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arquin
2009-01-03, 09:26
So today I was bored and looking back through my emails, msn logs and totse threads. I realized over the last 3-4 years I became a woman hater. Some of the first shit I saw was about how I love to kiss and cuddle and that shit. Now I just want to choke, hit, slap, bash, etc, women during sex. Not in the sexy "rough sex" way, but more in the "bitch I'll KILL YOU" way. Basically, totally and utterly degrade them. It's fucked up. I'm guessing it just takes one major event to change a person. I used to be idealistic when it came to love, now I'm very pessimistic.

Look at your changes over time. What have you noticed?

Chichi
2009-01-03, 09:29
So you're gay now?

Edit: I'm too young to have changed the way you have.

I think since you've made a few threads now about being "jaded" and stuff, you should probably see someone and get help. :confused:

arquin
2009-01-03, 09:44
...get help.

Choking women during sex seems a lot easier? :confused:

Joshuasan
2009-01-03, 09:52
i used to be a lover... i still do have some hope but i'm kinda in the same boat... i think with my brain now and not my heart... i've had most of my good happy feelings towards girls stomped out of me by a few stupid bitches... i know you can't really judge all women on a couple bad experiences but fuck there are a lot of really fucking ruthless selfish ass bitches out there.... most of them actually... who are only there to take from people and only concerned about there own gains... and then all the really good girls are all taken haha

prolly dosen't help i live in fuckin so cal in a shitty town either hah..

arquin
2009-01-03, 09:59
i used to be a lover... i still do have some hope but i'm kinda in the same boat... i think with my brain now and not my heart... i've had most of my good happy feelings towards girls stomped out of me by a few stupid bitches... i know you can't really judge all women on a couple bad experiences but fuck there are a lot of really fucking ruthless selfish ass bitches out there.... most of them actually... who are only there to take from people and only concerned about there own gains... and then all the really good girls are all taken haha

prolly dosen't help i live in fuckin so cal in a shitty town either hah..

:cool: I came to this conclusion based mostly on the TV series Survivor.

Women are amazingly calculative and manipulative. I hate the show, but occasionally I watch it and afterwards I just lose all faith in love.

I was always taught that behind every great man, there's an even greater woman. So I'm guessing behind every evil man, there's an even more evil woman?

...bitches.

Joshuasan
2009-01-03, 10:01
:cool: I came to this conclusion based mostly on the TV series Survivor.

Women are amazingly calculative and manipulative. I hate the show, but occasionally I watch it and afterwards I just lose all faith in love.

I was always taught that behind every great man, there's an even greater woman. So I'm guessing behind every evil man, there's an even more evil woman?

...bitches.

that's an interesting / smart way to learn that haha

i guess the goals not to be evil then... hmm

longshot
2009-01-03, 10:24
So today I was bored and looking back through my emails, msn logs and totse threads. I realized over the last 3-4 years I became a woman hater. Some of the first shit I saw was about how I love to kiss and cuddle and that shit.

i deleted all my logs. I can't stand reading that shit and seeing what a complete fucking idiot i was. 99% of the people i talked to then are not even in my life any more... so yeah, i've changed! i don't wanna choke bitches but i'm definately less of a pussy now.

xilikeeggs0
2009-01-03, 10:28
i deleted all my logs. I can't stand reading that shit and seeing what a complete fucking idiot i was. 99% of the people i talked to then are not even in my life any more... so yeah, i've changed!

This.

Malkog
2009-01-03, 11:09
Well all I have to go off is emails to an ex girlfriend. I haven't really changed that much in the 2 years that it's been since I wrote the emails, except maybe I learnt a little bit of grammar that I didn't know. I'm still witty and charming as ever :D

LiquidIce
2009-01-03, 11:45
We can thank feminism for all those crappy bitches. They have teh rights. So they wanna fuck us, men. And it just means they give pussy to everyone which makes 'em sluts. Animals. Gaah, I hate this.

If a man, 17 or 18 o 19 years old, is able to forsake "dude, this is the best time of your life, go out and fuck bitches" for "I love You honey", does that mean anything? Nope, because his girl is likely to do the first and be like 'duh, everyone does that'.

