maybe once every two days, sometimes he doesn't even try to get me off anymore. I'll be so horny that I'm a mess. He'll give me a kiss and I'll tell him I'm horny and he just replies 'I know' and does nothing. Most days I masterbate as soon as he leaves the house.

Those of you that are going to flame me for complaining about ONLY having sex once every two days, you don't understand my sex drive. I can't control it. And I get all jittery and clumsy if I dont get off for a while. It's like sex is my crack. And my boyfriend is not dealing. I've tried to talk to him about it. Even just this morning.

Me "Our sex life is really going downhill."

Ty "Yeah I know."

Me "I've compromised alot. I've stopped asking for it all the time and jumping you when you dont want it, but I'm going crazy. You know how I am."

Ty "Uh huh..." and nothing...

We have alot of things going against us right now that make it harder. We work opposite shifts, we live with his parents, Ty has high blood pressure so sex leaves him breathless and he gets over heated easily. Am I just being a bitch for not understanding? Is he the one not being understanding? He knew how I was from day one. I feel it's a little unfair to ignore my needs so much. I'm actually unhappy about this. But I'm biased. Tell me what you think totse.

Take up horse ridding lessons.

* Or take up porn

Do a barrel roll.

As most of you are aware I like sex. I'd probably choose sex over eating. If I had it my way my boyfriend and I would never leave the bedroom. But there is a slight snag in my sex life. My boyfriend.

You know how married women just lose interest in sex after a while? That's how he is. We used to be all over each other. Sex was 3, 5, 7 times a day. We'd jump each other in public, or race home to do the nasty. We would try new things/places all the time. Even when friends were over we couldn't keep our hands to ourselves. It was bliss and I loved it.

But now, his libido is becoming less and less. I've tried to compromise. We were having sex once a day, which may be alot to some but not for me. I tried to work with his libido and not complain. I tried to make that one sex session a day special, last longer, feel better. He seemed content. But it keeps going downhill. Now it's maybe once every two days, sometimes he doesn't even try to get me off anymore. I'll be so horny that I'm a mess. He'll give me a kiss and I'll tell him I'm horny and he just replies 'I know' and does nothing. Most days I masterbate as soon as he leaves the house.

Those of you that are going to flame me for complaining about ONLY having sex once every two days, you don't understand my sex drive. I can't control it. And I get all jittery and clumsy if I dont get off for a while. It's like sex is my crack. And my boyfriend is not dealing. I've tried to talk to him about it. Even just this morning.

Me "Our sex life is really going downhill."

Ty "Yeah I know."

Me "I've compromised alot. I've stopped asking for it all the time and jumping you when you dont want it, but I'm going crazy. You know how I am."

Ty "Uh huh..." and nothing...

We have alot of things going against us right now that make it harder. We work opposite shifts, we live with his parents, Ty has high blood pressure so sex leaves him breathless and he gets over heated easily. Am I just being a bitch for not understanding? Is he the one not being understanding? He knew how I was from day one. I feel it's a little unfair to ignore my needs so much. I'm actually unhappy about this. But I'm biased. Tell me what you think totse.

You sound like a sex addict, and I don't mean the good kind. Obviously if you're used to it 7 times a day and then you have it less and less it'll suck, but you shouldn't be jittery over it. That's weird. You might want to see a psychiatrist or some other kind of professional if you're exhibiting other symptoms of addictive behavior.

I'm joking with the above statement. Sex is fun and everything, but it's tiring and time-consuming as well. Maybe you should sit your boyfriend down and, you know, talk to him. That would be infinitely better than wasting time posting on totse, where none of us can answer your question or solve your problem for you.

Your relationship sounds stagnant and boring. Are you ready to break up with him but you don't want to go through with it? You're what, 17? Talk to your boyfriend. If your relationship isn't what you want and he isn't willing to work with you, find a new boyfriend.

Understand, though, that for some guys sex with the same girl gets boring after a while. Eventually you've done everything you wanted to do and you're used to it. It kinda loses its fun at that point.

Everytime you mention your boyfriend I feel like I want to shank him.

He's such a spoiled little cunt. He has a pretty fucking hot wife who is absolutely obsessed with intense porn-grade fucking, and all he can say is "Uh-huh..."?

You know how many guys would kill to have a girlfriend like you? This guy takes you for granted as I've said before.

And I know I tell you this all the time, but maybe you should just find someone better, because you deserve better.














.....FUUUUUUCCKKKK *Ejaculates all over screen* :mad:

maybe you're getting fat?



fat or not i'd probably be willing to spend a week under you though

lol did I just call you his wife...

Or take me home.

lol did I just call you his wife...

yes ;)

You sound like a sex addict, and I don't mean the good kind. Obviously if you're used to it 7 times a day and then you have it less and less it'll suck, but you shouldn't be jittery over it. That's weird. You might want to see a psychiatrist or some other kind of professional if you're exhibiting other symptoms of addictive behavior.

I'm joking with the above statement. Sex is fun and everything, but it's tiring and time-consuming as well. Maybe you should sit your boyfriend down and, you know, talk to him. That would be infinitely better than wasting time posting on totse, where none of us can answer your question or solve your problem for you.

Your relationship sounds stagnant and boring. Are you ready to break up with him but you don't want to go through with it? You're what, 17? Talk to your boyfriend. If your relationship isn't what you want and he isn't willing to work with you, find a new boyfriend.

Understand, though, that for some guys sex with the same girl gets boring after a while. Eventually you've done everything you wanted to do and you're used to it. It kinda loses its fun at that point.

First of all, yes I am a sex addict. I'll be the first to admit that lol.

And I have tried to talk to him. It's like pulling teeth.

