Ok. So, I know wut i did was kinda bitchy but i need some input from strangers online. So i met this guy, we hit it off n everything was really good. We started kinda dating i guess you could call it. So we dated for a few weeks but then I started hanging out with an old crush that i had for a few years. I started hooking up with this crus bcause i thought it was wut i wanted to do. things were great before i realized that the first guy is who i really wanted to be with. i feel like i burnd a bridge with him though, because i just kinda stopped talkin to him. do you think that if i tried explaining to guy 1 wut was going on, he would forgive me and take me back? would you do this?

i just dont want to be with guy 2 anymore, i thought i did but after i realized that i didnt im confused about what to do. what do u thiunk i should do totse?

So let me get this straight. You were "dating" a guy, and by dating I'm going to go out on a limb and assume you mean "fucking", and then found someone you thought you wanted to be with more. So you cut off all contact with this guy, started fucking the second one, only to realize you wanted to be with the first guy all along?

Now you want to know if he will take you back. Well, I don't know you and I don't know the guy in question, but what you did was shitty and selfish.

If I were the guy I would laugh in your face if you tried to get back with me. You didn't even have the decency to tell him you didn't want to be with him anymore? You just stopped talking to him? Well bitch, I doubt you have a chance anymore.

You fucked up, and you need to accept that. Why wouldn't you at least talk to him if you didn't want to be with him?

Also, I assume you're just going to stop talking to the guy you're currently banging, too. Because history hasn't taught you a goddamned thing, has it?

You're a bitch, plain and simple. What a shitty thing to do to someone. If you don't want to be with someone, don't be a cunt and just stop talking to them. Have the fucking balls to tell them.

Well you came to the right place, @Totse has all sorts of experienced callers here to help you and direct you to your answers.
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Let me try to guide you to your question.

who gives a shit,about others opinions of you. All this fine young man wanted from you is your fanny.

And to let you know a lil secret :
all guys want this, we arent your 'friends' were guys waiting for a chance to stick it inside you and get in them guts.

And fuck him, your with who you want to be with,so cheers to you.

Well you came to the right place, @Totse has all sorts of experienced callers here to help you and direct you to your answers.
@Totse is all about customer satisfaction and acceptance.This being said and me being a fine outstanding member of the @Totse community,

Let me try to guide you to your question.

who gives a shit,about others opinions of you. All this fine young man wanted from you is your fanny.

And to let you know a lil secret :
all guys want this, we arent your 'friends' were guys waiting for a chance to stick it inside you and get in them guts.

And fuck him, your with who you want to be with,so cheers to you.

She isn't who she wants to be with. She wants to be with the guy she fucked over initially. Which is what pisses me off. Stop being an indecisive twat, you're giving females a bad name.

I KNOW it was shitty for me to do. i already said that. jeez.

anyway, wut are the chances he wud take me back? i want guys' opinions here cuz Im confsued about how to go about this.

i wasnt goin to tell the new guy anything either cuz i don want to hurt him. he says hes hapy with me but i know id be happier with guy 1, so i dont wan tto hurt his feelings. i was just gunna stop talkin to him for his benefit, not mine.

well if the guy has any diginity and self respect he would tell you to fuck off.

Worth trying but he probably would never forget it and hold it against you inside.

Seriously..

You sabotaged the relationship with guy 1 as soon as you left him hanging to hook up with guy two.

He might even take you back, however!!

why would you even want to be in that relationship when the chances are you are probably just going
to do the same thing to him later on down the road...

What makes you think you even deserve guy 1 in the first place???

Anyway, Looky here little girl, learn from this...

You might've had a chance if you actually talked to the dude...

and if guy 1 is a black guy, you fucked up big time... you should've held on for dear life, ESPECIALLY if he genuinely liked you.

So...

You had something good going with guy 1. Nothing too serious but it was good.
You fucked him off to get with some guy you fancied before this guy (I hate the word crush used in the context of teenage hormonal responses. Stupid fucking word.) and you ignored guy 1.
Now you've realised that the grass wasn't greener on the other side and want to get back with guy 1.
Guy 1 thinks you're a slag who is fucking him about and refuses to put himself in the position to get fucked over again.

Hmmm...

Congratulations...You've just learned two valuable lessons in the game of dating and relations:

1) Do not let possible partners know about other possible partners.
2) Do not cut your ties with any possible partners until you can make a solid choice on which one to pick. Only then do you let the others go.

My advice would be to tell him what you did so he can make a solid choice about whether to spend any more time and effort on your dumb ass.

He will take you back, you have a pussy, at least I hope.
You could shit on his face, piss in his beer and he would still take you back, Why? you have a pussy.

He will take you back, you have a pussy, at least I hope.
You could shit on his face, piss in his beer and he would still take you back, Why? you have a pussy.

Wow, things in Russia are going worse than I thought....

I just got out of a similar situation, whereas I would be Guy 1. Let me tell you, I straight up said fuck that bitch, hung up on her ass and haven't talked to her since even though she been txting me and leaving me messages on facebook. I don't put up with that kind of bullshit. There so many other women out there to have to put up with that shit.

I just got out of a similar situation, whereas I would be Guy 1. Let me tell you, I straight up said fuck that bitch, hung up on her ass and haven't talked to her since even though she been txting me and leaving me messages on facebook. I don't put up with that kind of bullshit. There so many other women out there to have to put up with that shit.


Thats the spirit!

