View Full Version : I really need help..
The_TTG_Girl
2009-01-03, 19:24
Ok, quick and short: There's this guy that's always hitting on me, and he's really getting on my nerves, whereas I used to think he was a great friend. Now, he is becoming obnoxious, and although I already told him I am not interested, he persists with his ridiculous over-complimenting, etc..
So, I want to just get him to stop, but I can't quite bring myself to be that rude to the guy. How can I possibly tell him off to where he stops this ridiculous behavior, but to where he doesn't think I'm a total bitch and never wants to speak to me again?..
You want his cock and you know it. :mad:
delerium tremens
2009-01-03, 19:30
give him a good slap and unfriend him on myspace or whatever. Look if hes being a cunt do you really want to know him? Just cut him out of the loop, find better friends etc
thatsMYdog
2009-01-03, 20:31
My guess: A guy that was into you the whole time knows he's in the friendzone and is now trying to get out. We all know this doesn't happen too often.
You don't have to kick the guy in the nuts but you do need to be firm. If you haven't already, you need to let him know it will NEVER happen and he's wasting his time/ making you uncomfortable. If that doesn't work, stop hanging out as much to give him some time to get over it.
coastal progress
2009-01-03, 20:34
Simple. Date someone else. Once he sees that you're someone else's girl, he back off unless he wants to get his face smashed in.
Simple. Date someone else. Once he sees that you're someone else's girl, he back off unless he wants to get his face smashed in.
Yeah, start a committed relationship with someone just to deter another person from bugging you.
That's a fucking great idea.
coastal progress
2009-01-03, 20:44
Yeah, start a committed relationship with someone just to deter another person from bugging you.
That's a fucking great idea.
It's not just to deter him. Maybe she's already interested in someone else and has been putting off making a move on them. What I'm saying is that she should jump start a relationship that she wants to happen because it will solve her current problem. Also, the fact that this guy is smothering her probably makes other guys around her back off, because they think that something is happening there.
Well in that case.
Bitch, listen to coastal :mad:
WritingANovel
2009-01-03, 21:22
"I don't like you that way. Now stop hitting on me please, if you still want to be friends".
LSA King
2009-01-03, 21:23
Ok, quick and short: There's this guy that's always hitting on me, and he's really getting on my nerves, whereas I used to think he was a great friend. Now, he is becoming obnoxious, and although I already told him I am not interested, he persists with his ridiculous over-complimenting, etc..
So, I want to just get him to stop, but I can't quite bring myself to be that rude to the guy. How can I possibly tell him off to where he stops this ridiculous behavior, but to where he doesn't think I'm a total bitch and never wants to speak to me again?..
Get a court order for restraint so he can't come near you. Warn him about it if he doesn't stop.
Ok, quick and short: There's this guy that's always hitting on me, and he's really getting on my nerves, whereas I used to think he was a great friend. Now, he is becoming obnoxious, and although I already told him I am not interested, he persists with his ridiculous over-complimenting, etc..
So, I want to just get him to stop, but I can't quite bring myself to be that rude to the guy. How can I possibly tell him off to where he stops this ridiculous behavior, but to where he doesn't think I'm a total bitch and never wants to speak to me again?..
It's your own fucking fault leading him on, you fucking bitch.
"I don't like you that way. Now stop hitting on me please, if you still want to be friends".
agreed tell him you think he is a good guy blah you want to be his friend but you dont know if you can if he keeps trying to push things in a direction you do not want to go..you do not seem him that way *be firm too* and tell him he needs to learn to control his emotions or you guys can not be friends anymore period.
Kaijec Torsf
2009-01-03, 22:58
it's your own fucking fault leading him on, you fucking bitch.
lol!!!... Got ém!
The_TTG_Girl
2009-01-04, 03:16
It's your own fucking fault leading him on, you fucking bitch.
If you read what you yourself quoted in your post a bit more carefully, you would notice that I have already told the guy that I'm not interested. :)
Just talk to him like a normal person, he is your friend isn't he?