And I've been told before about sex with only one girl gets boring. And that I shouldn't have gave him all the goods right away. But let me ask you this... I try so hard to make it interesting and fun. I make sure we're not always doing the same things. That we're not always in the same location. I open myself to his fatasies, I oblige to anything he wants. I get ideas from everywhere and put them into practice. Our sex is rarely ever the same. Sometimes I work my hardest to get him off in under 5 minutes. Other times I tease him and make him wait for it. I use props and outfits. I do roleplaying. I take on different personalities to keep it interesting. How an sex like that get boring?

Last night we we're upstairs watching tv and I spent an hr playing with him and teasing him and gave him a blowjob even though his parents were in the next room. He enjoyed it but I still had to push him to touch me. Then we went downstairs to have sex and he started playing with the kitten. Is he just not interested anymore?

Everytime you mention your boyfriend I feel like I want to shank him.

He's such a spoiled little cunt. He has a pretty fucking hot wife who is absolutely obsessed with intense porn-grade fucking, and all he can say is "Uh-huh..."?

You know how many guys would kill to have a girlfriend like you? This guy takes you for granted as I've said before.

And I know I tell you this all the time, but maybe you should just find someone better, because you deserve better.


Lol I feel like a wife.

And I know everyone here is going to say dump him. But no, I won't. I want to make it better not just give up. It's taken me a long time to find a man like him. You guys only hear my bitching. But besides our sex issues, he is kind and gentle and treats me better than any man. So no I won't leave him.

* On a serious tip- Maybe if you put half the amount of effort you put into keeping the sex in your relationship interesting into some other faucet of the relationship, things would get better. I bet you're overwhelming him with sex. Yes, us men love sex but we don't enjoy it when it becomes a chore. He may feel like he's gotta give you all this sex because you want it so bad but he takes no pleasure away from it (aside from busting his nut).
Improve on something else.

Like-
Concentrate on doing anything non sexual to make him feel manly.
Or I dunno.......you get the drift, something non-sexual to make him/relationship better

First of all, yes I am a sex addict. I'll be the first to admit that lol.

And I have tried to talk to him. It's like pulling teeth.

And I've been told before about sex with only one girl gets boring. And that I shouldn't have gave him all the goods right away. But let me ask you this... I try so hard to make it interesting and fun. I make sure we're not always doing the same things. That we're not always in the same location. I open myself to his fatasies, I oblige to anything he wants. I get ideas from everywhere and put them into practice. Our sex is rarely ever the same. Sometimes I work my hardest to get him off in under 5 minutes. Other times I tease him and make him wait for it. I use props and outfits. I do roleplaying. I take on different personalities to keep it interesting. How an sex like that get boring?

Last night we we're upstairs watching tv and I spent an hr playing with him and teasing him and gave him a blowjob even though his parents were in the next room. He enjoyed it but I still had to push him to touch me. Then we went downstairs to have sex and he started playing with the kitten. Is he just not interested anymore?

He's less interested. As long as he's still fucking you, don't worry about not interested.
And don't blame him for playing with kittens. They're super fun, and temporary... soon they'll be cynical cats.

It's taken me a long time to find a man like him.

To find a man who passes up sex with his girlfriend to play with a kitten?

Yeah I know how where you can find plenty of them, they're called faggots. :mad:

First of all, yes I am a sex addict. I'll be the first to admit that lol.

And I have tried to talk to him. It's like pulling teeth.

And I've been told before about sex with only one girl gets boring. And that I shouldn't have gave him all the goods right away. But let me ask you this... I try so hard to make it interesting and fun. I make sure we're not always doing the same things. That we're not always in the same location. I open myself to his fatasies, I oblige to anything he wants. I get ideas from everywhere and put them into practice. Our sex is rarely ever the same. Sometimes I work my hardest to get him off in under 5 minutes. Other times I tease him and make him wait for it. I use props and outfits. I do roleplaying. I take on different personalities to keep it interesting. How an sex like that get boring?

Last night we we're upstairs watching tv and I spent an hr playing with him and teasing him and gave him a blowjob even though his parents were in the next room. He enjoyed it but I still had to push him to touch me. Then we went downstairs to have sex and he started playing with the kitten. Is he just not interested anymore?

it seems like he's getting his pussy from somewhere else:D

To find a man who passes up sex with his girlfriend to play with a kitten?

Yeah I know how where you can find plenty of them, they're called faggots. :mad:


and you're the biggest faggot of them all.

* On a serious tip- Maybe if you put half the amount of effort you put into keeping the sex in your relationship interesting into some other faucet of the relationship, things would get better. I bet you're overwhelming him with sex. Yes, us men love sex but we don't enjoy it when it becomes a chore. He may feel like he's gotta give you all this sex because you want it so bad but he takes no pleasure away from it (aside from busting his nut).
Improve on something else.

Like-
Concentrate on doing anything non sexual to make him feel manly.
Or I dunno.......you get the drift, something non-sexual to make him/relationship better

The rest of our relationship is great though. There's nothing to improve there.

I get what you're saying about it feeling like a chore and I definately don't want to make him think having sex with me is his duty. But come on... I'm just so sexually frustrated. Should I really have to work this hard to make him interested? And the fact is he's not giving me alot of sex. Once every couple days is bullshit. He doesn't have to work hard for that. Last time we had sex I did all the work and he came first. I haven't came in 4 days. I'm upset.

have you done anal? would that spice things up? fuck him with a strapon maybe?

have you done anal? would that spice things up? fuck him with a strapon maybe?

I do anal whenever he wants it.

And no, he won't let me go anywhere near his asshole with a FINGER. There's no way a strap on would be ok.

This message is hidden because jewishnazi is on your ignore list.

The rest of our relationship is great though. There's nothing to improve there.

I get what you're saying about it feeling like a chore and I definately don't want to make him think having sex with me is his duty. But come on... I'm just so sexually frustrated. Should I really have to work this hard to make him interested? And the fact is he's not giving me alot of sex. Once every couple days is bullshit. He doesn't have to work hard for that. Last time we had sex I did all the work and he came first. I haven't came in 4 days. I'm upset.