And yeah, I used to be an idealist and still live like an idealist but... it's not in my head anymore. I refuse to become like somebody I despise.

Elephantitis Man
2009-01-03, 12:24
I used to dream of meeting an awesome girl and having a romantic, fulfilling relationship.
Now I've accepted the fact that I'm probably going to live my life a virgin and die alone.

Bad_Intentions
2009-01-03, 12:24
I hate my friends, I've actually fallen in love and I've just grown up from being a fuckhead kid. I've changed but i think for the better.

Chichi
2009-01-03, 12:24
Silverfuck isn't a bitch. :confused:

longshot
2009-01-03, 13:36
Silverfuck isn't a bitch. :confused:

that's because she's not human.

Dichromate
2009-01-03, 13:38
I'm going to laugh so hard in 10 years once the current crop of 20-30 something women in western countries realize that they're going to die alone because the men their age want nothing to do with them beyond a fuck.
Why would you marry a western woman now?
women in western countries are narcissistic gold digging bitches with the ability to legally take you for all you have should you be dumb enough to marry them.
They aren't loyal, they aren't faithful, they aren't homemakers, they aren't companions. All they have to offer is a warm wet hole, and since plenty are giving it away - why bother?

Nice one ladies, you broke society.

(on a side note, the most hilarious thing is to see how western women get by in Asian countries like Singapore - when they're there for a job or something. They HATE it. With an alternative (local women), white guys don't even bother with them and Asian guys aren't interested either.)

stripped
2009-01-03, 14:08
I guess I started off the opposite way. At first I was very cautious when it came to love, withdrawaling myself to a certain extent to avoid getting hurt. But over the years I've realized that it's selfish and unfair to your partner to not put everything you have into a relationship...and now I am much more at ease being vulnerable in his hands.

Cowboy of the Apocalypse
2009-01-03, 14:59
http://www.farisqc.observationdeck.org/farisqc_images/hilali.jpg

Sheik Al Hilali approves of this thread.

Dichromate
2009-01-03, 16:17
http://www.farisqc.observationdeck.org/farisqc_images/hilali.jpg

Sheik Al Hilali approves of this thread.

Ahhh Muslims are good for something after all I guess.
Haha! they don't even let women drive in Saudi Arabia.
I can't help but think that this is a fairly good idea given my own experience of sharing the road with female drivers. :p

dark-easterbunny
2009-01-03, 16:48
i used to be... the sweetest boy ever. Then shit happend and i got bitter. Never trusted a woman from that point. Till i met a certain girl, who i had a brilliant relationship with for four years. She was the first again to gain my trust. She broke it horribly though, was a mess to the point of suicidal for half a year.

Now 3 years later, and 1 gf (8 months, broke up yesterday) i feel.... relaxed towards women. I don't hate 'm, blame 'm for anything but being human. Somehow, during getting over the ex what bitterniss was left disappeared. I had a lot of time to think why people would do things.
Somehow i nowadays have peace with the shit females do, cause i understand why they do it (doesn't mean i always appreciate it and don't have to be mean to them now and then)


There's hope arquin. Just realise, most of the time, they have their reasons too..... just as good as yours for the things you did wrong

Fanglekai
2009-01-03, 22:13
I'm going to laugh so hard in 10 years once the current crop of 20-30 something women in western countries realize that they're going to die alone because the men their age want nothing to do with them beyond a fuck.
Why would you marry a western woman now?
women in western countries are narcissistic gold digging bitches with the ability to legally take you for all you have should you be dumb enough to marry them.
They aren't loyal, they aren't faithful, they aren't homemakers, they aren't companions. All they have to offer is a warm wet hole, and since plenty are giving it away - why bother?

Nice one ladies, you broke society.

(on a side note, the most hilarious thing is to see how western women get by in Asian countries like Singapore - when they're there for a job or something. They HATE it. With an alternative (local women), white guys don't even bother with them and Asian guys aren't interested either.)

Someone has been reading http://nomarriage.com/ !!

