I'm in the first relationship I've ever been in where me and my SO got in serious fights. As in screaming and yelling and crying, there hasn't been any physical fighting, yet.

I really don't know how to deal with this. Two of my like, best friends are dating and they fight like dogs, and it's always him yelling and her crying. Looking in from the outside, he seems like a dick and I always feel bad for her.

But now, I'm the one yelling and she's the one crying but it seems justified. First of all, a RARELY get worked up about ANYTHING. Few people have seen me yell, so when I do it's when I'm really pissed off. And she cries about fucking everything. One time she left her wallet in her friends car and her friend said she'd bring it back to her, and she cried anyways despite there being no problem.

The past two weekends in a row we've got into two major fights and both times it's been pretty much her fault because she gets so worked up about everything. I obviously hate fighting but she turns every small little issue and blows it out of proportion.

I guess I'm just trying to find ways to deal with this shit. Have you ever been in a relationship like this? Were the fights usually the same (the same person yelling the other person crying)? What sort of things did you argue about? Did they ever end up violent?

Fuck, this has just been pissing me off lately. And my friends don't like seeing me raging all the time, seeing as they've never seen me get so angry in the past.

And keep in mind, when we don't fight we always have a great time. But once we start fighting it lasts for several hours until we're good again.

EDIT: Sorry for all the super long posts, but I'd really appreciate some help or advice before I have to spend almost a week with her. Anything will do. Even just tell some of your own personal stories.

Maybe she is selfless and seeing you mad at her makes her feel empty where as you could be a selfish person, so you yell until you get your way. Sounds like you two are attracted to each other, but is it worth it in the long run? Just figure out if this chick is smart and worth something otherwise just have as much fun with her as possible and dont get worked up if she bitches about the small things just ignore her or agree with her and see what happens. She might be testing you, she might be crazy.....

It could be a lot of things but I need more details about the fights.


edit: it sounds like you are about to choke a bitch. Maybe you should do some yoga or kick boxing or just beat her and tell her you will kill her if she tells anyone.
(thats what the good wife beaters do)

I seriously cannot see why, based on this and what you've said about her in the past, you'd still want to be with her.

But anyway, how do the fights start? Do you yell at her and call her a pussy if she cries? :confused:

I'm in the first relationship I've ever been in where me and my SO got in serious fights. As in screaming and yelling and crying, there hasn't been any physical fighting, yet.



Thats a definite plus, don't go down that road no matter what that leads into horrible legal trouble.


I really don't know how to deal with this. Two of my like, best friends are dating and they fight like dogs, and it's always him yelling and her crying. Looking in from the outside, he seems like a dick and I always feel bad for her.

But now, I'm the one yelling and she's the one crying but it seems justified. First of all, a RARELY get worked up about ANYTHING. Few people have seen me yell, so when I do it's when I'm really pissed off. And she cries about fucking everything. One time she left her wallet in her friends car and her friend said she'd bring it back to her, and she cried anyways despite there being no problem.



Females dude, its the fucking estrogen they cry over any and everything I don't even know why myself, you just have to try and calm them down enough to let them know its alright and not a big deal. Again estrogen.



The past two weekends in a row we've got into two major fights and both times it's been pretty much her fault because she gets so worked up about everything. I obviously hate fighting but she turns every small little issue and blows it out of proportion.


Definitely could be opening up a bigger problem down the road, this could be a sign take it with a grain of salt, although not too small of a pinch.



I guess I'm just trying to find ways to deal with this shit. Have you ever been in a relationship like this? Were the fights usually the same (the same person yelling the other person crying)? What sort of things did you argue about? Did they ever end up violent?

Fuck, this has just been pissing me off lately. And my friends don't like seeing me raging all the time, seeing as they've never seen me get so angry in the past.

And keep in mind, when we don't fight we always have a great time. But once we start fighting it lasts for several hours until we're good again.




Sounds like you need to take a break from each other, although doesn't have to be so open and blunt more subtle like "can't hang out I'm busy" kind of break. Try distancing yourself subtley for a week and see if there are any changes. If no changes are made try two. After two if things are still the same you may have to settle down and actually discuss your relationship issues in the open one on one.

Maybe she is selfless and seeing you mad at her makes her feel empty where as you could be a selfish person, so you yell until you get your way. Sounds like you two are attracted to each other, but is it worth it in the long run? Just figure out if this chick is smart and worth something otherwise just have as much fun with her as possible and dont get worked up if she bitches about the small things just ignore her or agree with her and see what happens. She might be testing you, she might be crazy.....