Get a vibrator. A good one. Use it sparingly, otherwise you'll end up choosing vib over boyfriend.

The problem IS that you're working too hard. You're essentially taking the 'hunt' away from him. It will always seem like a duty if having sex with you is always on your watch. Let him have some control back. Oh, and relationships always have room for improvement.

hmmm...

idk if you're like me at all.. but a relationship can be great and then once the sex goes.. its downhill and everything is less fun. = /


I like sex. You like sex... the solution is simple. = D

Get a vibrator. A good one. Use it sparingly, otherwise you'll end up choosing vib over boyfriend.

The problem IS that you're working too hard. You're essentially taking the 'hunt' away from him. It will always seem like a duty if having sex with you is on you're watch. Let him have some control back. Oh, and relationships always have room for improvement.

I've tried giving him back 'the hunt' before! Honestly I did. I stopped initiating sex to see if he would. Long story short... he didn't.

Once I told him that he wasn't getting sex from me til he surprised me. And for once I didn't give him ideas on what I'd like. You know what he did? He got home late and told me to clean the room cause his ex fuck buddy was coming to say hi.

his ex fuck buddy was coming to say hi.

not to make you paranoid.. but he's not getting it from elsewhere, is he?

Perhaps he needs:


http://www.steroidstation.com/p_images/viagra.gif


But in all honesty I can see where the poor guy is coming from. Seriously, your a freak, a sexual freak and thats not a bad thing. My buddy of mine was the same way where he would get his rocks off no less then 3 times a day, had to. He finally found a girlfriend that loved sex as much as him and it was great for the first 6 months but then after awhile it got old and was more of a chore to keep her happy which caused him to hate seeing her that much or fulfilling her needs (even having sex). In all honesty he just couldn't keep up even though he thought he would wear her out.

Now for some people 6 months is along time to have sex 3-5 times a day EVERYDAY. Sometimes you want to just come home and have a beer, play some games or just chill out and watch TV without the wifey coming by trying to get you in the mood. That was his reaction and he would work 10 hour days the last thing he wanted to do after 6-12 months was fuck 5 times. Maybe once was fine just to do the damn thing but anymore and he was done unless it was the weekend.

Perhaps its just a sign he is growing up and getting older and your libido is increasing hitting its prime. I wont lie my sex drive has gone down from 16 to 24. Call it what you want but once every day is good enough for me.

Get an 'egg (http://www.dvhardware.net/reviews/ohmibod_boditalkescort/5.jpg)' or a 'butterfly' (http://www.sugavibe.com.au/shop/media/thumbnail/179/MicroButterflyArouser.jpg) so you won't get the sexual DT's. Other than that I don't know what to suggest, but it's his problem. There's nothing wrong or bad about being a sex 'addict'. Like someone already said, most men would kill to be with you.

You think you've changed from being a slut?

You're still a fucking slut ripstick. Except this time you're being used emotionally.

*Spits on you* :mad:

Get an 'egg (http://www.dvhardware.net/reviews/ohmibod_boditalkescort/5.jpg)' or a 'butterfly' (http://www.sugavibe.com.au/shop/media/thumbnail/179/MicroButterflyArouser.jpg) so you won't get the sexual DT's. Other than that I don't know what to suggest, but it's his problem. There's nothing wrong or bad about being a sex 'addict'. Like someone already said, most men would kill to be with you.

I was waiting for you to post. And I have a toy. It just doesn't really do it for me.

Okay jackketch unload your wisdom...

Do you think two people with complete opposite sex drives can make a relationship work or is it destined to fail?

You think you've changed from being a slut?

You're still a fucking slut ripstick. Except this time you're being used emotionally.

*Spits on you* :mad:

Hey angry little man... go have sex one more time to get your count above 5.

And maybe I am still a slut, but i'm only one man's slut.

Hey angry little man... go have sex one more time to get your count above 5.

...:(

Well you obviously have a couple problems.

First and foremost is that you are living with this guy, who is living with his parents. I'm guessing you're under 20. Living with each other is fine, but in his own parent's house? That's pitiful. The both of you should go to college, get an education, and find some meaning in your life besides each other. At this rate, there is no way you two are going to spend the rest of your lives together. Can you really imagine being with him for another 60 years? Find something else to do with your life.

2nd: You've spoiled him. You've given him too much variety in sex too soon. Now he is bored, because he KNOWS you will do anything for him. You've taken away the game from him. There's no point in him trying to make sex interesting for you anymore.

Those are your main problems.

Also, you're probably going to get pissed at me for saying this to you, which is another problem you have. You ask for people's opinions, but whenever they tell you the cold, hard truth, you reject it. Grow up.

Last night we we're upstairs watching tv and I spent an hr playing with him and teasing him and gave him a blowjob even though his parents were in the next room. He enjoyed it but I still had to push him to touch me. Then we went downstairs to have sex and he started playing with the kitten. Is he just not interested anymore?

To be fair... kittens are fucking adorable.

Is he doing any sports?

Doing heavy squats and deadlifts at the gym really gets the testosterone flowing.

You know, all the weed he smokes probably contributes to his low libido. This is kinda one of those defining moments in a relationship. Somebody has to compromise. Or both of you. Ex: Vib more/ get him to smoke less.

Better Idea: Pavlov him! Make it so every time he smokes weed he associates it with your pussy/sex. Start out with getting him subtly aroused every time he smokes. Like rub his dick through his pants while he's taking a hit. Then slowly increase the intensity until it's up to the point where right after he smokes you guys fuck. He loves to smoke religiously you love to fuck like a banshee.,win win! Don't just flat out tell him that you're Pavloving him though and be patient. I have faith in you, this is what women are good at- abusing mind control.

*MAKE A SLOW PROGRESSION - it will be worth it in the long run so keep it in your pants for a while.