Silverfuck
2009-01-03, 22:53
Oh boo fucking hoo all of you. Misogyny is the last resort of people who can't face the real reasons for their problems. There are shit, shallow, useless, vile people of both genders, from every walk of life. Hating women is not going to make your life any better.

And in my experiences, you get what you put out. Useless people are drawn to useless people. There is quality out there, but everyone feels entitled. The fact that you exists doesn't warrant that the world bend to the way you want it and every member of the opposite sex is exactly what you want them to be.

Fanglekai
2009-01-03, 23:04
Oh boo fucking hoo all of you. Misogyny is the last resort of people who can't face the real reasons for their problems. There are shit, shallow, useless, vile people of both genders, from every walk of life. Hating women is not going to make your life any better.

And in my experiences, you get what you put out. Useless people are drawn to useless people. There is quality out there, but everyone feels entitled. The fact that you exists doesn't warrant that the world bend to the way you want it and every member of the opposite sex is exactly what you want them to be.

Unless the real reason for their problems is in fact women, in which case they are facing the real reason: women. Just as believing in a god can make your life better because you have something to latch onto, so too misogyny can fill a void for people.

You're very idealistic, silverfuck. You're assuming that if people are good they will be rewarded as such. Sorry, the world doesn't work that way. Most of the misogyny I see on here isn't guys wanting every girl to desire them, they want one here and there. Of course, there's no reason women should have to want them. If they aren't people worth caring about, then there's no reason for girls to want them.

Instead of immediately attacking the idea, explore it for a while and see what you come up with. Try to understand the why behind it, rather than dismissing it as completely stupid. I think it is stupid, yes, but I try to see why people think the way they do. Then it becomes a learning experience.

Everyone changes over time, so it's natural to look back 3-4 years and see how completely different you were at that point in time. It's comparing how you were when you started high school and when you finished, or you when you started college and when you finished. There's a world of difference that can occur in the space of 4 years. I've seen myself change a lot, from how I type to the way I think. I don't like going through old conversation logs or old emails. It brings up too many memories I'd rather not think about.

Silverfuck
2009-01-03, 23:08
I'm not debating any of that. I'm just saying that maybe a woman may be the cause of your problems, but women are not. All females are not callous, cold, calculative bitches out to get your money and stomp on your heart for the lulz, and adopting that view point is no more than a defense mechanism and a scapegoat.

ThePhoenix
2009-01-03, 23:22
Oh boo fucking hoo all of you. Misogyny is the last resort of people who can't face the real reasons for their problems. There are shit, shallow, useless, vile people of both genders, from every walk of life. Hating women is not going to make your life any better.

And in my experiences, you get what you put out. Useless people are drawn to useless people. There is quality out there, but everyone feels entitled. The fact that you exists doesn't warrant that the world bend to the way you want it and every member of the opposite sex is exactly what you want them to be.

Seriously. It's really sad that guys here just piss their lives away because of this mindset.

Dichromate
2009-01-04, 23:27
Someone has been reading http://nomarriage.com/ !!

Nah, I haven't actually. Someone linked me to the 'eternal bachelor' blogspot a little while ago though.

Fanglekai
2009-01-05, 04:18
I'm not debating any of that. I'm just saying that maybe a woman may be the cause of your problems, but women are not. All females are not callous, cold, calculative bitches out to get your money and stomp on your heart for the lulz, and adopting that view point is no more than a defense mechanism and a scapegoat.

You're right, but it brings them comfort and helps them sleep at night.

Fanglekai
2009-01-05, 04:20
Nah, I haven't actually. Someone linked me to the 'eternal bachelor' blogspot a little while ago though.

Ah, it sounded just like the stuff I read on nomarriage.com. It was good for a few laughs, and oddly enough had some good advice.

Euda
2009-01-05, 16:50
People say I'm "classier" now. I guess I'm not as bare balls about things as once upon a time. I stopped and realized that not everybody appreciates frank and upfront discussion.

BlackSails
2009-01-05, 19:27
Yeah, the last 2-3 years have changed me a lot. I used to be a romantic, an idealist, have faith in shit.