The Rudeboy
2009-01-04, 03:42
"I hate you and you are bothering me beyond all imagination!"
or
"Do you think that over complementing me is somehow going to make me fall madly in love with you?"
or
"Man people that try to show affection by complementing people are such pathetic bitches."
or
"That one creepy guy keeps bothering me, but at least he isn't constantly telling me complements you know? Man, I am soo glad he isn't doing that."
or
"You know, I'm not interested in you like that and your constant attempts to show me that you want a relationship are doomed to fail."
or
"Man I hate guys that over compliment people don't you?"
If you read what you yourself quoted in your post a bit more carefully, you would notice that I have already told the guy that I'm not interested. :)
Could you perhaps tell us exactly how you told him you're not interested?
I was in this type of situation as well, except I was the guy who wouldn't leave the girl alone.
Best thing to do is just flat out ignore him. Don't give him any sort of attention.
Mötleÿ Crüe
2009-01-04, 05:18
Hand him an oversized prize check that reads "CONGRATULATIONS, YOU HAVE WON MY HUMBLE REJECTION! IF YOU HIT ON ME AGAIN I'LL HIT ON YOU, BITCH!
The_TTG_Girl
2009-01-04, 23:50
Could you perhaps tell us exactly how you told him you're not interested?
I gave him a sort of half-smile, and said something like: I really don't like you that way at all, Brandon. It was very short, but very to the point.
Should I have said that differently?... I think I was quite clear and concise.
I gave him a sort of half-smile, and said something like: I really don't like you that way at all, Brandon. It was very short, but very to the point.
Aha. So now we know his name.
He's fucked now. :cool:
I gave him a sort of half-smile, and said something like: I really don't like you that way at all, Brandon. It was very short, but very to the point.
Should I have said that differently?... I think I was quite clear and concise.
Perhaps in the future, cut out the half smile -and drop the "at all". But unless he's a real jerk off that should of gotten the point across. Just stop answering him.
The Rudeboy
2009-01-05, 04:41
I gave him a sort of half-smile, and said something like: I really don't like you that way at all, Brandon. It was very short, but very to the point.
Should I have said that differently?... I think I was quite clear and concise.
See, it is the show of emotion, the smile that causes the problem. Show unhappiness, or annoyance.
wallstreetshuffle
2009-01-05, 07:45
If you wanted to stop it that bad, you would have cut his tongue out, that would shut that bitch the fuck up.:mad:
Hexadecimal
2009-01-05, 08:54
Ok, quick and short: There's this guy that's always hitting on me, and he's really getting on my nerves, whereas I used to think he was a great friend. Now, he is becoming obnoxious, and although I already told him I am not interested, he persists with his ridiculous over-complimenting, etc..
So, I want to just get him to stop, but I can't quite bring myself to be that rude to the guy. How can I possibly tell him off to where he stops this ridiculous behavior, but to where he doesn't think I'm a total bitch and never wants to speak to me again?..
Talk to him and be completely honest with him. There is nothing wrong with telling someone that what they're doing is making you uncomfortable, or is irritating. It's also okay to request of someone that they not do something to you.
Trying to do one particular thing that somehow causes his behavior to change without there being any understanding or agreement between the two of you is simply an act of manipulation.
However, there do exist individuals with whom agreements and understandings are simply not possible: these are the narcissist, the sociopath, the psychopath, the stalker, the obsessive, and the borderline. In these cases, society often has other means of dealing with the person after honest and open conversation has attempted to reach a simple agreement and understanding and fails utterly due to one party's inability to abide by their agreements. This is the proper occasion to utilize Orders of Protection, Sexual Harassment Complaints, Legal Grievances, Institutionalization, and so on.
Always exercise honesty and open communication first. Mind you, honesty is not a summary of how you feel and what you think; it is the full extent of one's feelings, thoughts, and wants. You are lying if all you say is, "I don't like you that way." In order for it to be genuine honesty, you need to express the feelings you experience in reaction to his hitting on you. What thoughts you have regarding it, and what you would like to happen in regards to his behavior. Given a depth of understanding in regards to your own viewpoint, he now knows the interpersonal consequences of his actions and can change them according to whether or not he desires to make you uncomfortable. If he does desire to make you feel awkward and uncomfortable, this is when you utilize other social resources to protect yourself. He is a human being, and deserves to know what he is really doing...but beyond that, you have no responsibility but to protect your self if he cannot respect you.