I can't say its the same, but I'm KIND of in your boat, except I'd say my position is a little more reasonable...

I've made threads about my problem too many times before, so I won't jabber too much. Anyway, my gf and I have been going out for a while, and the sex used to be good and frequent. By frequent I don't mean your crazy thing, but still a respectable 1 or 2 times a day. Then it waned a bit...and now we haven't done it in SO FUCKING LONG. I haven't even gotten dome (head) in so long. Its been like...a month and a half probably since we have. And we're pretty young. It's killing me slowly.

At least your bf just shrugs it off. You know what she does if I try and maturely and really gently talk about it? She breaks down basically. And you can't do that to someone you love. So I really have no idea what's going on, and she has said the same. I'm confused and trapped.

I don't mean to sound rude, but 7 times a day is...kind of extreme. I don't think I even could do it 7 times in one day, I just don't have that stamina. However, if my gf ever wanted it (hahahhahahahhahahah), I think I would gladly get her off with my fingers and tongue 7 times a day. So maybe he can do that?

That's what I don't understand in my own position. I can understand I guess if she just doesn't want to have sex...but can she at least understand that I am so horny I can't concentrate on anything? Jeebus invented blowjobs and cunnilingus for a reason.

You also have to understand the guy's position. Lets say you're not really in the mood (also hahahahha), but he is. You can basically just lie back and take it, and then you might even get in the mood. But if he's not in the mood, he can't just flip a switch to give himself a boner.

Anyway, what would your ideal situation be? A guy can't just "try" to be more horny, no one can. What would you LIKE him to do/say?

Well you obviously have a couple problems.

First and foremost is that you are living with this guy, who is living with his parents. I'm guessing you're under 20. Living with each other is fine, but in his own parent's house? That's pitiful. The both of you should go to college, get an education, and find some meaning in your life besides each other. At this rate, there is no way you two are going to spend the rest of your lives together. Can you really imagine being with him for another 60 years? Find something else to do with your life.

2nd: You've spoiled him. You've given him too much variety in sex too soon. Now he is bored, because he KNOWS you will do anything for him. You've taken away the game from him. There's no point in him trying to make sex interesting for you anymore.

Those are your main problems.

Also, you're probably going to get pissed at me for saying this to you, which is another problem you have. You ask for people's opinions, but whenever they tell you the cold, hard truth, you reject it. Grow up.

We live at his parents house because he is going to college. I'm working on getting my own apt.

And yes I ask for advice because I have tried everything and I'm not rejecting their advie. Mostly I'm telling them I've already tried it and it didn't work.

I realize you told me my problems, I know my problems. I don't know how to solve them.

Anyway, what would your ideal situation be? A guy can't just "try" to be more horny, no one can. What would you LIKE him to do/say?

I want him to recognize my needs, not just shrug it off. If I play with him and pleasure him for an hour maybe he can return the favour. I hate having to tell him I'm horny and beg for some attention. It is the most pitiful thing to beg my boyfriend to fuck me. I'd be happy with once a day. Like I said we were doing this and I was getting use to it. I agree that 7 times a day is a little extravagant and unrealisti. Once a day is fine. I'd like him to take some control in our sex life.

We live at his parents house because he is going to college. I'm working on getting my own apt.

And yes I ask for advice because I have tried everything and I'm not rejecting their advie. Mostly I'm telling them I've already tried it and it didn't work.

I realize you told me my problems, I know my problems. I don't know how to solve them.

Lather Rinse and Repeat, when product is gone....Buy a new bottle

I've tried giving him back 'the hunt' before! Honestly I did. I stopped initiating sex to see if he would. Long story short... he didn't.

Once I told him that he wasn't getting sex from me til he surprised me. And for once I didn't give him ideas on what I'd like. You know what he did? He got home late and told me to clean the room cause his ex fuck buddy was coming to say hi.

There's nothing worse than meeting a boyfriend's ex fuck buddy. I don't know why, but guys don't seem to understand that it makes the girlfriend pissed off and uncomfortable as fuck. But back to the topic at hand-

It's too much. Clearly your sex drives don't match. You want it seven times a day-which is way over the average-and he's more than content having it once a day or once every other day. I used to enjoy having sex two/three times a day, but it gets tiring. Becomes a chore. EVEN if you switch it up, roleplay, do different things-it's still there. The availability of sex is open. You have to close it off. Waiting one or two days isn't giving back the hunt. Try waiting a week or more. Act normal. Make him crave sex, because honestly, even the hottest, most wanted female will tire a man out with sex all day every day like you have. Slow it down. He's seriously viewing sex as something that has to be done daily to please you, and he's tired of it. Let it come naturally, don't expect sex. Because when you begin to expect it, that's when it becomes a chore. It puts pressure on the other individual to perform.

Also, are you sure he isn't seeing someone? If after a week he doesn't want to touch you, doesn't ever initiate sex-I don't know, seems fishy to me. Even if he isn't cheating, perhaps there are other problems that have arisen? Talk to him. Push past the "Uh-huh" "Okay" "I know" nonsense. But there has to be work done on your side too. You have to realize that sex seven times a day is too much. A high sex drive isn't bad, but if it's interfering with your life and relationships-if it's all you think about-maybe you should be seeing one. Or try to work it out yourself, maybe you need to find something that gets you off and keeps you satisfied for longer.

I want you to try something. For the next whole week, forget about sex. Don't talk about it, don't try to initiate it. When you're horny, go and take care of yourself, but DO NOT try to turn him on or have any kind of sexual contact, banter, anything of that nature. Spend a week having a totally sex-free relationship. How he reacts to that will give you a lot of insight into his mindset, and will help you figure out if he feels pressured to have sex and can't enjoy it, whether he's just bored of it, or whether he just isn't into it at all. The fact that you're instantly switching modes will probably confuse him enough that he'll mention it, and trust me, the conversation will generally have an entirely different outcome when it starts on his terms.