Then love came along and I realized what a huge fucking asshole I was. I had a fucking awesome girl, the sweetest thing in the world, truly. I broke it off cos I wasn't sure if I was in love and because, I thought I might want to fuck other chicks.
This girl loved me so incredibly much, over a year after I'd broke up with her, she was madly in love with me. But she was very... Nagging. Which I can't blame her for, the person she loved with all of her heart was being an asshole to her. We always kept in touch, hung out at times, I helped her with school stuff, tried to comfort her, talk her out of suicide. I asked her to move on, because she deserved better. Someone out there was gonna be the boyfriend she deserved.
The sad thing though, is... She did exactly that, found a guy she'd mess around with. She then contacted me less and less, I finally got a chance to breathe and I started missing her. So I called her and we'd hang out, watch movies and... End up making out, fooling around. And then one time she says that if I ever hear something about her fooling around with this one guy, it's bullshit. Long story shot, that was a lie. She lied and lied and lied about this guy, while I was getting feelings for her again.

Then I found out the truth... But decided to forgive her, given the circumstances. But she kept lying about stuff, like about having this guy on MSN and yadayada. Not a huge big deal per se, but the fact that she kept me around but couldn't fucking delete him off her contact list was lame.

So yeah, short version is... I thought there were 2 good people in the world, me and my girlfriend. Then I find out that I'm a piece of shit. But my ex somehow still gives me hope that there are good people in the world. But she killed that hope by being an ass.

Today... I have absolutely nothing to live for. I have no hope whatsoever of finding real love, because I don't fucking believe in it. I believe that it can exist, for a couple of years, but what it turns into after that... Is so disgusting.

Sorry if this was an annoying post, I needed to get that off of my chest.

xilikeeggs0
2009-01-05, 19:41
Yeah, the last 2-3 years have changed me a lot. I used to be a romantic, an idealist, have faith in shit.

Then love came along and I realized what a huge fucking asshole I was. I had a fucking awesome girl, the sweetest thing in the world, truly. I broke it off cos I wasn't sure if I was in love and because, I thought I might want to fuck other chicks.
This girl loved me so incredibly much, over a year after I'd broke up with her, she was madly in love with me. But she was very... Nagging. Which I can't blame her for, the person she loved with all of her heart was being an asshole to her. We always kept in touch, hung out at times, I helped her with school stuff, tried to comfort her, talk her out of suicide. I asked her to move on, because she deserved better. Someone out there was gonna be the boyfriend she deserved.
The sad thing though, is... She did exactly that, found a guy she'd mess around with. She then contacted me less and less, I finally got a chance to breathe and I started missing her. So I called her and we'd hang out, watch movies and... End up making out, fooling around. And then one time she says that if I ever hear something about her fooling around with this one guy, it's bullshit. Long story shot, that was a lie. She lied and lied and lied about this guy, while I was getting feelings for her again.

Then I found out the truth... But decided to forgive her, given the circumstances. But she kept lying about stuff, like about having this guy on MSN and yadayada. Not a huge big deal per se, but the fact that she kept me around but couldn't fucking delete him off her contact list was lame.

So yeah, short version is... I thought there were 2 good people in the world, me and my girlfriend. Then I find out that I'm a piece of shit. But my ex somehow still gives me hope that there are good people in the world. But she killed that hope by being an ass.

Today... I have absolutely nothing to live for. I have no hope whatsoever of finding real love, because I don't fucking believe in it. I believe that it can exist, for a couple of years, but what it turns into after that... Is so disgusting.

Sorry if this was an annoying post, I needed to get that off of my chest.

So you've given up on love because your girlfriend did to you what you did to her?

Fanglekai
2009-01-05, 21:02
So you've given up on love because your girlfriend did to you what you did to her?

Isn't it great?

BlackSails
2009-01-05, 23:19
So you've given up on love because your girlfriend did to you what you did to her?

Yeap, how about that :(

Fuck
2009-01-06, 03:12
I'm utterly more convinced by the day people get into relationships because they absolutely do not know how to be happy alone, because that kind of happiness, by it's very nature, cannot be taught or imitated, only learned... and because it's not as quick as getting your dick sucked, it takes time and effort, and discipline to find a meaningful life without another person.