It could be a lot of things but I need more details about the fights.

Every single person I have talked to about her has said she's fucking nuts. I really do ignore a lot of things, like her blatant racism and generally cocky manner. But generally she starts the fights and then I start yelling and she starts to cry. And it doesn't help that people crying really pisses me off, I know that sounds insensitive as hell but I can't help it. It just makes the situation worse, that's definitely something I need to work on.

I'll give you a briefing on what happened last weekend, this was the biggest fight we've ever been in, it lasted hours and kept escalating.

So me, her and my friend were sitting, drinking casually and had no real plans for the evening. My friend casually suggested I help her dye her hair later (she just wanted the tips done, would have taken ten minutes) and seeing as I love to dye hair I happily agreed. Hearing this, my girlfriend starts yelling and whining, like a child. "NOOOO you guys are fucking RETARDED don't do that I'll be fucking bored what the fuck am I supposed to do fuck I don't wanna fucking sit here by myself NOOOOOOO" and so on.

I inform her that it will only take ten mintues to put in the hair dye then we'll be back up to hang out. In fact she could help if she wanted. No, she didn't want to help. So I'm like "Well fuck, you can sit on the computer for ten minutes, put on music and drink, go for a smoke, put on some Kenny vs Spenny" and she wont hear any of it, her only response is to whine "noo" after everything I say.

So I'm getting pissed off, I mean I wanna go do something with my friend for ten minutes, I understand that she'll be bored but she's fucking 20, she can learn to entertain herself for ten mintues.

As we start yelling back and forth, my friend is getting so uncomfortable, which totally isn't cool. She starts getting upset and apologising, when she did nothing wrong, and that makes me even madder at the gf.

So then she starts doing what she does in every fight, "Fine, do it I don't even care" so I was like "Okay great I will" and she starts scoffing and shit, obviously she does care. But I'm really fucking stubborn, so I keep my stance.

Wow this is getting long.

One thing you should know about me is when I'm mad, and you try and touch me, I wanna punch you. I have explained this to her countless times, and she still finds it nessisary to try and hug/kiss/stroke me while we fight. When I tell her, really fucking nicely to just back of for awhile she starts to cry and starts yelling "OHMYGAWD my own girlfriend doesn't even want to touch me!"

tl;drOkay, the fight I was describing wasn't even near over, but whatever. The point is I'm extreamly subborn and she doesn't listen to a word I say and she's really dependant. halp

Females dude, its the fucking estrogen they cry over any and everything I don't even know why myself, you just have to try and calm them down enough to let them know its alright and not a big deal. Again estrogen.

I'm a girl too and I don't seem to have this problem.

take it with a grain of salt, although not too small of a pinch.
I don't know what that expression means.



Sounds like you need to take a break from each other, although doesn't have to be so open and blunt more subtle like "can't hang out I'm busy" kind of break. Try distancing yourself subtley for a week and see if there are any changes. If no changes are made try two. After two if things are still the same you may have to settle down and actually discuss your relationship issues in the open one on one.

We only see eachother on weekends in the first place, we live about 40 minutes away from eachother. We have only ever seen eachother for two days at a time, for the first time ever, starting tomorrow, we're gonna be spending a whole five days inseperable. That's why I posted this thread, I need to be able to deal with the fighting without breaking up with her.

Well, you remind me of my aunt and uncle......the aunt is just like you and the uncle sounds like your gf.

Anyways my advice is drop her like a bad habbit and I don't mean punch her lol.


You want someone to make you happy, if she isn't making you happy and isn't kind with your heart she is not the girl for you.

Just so you know my aunt is not very happy and when she fights with the uncle she really gets pissed and he just provokes her until she loses it. I don't want to see you lose it and make a mistake and get yourself in some kind of assault or battery charge.

Your girl also sounds like the clingy type and you sound like the more independent type....maybe you should find another person who is comfortable with being alone and not so damn needy.

Well, you remind me of my aunt and uncle......the aunt is just like you and the uncle sounds like your gf.

Anyways my advice is drop her like a bad habbit and I don't mean punch her lol.


You want someone to make you happy, if she isn't making you happy and isn't kind with your heart she is not the girl for you.

Just so you know my aunt is not very happy and when she fights with the uncle she really gets pissed and he just provokes her until she loses it. I don't want to see you lose it and make a mistake and get yourself in some kind of assault or battery charge.