I know it sounds gay, but try it. It'll give you a lot of perspective into your relationship.

I want you to try something. For the next whole week, forget about sex. Don't talk about it, don't try to initiate it. When you're horny, go and take care of yourself, but DO NOT try to turn him on or have any kind of sexual contact, banter, anything of that nature. Spend a week having a totally sex-free relationship. How he reacts to that will give you a lot of insight into his mindset, and will help you figure out if he feels pressured to have sex and can't enjoy it, whether he's just bored of it, or whether he just isn't into it at all. The fact that you're instantly switching modes will probably confuse him enough that he'll mention it, and trust me, the conversation will generally have an entirely different outcome when it starts on his terms.

I know it sounds gay, but try it. It'll give you a lot of perspective into your relationship.

You know I had the exact same idea and tried various times. I always gave in. It's hard to hold out on someone when you want sex so much. But I agree completely. This is what I need to do. I just have to have self control. Alright starting today, dare i say it, he's cut off.

Do you think two people with complete opposite sex drives can make a relationship work or is it destined to fail?

Oh yes it can work....but it means having a real relationship and not the modern Lite DeCaff version.

If he lost his penis in a bizarre work accident tomorrow, could you live with having to masturbate several times a day for the rest of your pre-menopausal life? Are you that serious and committed to him?

And if he was suddenly eunuched, would he be mature enough to let you take lovers to release your tensions?

Oh yes it can work....but it means having a real relationship and not the modern Lite DeCaff version.

If he lost his penis in a bizarre work accident tomorrow, could you live with having to masturbate several times a day for the rest of your pre-menopausal life? Are you that serious and committed to him?

And if he was suddenly eunuched, would he be mature enough to let you take lovers to release your tensions?

You need to write a book..

This is what I need to do. I just have to have self control. Alright starting today, dare i say it, he's cut off.



Good luck.


Oh yes it can work....but it means having a real relationship and not the modern Lite DeCaff version.

If he lost his penis in a bizarre work accident tomorrow, could you live with having to masturbate several times a day for the rest of your pre-menopausal life? Are you that serious and committed to him?

And if he was suddenly eunuched, would he be mature enough to let you take lovers to release your tensions?


God speaks once more.

Here's how it goes. Since I've been in the place where he is. Relationships always start out strong in the sex area. It's fucking amazing.... for that period of time. Then... after a while it just becomes the same old shit, no matter if you spice it up with places/things/positions. It's just sex after a while. You jumping all over his dick even though he isn't in the mood isn't going to help things. It just turns into a chore because he has to 'please' you. That makes it not so enjoyable and leaves a 'bad taste in his mouth' so to say. It could also be that he has something going on in his life that is keeping him from being horny. You know, us guys have problems too. He could be stressed out about something. Ever try just talking to him? And not trying to ride him half way through the conversation? Just lay off his wee-wee for a bit, but DO NOT stray away from him, or hold anything against him... Trust me, that only makes things worse.

Also, try not to bring it up too much. Don't go at him with "Why won't you have sex with me anymore? Am I fat? etc." That will just make he feel like he isn't keeping you happy, and drive him up a wall mentally. It's just a bad idea... Lot's of fights come from that.

Pavlov. You both have addictions. Exploit them.

Also, try not to bring it up too much.

Ok it's sad but that had me laughing the last five minutes.

Ok it's sad but that had me laughing the last five minutes.

That, means you are quick on the uptake :D

That, means you are quick on the uptake :D

Never had a problem with taking it up...

hmmm prostate stimulation FTW!

You need to write a book..

sigh

Think

jackketch writes book *months of no jack advice for us*

Jack let's the book get published and makes millions *no advice EVER again from jack*


Appreciate his work but don't give him too many good ideas, he might do something with it

Okay. Sex is not supposed to be something you're forced into. I'm going to create a very strange metaphor regarding sex and food. Bear with me. Imagine sex as a whole bunch of different foods. Foods you shouldn't eat everyday. Delicious, yummy foods. Ice cream, belgian chocolate, pizza, kfc, chips, pie, CAKE. And now imagine force-feeding someone all that crap on a daily basis. One day you feed them a bucket of ice cream. The next day, pie and pizza. The next day, a motherfucking belgian chocolate pizzacake covered in icecream! Pretty soon, those delicious foods that are oh-so-amazing once in a while start to become repulsive and horrible. Oh, and they make you fat. You have been force-feeding your boyfriend to the point where he's fat, sick, repulsed, lazy and doesn't even want to eat a fucking apple.

So now what? You think he's going to want the occasional slice of cake right away after being forced into for so long? Hell no. Leave the poor boy alone. No fat person wants to be surrounded by reminders of food. And no over-sexed, unhappy-camper wants to be constantly prodded to have sex anymore. If you need it so bad, do it yourself, or get it somewhere else. Although I think putting down the fork would be good for you too.

Okay. Sex is not supposed to be something you're forced into. I'm going to create a very strange metaphor regarding sex and food. Bear with me. Imagine sex as a whole bunch of different foods. Foods you shouldn't eat everyday. Delicious, yummy foods. Ice cream, belgian chocolate, pizza, kfc, chips, pie, CAKE. And now imagine force-feeding someone all that crap on a daily basis. One day you feed them a bucket of ice cream. The next day, pie and pizza. The next day, a motherfucking belgian chocolate pizzacake covered in icecream! Pretty soon, those delicious foods that are oh-so-amazing once in a while start to become repulsive and horrible. Oh, and they make you fat. You have been force-feeding your boyfriend to the point where he's fat, sick, repulsed, lazy and doesn't even want to eat a fucking apple.

So now what? You think he's going to want the occasional slice of cake right away after being forced into for so long? Hell no. Leave the poor boy alone. No fat person wants to be surrounded by reminders of food. And no over-sexed, unhappy-camper wants to be constantly prodded to have sex anymore. If you need it so bad, do it yourself, or get it somewhere else. Although I think putting down the fork would be good for you too.