Nobody wants to be the odd guy out.

I think it's pitiful.

BlackSails
2009-01-06, 03:34
I'm utterly more convinced by the day people get into relationships because they absolutely do not know how to be happy alone, because that kind of happiness, by it's very nature, cannot be taught or imitated, only learned... and because it's not as quick as getting your dick sucked, it takes time and effort, and discipline to find a meaningful life without another person.

Nobody wants to be the odd guy out.

I think it's pitiful.

I really don't understand. How can you properly enjoy life, without sharing it with someone? Can you give an example of how one is happy alone?

Don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed the single life but... Wouldn't wanna be single all my life, there's too many pleasures to be had with a good partner.

Silverfuck
2009-01-06, 03:58
^That's the point. True happiness comes from within. You cannot learn to be happy and to coexist with someone else if you can't be happy with yourself.

BlackSails
2009-01-06, 04:20
^That's the point. True happiness comes from within. You cannot learn to be happy and to coexist with someone else if you can't be happy with yourself.

I know that's the point, but I'm looking for some insight here. What exactly is this joy within? Is it just, feeling okay when single? Like when I was living the good single life, playing music, hanging with friends, partying? You mean being comfortable with that and not looking for a partner all the time? Or some deeper shit, like finding some balance with the universe through meditation or what?

I think I just answered my own question. It's just being happy single, right?

arquin
2009-01-06, 04:35
I think I just answered my own question. It's just being happy single, right?

Yeah. Every one will have a different path, but in the end the result is the same: You're blissfully happy on your own. Getting a girlfriend/boyfriend would only add a new element to life. Your emotions wouldn't be tied to this person.

Silverfuck
2009-01-06, 04:38
I know that's the point, but I'm looking for some insight here. What exactly is this joy within? Is it just, feeling okay when single? Like when I was living the good single life, playing music, hanging with friends, partying? You mean being comfortable with that and not looking for a partner all the time? Or some deeper shit, like finding some balance with the universe through meditation or what?

I think I just answered my own question. It's just being happy single, right?


It's more just feeling happy about your life without feeling like you need someone to complete you and make you happy. If you feel like you need someone else to make you happy it fosters this unhealthy kind of dependence that just cannot result in a good relationship. It could mean just being happy with your life, with or without a partner, or it could mean finding some deeper spiritual truth, just so long as you can feel like you want someone in your life, not that you need them, if that makes sense at all.

edit: arquin said it much more succinctly while I was rambling :D

Nightside Eclipse
2009-01-06, 04:45
Yeah. Every one will have a different path, but in the end the result is the same: You're blissfully happy on your own. Getting a girlfriend/boyfriend would only add a new element to life. Your emotions wouldn't be tied to this person.

How could you start a non-sterile relationship without attaching sentimental value over a duration of time along by not creating a cuttable cord that can thread through two hearts in a fashion akin to possible pain reduction of future events?

I don't think those cases exist-- finding one on TOTSE would be quite new...

Silverfuck
2009-01-06, 04:55
How could you start a non-sterile relationship without attaching sentimental value over a duration of time along by not creating a cuttable cord that can thread through two hearts in a fashion akin to possible pain reduction of future events?

I don't think those cases exist-- finding one on TOTSE would be quite new...

I know you thought you sounded mad smart when you wrote that, but it really makes no sense and you just come off like an asshat.

Just so you know.

Hexadecimal
2009-01-06, 04:56
I'm utterly more convinced by the day people get into relationships because they absolutely do not know how to be happy alone, because that kind of happiness, by it's very nature, cannot be taught or imitated, only learned... and because it's not as quick as getting your dick sucked, it takes time and effort, and discipline to find a meaningful life without another person.

Nobody wants to be the odd guy out.

I think it's pitiful.

Some of us do it because we have found unwavering happiness as a single man and realize that we finally have something genuine to bring to a relationship. Up until one can enjoy life at present, they have no business involving themselves in another person's future.

arquin
2009-01-06, 04:59
I know you thought you sounded mad smart when you wrote that, but it really makes no sense and you just come off like an asshat.

Just so you know.