Your girl also sounds like the clingy type and you sound like the more independent type....maybe you should find another person who is comfortable with being alone and not so damn needy.

I was afraid this is what I was gonna hear. The thought has been lingering in the back of my mind since the first fights, but fuck. I guess I'll see how the following week goes. Break up with her or not there will be a huge fight.

I was afraid this is what I was gonna hear. The thought has been lingering in the back of my mind since the first fights, but fuck. I guess I'll see how the following week goes. Break up with her or not there will be a huge fight.

Jello wrestling ftw?

Maybe you should tell her you have a fantasy where you control everything and she is your slave.....just control her until you no longer have her in your presence then break up with her.. Ultimate win.

Is she at least good at oral?

she sounds like a child

There's nothing funny about beating your wife

















LOL

It doesn't sound like she's changing any time soon, so it's time to weigh up the goods and bads.


(PRO TIP: the bads will eventually prevail, have fun while you can)

From the few times I've talked to you on msn I have trouble comprehending you've stayed with her this long. She sounds like a right little shit, and you said she's 20!?
If it doesn't end now it'll end later with a lot of unnecessary pain in between.

Just man up and get ride of her asap no need for all the endless bitching and arguing ive been with my girl for 6mnths and for 4 of those moonths shes been prego and we havnt got into any fights we just sit down and talk about whats on outr minds instead of yelling it gets more done that way instead of us yelling try it

I'm in the first relationship I've ever been in where me and my SO got in serious fights. As in screaming and yelling and crying, there hasn't been any physical fighting, yet.

I really don't know how to deal with this. Two of my like, best friends are dating and they fight like dogs, and it's always him yelling and her crying. Looking in from the outside, he seems like a dick and I always feel bad for her.

But now, I'm the one yelling and she's the one crying but it seems justified. First of all, a RARELY get worked up about ANYTHING. Few people have seen me yell, so when I do it's when I'm really pissed off. And she cries about fucking everything. One time she left her wallet in her friends car and her friend said she'd bring it back to her, and she cried anyways despite there being no problem.



Maybe she's depressed?

Just man up

It's funny 'cuz xxombie is a girl. :)

ive been with my girl for 6mnths and for 4 of those moonths shes been prego

fail.

Maybe she's depressed?

Or maybe she's just a huge spoiled brat.

I'm breaking up with her this week, hopefully. I have a feeling there's gonna be a lot of her begging and crying. I'm going to have an awesome New Years with her, then break it off.

Thanks for all the advice, I'll be back with an update in a few days.

If I could gather up the damage that I rendered in my life.Place it on a scale and weigh against the damage done that night.Then it'd be safe to say the weight of all I did and didn't do. Would surely float against the lightest straw I ever did to you.

Or maybe she's just a huge spoiled brat.

I'm breaking up with her this week, hopefully. I have a feeling there's gonna be a lot of her begging and crying. I'm going to have an awesome New Years with her, then break it off.

Thanks for all the advice, I'll be back with an update in a few days.

Woah.

Did totse influence your decision to break up with her?

Woah.

Did totse influence your decision to break up with her?

Yeah, actually. I was also talking to a friend while I was talking to totse and she agreed entirely. But totse made me realize there's no point in dating someone if you're not having fun.

I'm a girl too and I don't seem to have this problem.


I don't know what that expression means.





We only see eachother on weekends in the first place, we live about 40 minutes away from eachother. We have only ever seen eachother for two days at a time, for the first time ever, starting tomorrow, we're gonna be spending a whole five days inseperable. That's why I posted this thread, I need to be able to deal with the fighting without breaking up with her.



Hmm so your lesbian well thats another story. Your going to always have a more sensitive one in the relationship. Sounds like your going to have to just confront her about it and ask her why she is so sensitive to everything.

Hmm so your lesbian well thats another story. Your going to always have a more sensitive one in the relationship. Sounds like your going to have to just confront her about it and ask her why she is so sensitive to everything.

Seriously though, what does that expression mean "with a grain of salt". I hear it all the time and I've never understood it.

Seriously though, what does that expression mean "with a grain of salt". I hear it all the time and I've never understood it.

"Take it with a grain of salt" means to listen to something...just keep in mind it might not be completely true. As for his little addition, I've never heard of it before and it seems kind of retarded.

So you're gonna break up with her right after a good new years? Ouch.

Eh...It's just a fight.


It happens in every relationships. Two major fights? I'd say it's perfectly normal...especially for someone whos been dating for year.


Unless you've been dating her for 2 months. Yeah sure...go break up with her.