I love it absolutely love it nice analogy lol.

Do what my wife and I do, have an open relationship where you can both do what, and who, you want.

^^ this doesn't work for everybody


Ripstick, either your indeed giving him too much, or somethings not 100%.
I used to date a nymph, 6 times a day often, if we had the time, 3 years straight, the relationship went downhill, and so did my, and later also her libido

New gf, again, sex deluxe, now 7 months later, hell i'm not sure if i want sex this WEEK. The why? The same. And it's not the sex in general. I mean i seriously worry bout what the hell if i'm single.. i'll go nuts in 2 days. But...

But maybe he's just not as into to sex as you are and indeed couldn't keep this up anymore. Forcing yourself to do something that isn't you, is very tiresome mentally in the long run

Ej, and maybe it's just stress baby ;)

But.....TALK TO THE FUCKER, deep in his hart he knows why he doesn't feel like it.


I should make a good communication and being in touch with yourself is everything topic....but i'm as always too lazy. I'll probs write it the day i write the easy guide to getting a threesome

Lose some weight you fucking fat whore :mad:

You're probably worse than a bitch after you marry her. When you're fat, sex becomes unbearable. It's sickening and disgusting.

Maybe some yoga or somethings to tighten up your sweaty whale vagina

Lose some weight you fucking fat whore :mad:

You're probably worse than a bitch after you marry her. When you're fat, sex becomes unbearable. It's sickening and disgusting.

Maybe some yoga or somethings to tighten up your sweaty whale vagina

You little new arrival, are misinformed and not appreciated. Go away.

You little new arrival, are misinformed and not appreciated. Go away.

Just show a pic and shut everyone up

Just show a pic and shut everyone up

Go look up the calendar post in SG. I'm not reposting pics everyone has seen before. I've never been shy or untruthful about my appearance.

Go look up the calendar post in SG. I'm not reposting pics everyone has seen before. I've never been shy or untruthful about my appearance.

Seen it, I have the calendar but no new arrival or acolyte is gonna spend longer then 2 seconds looking for anything so now another 50000 idiots are going to post "post piks fat dirty dog girl"

ty has high blood pressure so sex leaves him breathless and he gets over heated easily.

lmfao!

You little new arrival, are misinformed and not appreciated. Go away.

I've been a totsean since 2001 you big boon. New account is new.

Have you tried dressing up in a sexy costume and doing a nice dance for your boyfriend?

Seen it, I have the calendar but no new arrival or acolyte is gonna spend longer then 2 seconds looking for anything so now another 50000 idiots are going to post "post piks fat dirty dog girl"

They don't deserve pics.

i know how that goes, she goes into a-sexual mode every winter and i get real antsy

They don't deserve pics.

Duh but this whole fucking thread is going to shit becuase of it now anyways you and I are posting back and forth on two seperate threads either add me on msn or we need to coordinate

I've been a totsean since 2001 you big boon. New account is new.

Have you tried dressing up in a sexy costume and doing a nice dance for your boyfriend?

Then stop acting like a n00b. Notice how no one else told me to 'STFU fat sweaty whore!'. Read further into threads, maybe you'll learn something.

haha he is going in for the cam materbation session. Sick fuck.....

STFU fat sweaty whore!

STFU fat sweaty whore!

She has a boyfriend dumb shit...and for the record are you that fucking retarded you post twice in the same thread twice ffs

Then stop acting like a n00b. Notice how no one else told me to 'STFU fat sweaty whore!'. Read further into threads, maybe you'll learn something.

Felt like trollin' for the lulz.

Also if I hadn't read further into your threads, how could I have noticed anything? I'm not going to read through 6 pages of dopey boyfriend drama in preparation to troll an undesirable skank.

I want you to try something. For the next whole week, forget about sex. Don't talk about it, don't try to initiate it. When you're horny, go and take care of yourself, but DO NOT try to turn him on or have any kind of sexual contact, banter, anything of that nature. Spend a week having a totally sex-free relationship. How he reacts to that will give you a lot of insight into his mindset, and will help you figure out if he feels pressured to have sex and can't enjoy it, whether he's just bored of it, or whether he just isn't into it at all. The fact that you're instantly switching modes will probably confuse him enough that he'll mention it, and trust me, the conversation will generally have an entirely different outcome when it starts on his terms.

I know it sounds gay, but try it. It'll give you a lot of perspective into your relationship.
This


I remember....your boyfriend would only "marry" to pothead?

Why don't you smoke weed with him?

I've been a totsean since 2001 you big boon. New account is new.

Have you tried dressing up in a sexy costume and doing a nice dance for your boyfriend?



Probably because your old account got banned. Thats what I would say.

He might be under stress, I'm like that when I am but don't really talk about it. Or could be after having so much sex with you he now wants to be a flying gay homo. Either how you need to lose the douche and migrate your ass my way.

To be fair... kittens are fucking adorable.

THIS :mad:

ripstick, i just looked at your photo in the calendar, and thought about the voracious and nasty sexual beast you seem to be as a person, and now i feel really bad that i'm not your boyfriend. he's fucking spoiled.

ripstick, i just looked at your photo in the calendar, and thought about the voracious and nasty sexual beast you seem to be as a person, and now i feel really bad that i'm not your boyfriend. he's fucking spoiled.

Imagine having sex every day, 3 times a day, for 180 days. Would you still be as keen to initiate sex 3 times a day every day on the following 180 days, or would you not be as keen as you were during the first few months?

Were you sexually molested? Did you discover porn at an early age?

Your libido will decrease with age. My husband and I used to totally fuck like rabbits for the first 3 years we were married. We would have sex 2-3 times per day every day. Then I started getting pregnant and then I had the baby and then he started working crazy hours and the years went by. Now I'm 28 and I'm happy having sex maybe 2-3 times per week. When I was younger I never would've believed it, but there it is.:P Stop worrying about it so much. Also, get a new boyfriend, because your current one is an idiot.