Thank you. I saw so much gibberish I actually questioned my own intelligence because I couldn't understand it. Kinda like "Did that just make no fucking sense because the person who wrote it was a retard or because I'm a dumbshit?"

Nightside Eclipse
2009-01-06, 05:10
I know you thought you sounded mad smart when you wrote that, but it really makes no sense and you just come off like an asshat.

Just so you know.

Seriously, I thought you of all people would get it. You're either stupider than I originally pegged you at, or you assume to much.
Go back to bed where you belong, and prostitute your stupidity to someone who wants to be dumbed down. I'm sure thats not the only expression they will be getting, loose-lips.


Thank you. I saw so much gibberish I actually questioned my own intelligence because I couldn't understand it. Kinda like "Did that just make no fucking sense because the person who wrote it was a retard or because I'm a dumbshit?"

You? Intelligence?
http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2186378

Pfft.
Please :rolleyes:
If you're the shining role of intelligence, I'd be curing cancer.

Malkog
2009-01-06, 05:16
Oh it is on now.

arquin
2009-01-06, 05:22
You? Intelligence?
Pfft.
Please :rolleyes:
If you're the shining role of intelligence, I'd be curing cancer.

How could you start a non-sterile relationship without attaching sentimental value over a duration of time along by not creating a cuttable cord that can thread through two hearts in a fashion akin to possible pain reduction of future events?

:rolleyes: I guess I'm not getting through to you because I'm not speaking in your unintelligible retardo rants.

You're not a person with active amounts of brain activity or there's the attainable option that you're so insanely clever that your intangible ravings are not that of a shit stained mildly autistic kid rather a awesome type of super intelligent being's far above and beyond the rules of basic English or understanding for words. Maybe...you're even beyond words? :eek:

Fuck off, faggot.

Nightside Eclipse
2009-01-06, 05:23
:rolleyes: I guess I'm not getting through to you because I'm not speaking in your unintelligible retardo rants.

You're not a person with active amounts of brain activity or there's the attainable option that you're so insanely clever that your intangible ravings are not that of a shit stained mildly autistic kid rather a awesome type of super intelligent being's far above and beyond the rules of basic English or understanding for words. Maybe...you're even beyond words? :eek:

Fuck off, faggot.

Lol I baited him good. I was hoping Silverfuck would respond with a huge rant telling me how I know nothing and how she's pissed off at my low comments.

But, at least you fed me for tonight. I was getting scared I wouldn't have sunk my teeth into anyone-- as you can see I was getting desperate by my previous post. :D

Yes I didn't read your post, I know its all banter. GG though my friend, GG, you fed me my troll quota.
PS: Please tell me I was lying and making it up, nothing makes my soul harmonize more.

Mr.Dave
2009-01-06, 05:25
For years ago, I was a pussy. Now I'm an asshole.

arquin
2009-01-06, 05:29
Lol I know nothing

I was getting desperate

GG

lol faggot.

Nightside Eclipse
2009-01-06, 05:32
lol faggot.

You know when someone trolls you, continuing to feed them isn't going to help you.
Don't know exactly how those words hurt you-- they are in fact only words, stop making a world of them and get over it.

Stop trying to troll me back. Its me 1, you 0.

Nah nah nah nah naaaah naaaah.

arquin
2009-01-06, 05:34
You know when someone trolls you, continuing to feed them isn't going to help you.
Don't know exactly how those words hurt you-- they are in fact only words, stop making a world of them and get over it.

Stop trying to troll me back. Its me 1, you 0.

Nah nah nah nah naaaah naaaah.

Butt the fuck out.

Who the fuck are you? This argument was between me and the other guy...what's his face...guy who can't write.

Nightside Eclipse
2009-01-06, 05:36
Butt the fuck out.

Who the fuck are you? This argument was between me and the other guy...what's his face...guy who can't write.

Me 2
You 0

OH SNAP

arquin
2009-01-06, 05:43
FLESHLIGHTS OWNED:

Me 2
You 0


...god damn loser.

Fanglekai
2009-01-06, 05:46
How could you start a non-sterile relationship without attaching sentimental value over a duration of time along by not creating a cuttable cord that can thread through two hearts in a fashion akin to possible pain reduction of future events?