The problem isn't yours to solve ripstick. You may have a high sex drive, but you seem willing to settle for once or twice a day. That is reasonable considering his age.

Obviously he's dealing with issues. You could narrow it down to two likely things. Insecurity, or depression. It could be both. In situations like this, It's common that one partner becomes insecure do to falling short of keeping their partner happy. This leads to delusions that their partner is cheating. Also, pot use can cause depression, which kills your sex drive.

Either way, He's likely to self-destruct your relationship.

Imagine having sex every day, 3 times a day, for 180 days. Would you still be as keen to initiate sex 3 times a day every day on the following 180 days, or would you not be as keen as you were during the first few months?

that's a good point

i'd be willing to give it a shot for science

He could be like me. Despite how sexy my girlfriend is, I don't have much of a sex drive...a biological thing, I suppose. The whole point of my sleeping with my SO's, the majority of the time anyway...is to get them off as many times as humanly possible, thus assuring some peace of mind that she's not getting it elsewhere. Chances are that he does not want to discuss it because he does not want to face the possibility that you're either getting some elsewhere, or that you're willing to.

I remember reading a post by you about his father's childish temper, and the overall stressful living conditions that the two of you endure. I wouldn't be surprised if he were depressed. Depression often affects libido.

ripstick, i just looked at your photo in the calendar, and thought about the voracious and nasty sexual beast you seem to be as a person, and now i feel really bad that i'm not your boyfriend. he's fucking spoiled.



Your not alone :)

As most of you are aware I like sex. I'd probably choose sex over eating. If I had it my way my boyfriend and I would never leave the bedroom. But there is a slight snag in my sex life. My boyfriend.

You know how married women just lose interest in sex after a while? That's how he is. We used to be all over each other. Sex was 3, 5, 7 times a day. We'd jump each other in public, or race home to do the nasty. We would try new things/places all the time. Even when friends were over we couldn't keep our hands to ourselves. It was bliss and I loved it.

But now, his libido is becoming less and less. I've tried to compromise. We were having sex once a day, which may be alot to some but not for me. I tried to work with his libido and not complain. I tried to make that one sex session a day special, last longer, feel better. He seemed content. But it keeps going downhill. Now it's maybe once every two days, sometimes he doesn't even try to get me off anymore. I'll be so horny that I'm a mess. He'll give me a kiss and I'll tell him I'm horny and he just replies 'I know' and does nothing. Most days I masterbate as soon as he leaves the house.

Those of you that are going to flame me for complaining about ONLY having sex once every two days, you don't understand my sex drive. I can't control it. And I get all jittery and clumsy if I dont get off for a while. It's like sex is my crack. And my boyfriend is not dealing. I've tried to talk to him about it. Even just this morning.

Me "Our sex life is really going downhill."

Ty "Yeah I know."

Me "I've compromised alot. I've stopped asking for it all the time and jumping you when you dont want it, but I'm going crazy. You know how I am."

Ty "Uh huh..." and nothing...

We have alot of things going against us right now that make it harder. We work opposite shifts, we live with his parents, Ty has high blood pressure so sex leaves him breathless and he gets over heated easily. Am I just being a bitch for not understanding? Is he the one not being understanding? He knew how I was from day one. I feel it's a little unfair to ignore my needs so much. I'm actually unhappy about this. But I'm biased. Tell me what you think totse.

are you my fucking girl. yes you are a terrible person for not understanding. you should eat shit and die for putting you man through such shit. i can't speak for him, but i for one will do everything for my girl. go down on her, finger her, whatever she wants but she is only satisfied by sex. i fucking hate it and she has absolutely no respect for it. i buy her toys and all kinds of shit. i get no respect and she makes me want to leave her we have been together for years but it really has to stop. your boy is going to leave you or turn into a crazed deranged serial killer who cuts out females ovaries and strangles them with their own tubes, wait where am i......

Thanks for everyone's input, except the guy talking about serial killers that cut out ovaries...

We're working it out, we are very happy together, and we are finding a solution that will fit both of our needs.

Thanks for everyone's input, except the guy talking about serial killers that cut out ovaries...

We're working it out, we are very happy together, and we are finding a solution that will fit both of our needs.

A dildo for you and a fleshlight for him?

A dildo for you and a fleshlight for him?

His problem is a small libido... why would he need a fleshlight?

His problem is a small libido... why would he need a fleshlight?

Because the advertisements are so enticing.

Because the advertisements are so enticing.

no fleshlight can match my pussy... it just can't be done.

My boyfriend gets sex ANYTIME he wants. It's me that doesn't get enough sex. He never has to resort to his hand. Except lately... but we're taking a break from sex... you know the story.

I'm but no fleshlight can match my pussy... it just can't be done.

My boyfriend gets sex ANYTIME he wants. It's me that doesn't get enough sex. He never has to resort to his hand. Except lately... but we're taking a break from sex... you know the story.

Yes I do know the story. I was just screwing around because I'm half-pissed that my New Year's went to waste. Geez this is a bit like an IM conversation.

First of all, yes I am a sex addict. I'll be the first to admit that lol.

And I have tried to talk to him. It's like pulling teeth.

And I've been told before about sex with only one girl gets boring. And that I shouldn't have gave him all the goods right away. But let me ask you this... I try so hard to make it interesting and fun. I make sure we're not always doing the same things. That we're not always in the same location. I open myself to his fatasies, I oblige to anything he wants. I get ideas from everywhere and put them into practice. Our sex is rarely ever the same. Sometimes I work my hardest to get him off in under 5 minutes. Other times I tease him and make him wait for it. I use props and outfits. I do roleplaying. I take on different personalities to keep it interesting. How an sex like that get boring?