I don't think those cases exist-- finding one on TOTSE would be quite new...

Cuttable isn't a even a word. :/

Silverfuck
2009-01-06, 05:53
Lol I baited him good. I was hoping Silverfuck would respond with a huge rant telling me how I know nothing and how she's pissed off at my low comments.

But, at least you fed me for tonight. I was getting scared I wouldn't have sunk my teeth into anyone-- as you can see I was getting desperate by my previous post. :D

Yes I didn't read your post, I know its all banter. GG though my friend, GG, you fed me my troll quota.
PS: Please tell me I was lying and making it up, nothing makes my soul harmonize more.

lol @ how pathetic you are.

JoePedo
2009-01-06, 08:25
I realized over the last 3-4 years I became a woman hater. Some of the first shit I saw was about how I love to kiss and cuddle and that shit. Now I just want to choke, hit, slap, bash, etc, women during sex. Not in the sexy "rough sex" way, but more in the "bitch I'll KILL YOU" way. Basically, totally and utterly degrade them.

:rolleyes: As a student of molecular neurobiology, I'm, like... so surprised.

~sigh~

The only one who can make life better for you is... you.

How could you start a non-sterile relationship without attaching sentimental value over a duration of time

Actually, a LOT of people don't obsess over anniversaries!!

Okay, okay, pardon the play on words... but...

How could you start a non-sterile relationship without attaching sentimental value over a duration of time along by not creating a cuttable cord that can thread through two hearts in a fashion akin to possible pain reduction of future events?

It's pretty simple. And probably rather important. The problem there is basically equivocation of different things - look up buddhist teachings on attachment, as well as compassion.

It's possible to have love, compassion, care, and joy without things such as attachment, need, codependency, or the externalization of one's own happiness. Positive and negative emotions are sort of definitionally seperate things - in fact, they're sort of definitionally opposite - and it helps not to entangle anything along with something it is not.

Others have done the work you ask before. Buddhist theory. Nonattachment. Equanimity. Compassion. Look it up...

Rizzo in a box
2009-01-06, 09:49
THE SORCERER
A Sorcerer by the power of his magick had subdued
all things to himself.
Would he travel? He could fly through space more
swiftly than the stars.
Would he eat, drink, and take his pleasure? there
was none that did not instantly obey his bidding.
In the whole system of ten million times ten million
spheres upon the two and twenty million planes he
had his desire.
And with all this he was but himself.
Alas!

some of us are all alone, no matter who we're with anyway so the problems of women and/or relationships are so very ephemeral...they rise and pass like a shooting star

PS: technically there's really no such thing as a positive emotion, emotions are by definition almost entirely negative, to some degree

anything that is wholly positive starts to fall into a completely and entirely different realm

BlackSails
2009-01-06, 10:51
some of us are all alone, no matter who we're with anyway so the problems of women and/or relationships are so very ephemeral...they rise and pass like a shooting star

PS: technically there's really no such thing as a positive emotion, emotions are by definition almost entirely negative, to some degree

anything that is wholly positive starts to fall into a completely and entirely different realm

I don't understand. When I see the girl I love smiling, I feel joy. How is that not a positive emotion?

Rizzo in a box
2009-01-06, 10:58
I don't understand. When I see the girl I love smiling, I feel joy. How is that not a positive emotion?

Anything positive is something that radiates and shines, anything positive is anything which is Solar in nature.

Anything which is cold, dark, and receptive/reactive in nature is lunar and negative.

Your joy is dependent upon several pre-existing conditions, and if one were to break it down you might cry at how mathematically banal your life is.

BlackSails
2009-01-06, 11:18
Anything positive is something that radiates and shines, anything positive is anything which is Solar in nature.

Anything which is cold, dark, and receptive/reactive in nature is lunar and negative.

Your joy is dependent upon several pre-existing conditions, and if one were to break it down you might cry at how mathematically banal your life is.

Yes, it makes perfect sense now.

Rizzo in a box
2009-01-06, 11:30
Yes, it makes perfect sense now.

What? Really? That's not a good sign.