Last night we we're upstairs watching tv and I spent an hr playing with him and teasing him and gave him a blowjob even though his parents were in the next room. He enjoyed it but I still had to push him to touch me. Then we went downstairs to have sex and he started playing with the kitten. Is he just not interested anymore?

I don't have internet where I live, so it's taken a while for me to get around to replying. Also, I didn't read most of the thread.

Basically, he's bored with you. It's no fun anymore because you take all the work out. I'll use an analogy. It's like having a badass video game. You play it a lot, all the time for a while because it's new. After a while you've figured out all the stuff there is to do in the game, so it gets boring.

You're making it no fun because you're trying to get him to fuck you when he isn't into it. That's bad. Despite what all the kidiots here will say, sex all the time gets fucking boring. Yeah it's badass for a few months, but it's time-consuming and after a while will get boring for most people, so they'll want less of it. If it's too easy, it will not feel earned, so it will get boring.

Plus, you're living with his parents. He probably doesn't want to fuck when they're around or whatever, so that might be another reason. Yeah a lot of guys would enjoy fucking you and whatnot. That's really not the issue. You need to figure out how to bring balance to your sex life in order to stay with this guy, or find a guy who suits you better.

Again, I will reiterate my point because most people on totse fail to listen to me because, I think, they don't know how to read properly.

You have two options:
1. You need balance and moderation if you want to keep this guy, because obviously fucking 5x a day isn't what he wants.

2. Ditch this guy and find one who does want to do all kinds of shit and fuck 8x a day.

So you see, the choices are very simple. These are the only options you have because they are things YOU can do. You cannot change him or make him do anything. You can only control yourself. So, make your choice.

Ripstick did you used to be apocalipstick? Also isn't it funny how the chicks who have the huge libido's are with guys who are complete sissies? Me personally I can never find a girl who can keep up with me. Once a day? twice a day? I take my sex like my meals. Shame really.

Find a new guy.

Ripstick did you used to be apocalipstick? Also isn't it funny how the chicks who have the huge libido's are with guys who are complete sissies? Me personally I can never find a girl who can keep up with me. Once a day? twice a day? I take my sex like my meals. Shame really.

Find a new guy.

No I have always been ripstick.

So how many days has it been?

I don't have internet where I live, so it's taken a while for me to get around to replying. Also, I didn't read most of the thread.

Basically, he's bored with you. It's no fun anymore because you take all the work out. I'll use an analogy. It's like having a badass video game. You play it a lot, all the time for a while because it's new. After a while you've figured out all the stuff there is to do in the game, so it gets boring.

You're making it no fun because you're trying to get him to fuck you when he isn't into it. That's bad. Despite what all the kidiots here will say, sex all the time gets fucking boring. Yeah it's badass for a few months, but it's time-consuming and after a while will get boring for most people, so they'll want less of it. If it's too easy, it will not feel earned, so it will get boring.

Plus, you're living with his parents. He probably doesn't want to fuck when they're around or whatever, so that might be another reason. Yeah a lot of guys would enjoy fucking you and whatnot. That's really not the issue. You need to figure out how to bring balance to your sex life in order to stay with this guy, or find a guy who suits you better.

Again, I will reiterate my point because most people on totse fail to listen to me because, I think, they don't know how to read properly.

You have two options:
1. You need balance and moderation if you want to keep this guy, because obviously fucking 5x a day isn't what he wants.

2. Ditch this guy and find one who does want to do all kinds of shit and fuck 8x a day.

So you see, the choices are very simple. These are the only options you have because they are things YOU can do. You cannot change him or make him do anything. You can only control yourself. So, make your choice.


Playing a video game dosen't compare to an orgasm. But 2+ a day is abit over the top, once or twice a day would be cool.

So how many days has it been?

By day 2 he was begging for it. He tried about 3 times to 'rape' me lol. I finally gave in 36 hrs later. And the sex was GOOD.

Playing a video game dosen't compare to an orgasm. But 2+ a day is abit over the top, once or twice a day would be cool.

Hence the analogy, acolyte. Obviously they aren't the same. Please post more than two sentences if you're going quote my somewhat lengthy and insightful post.

By day 2 he was begging for it. He tried about 3 times to 'rape' me lol. I finally gave in 36 hrs later. And the sex was GOOD.

Problem solved, then? Not really. You still won't get what you want from this guy. He isn't going to bang you 5x a day, so get used to it or get a new guy.

It sounds like his normally high sex drive has been dampened by the pressure to constantly perform.

I suggest you get back to the roots of why you're together (not sex)- remind yourself of why he's such a great guy for you to be with. This way, it's both a reminder for you, and it will help him feel more confident in his relationship with you if he has any feelings of inadequacy (which, not to offend, is likely).

Return to the beginning and it shall follow.

It sounds like his normally high sex drive has been dampened by the pressure to constantly perform.

I suggest you get back to the roots of why you're together (not sex)- remind yourself of why he's such a great guy for you to be with. This way, it's both a reminder for you, and it will help him feel more confident in his relationship with you if he has any feelings of inadequacy (which, not to offend, is likely).

Return to the beginning and it shall follow.

Also, letting your sex drive build up for a few days is not going to hurt you - as long as you don't go without sex to the point of you becoming really irritable, the sex that you will have after a few days of abstinence will actually be more passionate and exciting, which can really reignite your relationship

It sounds like his normally high sex drive has been dampened by the pressure to constantly perform.

I suggest you get back to the roots of why you're together (not sex)- remind yourself of why he's such a great guy for you to be with. This way, it's both a reminder for you, and it will help him feel more confident in his relationship with you if he has any feelings of inadequacy (which, not to offend, is likely).

Return to the beginning and it shall follow.

Also, letting your sex drive build up for a few days is not going to hurt you - as long as you don't go without sex to the point of you becoming really irritable, the sex that you will have after a few days of abstinence will actually be more passionate and exciting, which can really reignite your relationship