He might take you back provided that he doesn't know that you were off fucking someone else you found more appealing in the time you weren't talking to him. He shouldn't, but sometimes people are spineless and stupid and will do illogical things like that.

Perhaps you could repost for the English speakers among us?

This is a BBS not an SMS, learn the difference.

Allow me to translate:

Okay, so I am aware that I've done something rather unkind, however I want some strangers on the internet to tell me what I'd like to hear. I met this guy, I was drunk and he held my hair back while I vomited into an umbrella stand, so I assumed that we would be very compatible as partners. We began having rough sex in the bathrooms of various gas stations and convenience stores, but I found myself longing for a deeper connection, so I got back in touch with an old flame. We had broken up when I blew his little brother for a pack of Newports under an overpass, but I felt that familiar stirring of desire towards him, so I made an effort to get back into his good graces. Things were lovely until I found these sores on my lady parts...I realized that that WalMart guy was the one who I really felt I could share a future with. However, I think he may not be interested me anymore because I had too much cock in my mouth to call him for several weeks, so I guess he'll have moved on. Do you think that if I explained to him that I only ignored him because I got bored of him and found someone more interesting to fuck for a few weeks, he could forgive me and take me back? Would you if you were in his position?

I thought I was into keeping a harem of men to service me, but I really don't even know what I want anymore. What do you think I should do, totse?

Holy cow. I'm only telling you this out of love: Right now, you're a rather shitty person; your life would be amazingly better if you forget relationships completely for a year or two and seek enlightenment. I don't just mean an education, either, but a deep spiritual experience that changes you from core to surface. As is stands now, you have no business being with anybody as it would only serve to harm your partner and their life - without growing as a person, this will always be the case.

Learn to feed those who need food for both stomach and soul; cloth those whose flesh is exposed and whose grievances bare evils to the world; learn from the wiser and teach the less so: doing these things will teach you what love really is and change your entire life. Learn how to love less all you wish for is lust.

If youre hot he will probably take you back, if not youre shit out of luck.

Nice translation there Silverfuck. Anyways, chances are slim to none that he will still be interested. Well he may be interested but turned off by your behavior, perhaps if you worked on your communication skills with him, in time, he may.

No, he wont take you back. You're a bitch. Problem solved.

What the fuck you guys don have to be so fucking mean.

anyway, guy 1 wont return my phone calls or txts. so i guess im shit out of luck.

thanx guys.

Well then perhaps just leave a message or two a few days apart. Then just give him time to call you back hopefully. I personally would.

What the fuck you guys don have to be so fucking mean.

anyway, guy 1 wont return my phone calls or txts. so i guess im shit out of luck.

thanx guys.

Ms. LizardToe, my response was not in a callous spirit, but in that of honesty. The decisions you made were based entirely upon selfish motives with a lack of concern for the well being of others. While the wording is harsh, it is true, you are not a good person and have nothing beneficial to offer anyone as a partner; you are an emotional and spiritual drain...a burden. Change that. Seek to change that with desperation. Become empathic, caring, and compassionate. Become concerned with the well being of those whose lives you enter, and with those that enter your life. Take others into consideration in your thoughts and actions; seek to benefit the world rather than benefit from it.

Even after making your mistakes in this situation, your concern was simply whether or not the man you first harmed would take you back: you didn't ask what measures you could take to heal the wound you rend upon him, you didn't ask for advice on how to become more certain of your decisions before making them. You are not seeking improvement in thought and behavior, but only that which your heart desires - and without the desire to improve and bring abundant joy to others, your heart's desires are a black hole that suck the love out of life...the very joy that makes life worth living.

These words have been harsh; the truth often is, but without it, no lasting solution can ever be found. Were I to be soft, you would be able to continue on the path you are with no conscience; this would lead to repeating the same mistake over and over without ever solving the problem that leads to these mistakes in the first place. If you wish to be free of such difficulties, please heed the words I have typed for your eyes - I wish you growth and happiness, both of which start with a realization of the truth of one's own deficiencies. May God bless you, and may you prosper as to bring prosperity to all around you.

I KNOW it was shitty for me to do. i already said that. jeez.

anyway, wut are the chances he wud take me back? i want guys' opinions here cuz Im confsued about how to go about this.

i wasnt goin to tell the new guy anything either cuz i don want to hurt him. he says hes hapy with me but i know id be happier with guy 1, so i dont wan tto hurt his feelings. i was just gunna stop talkin to him for his benefit, not mine.

To get him back: Dress in really slutty clothes (I'm talking some white, really short, shorts with a bright colored thong underneath and some really tight, see-through shirt that doesnt cover your middrift) and show up at his house late when you are really drunk. Cry and shit and do the whole bullshit thing about "oh my god, you make me feel special, I totally blew it, I'm an idiot, I'm good for nothing." Then after he's done telling you to shut the fuck up, show him that you are an idiot and are, in fact, good for nothing, and go down on him and suck that dick like your life depends on it.

That'll show him that youre worth his time.

Thats the spirit!

Feckin' right!

you're a fucking ugly bitch. i want to stab you to death and then play around with your blood.

seriously, you're being a dumb whore. if the guy has any balls he'll tell you to fuck off. but if you're just a couple 16 year olds looking for some sex, he'll be like "aight" and fuck you later for his own satisfaction, not really giving a shit about anything else.

go suck a pole.

OP, you're a bitch.

It wasn't "Kinda bitchy" what you did, you're a total fucking scrag and deserve to have your head ripped off and stuffed up your fucking nose. :mad:

OP, you're a bitch.

It wasn't "Kinda bitchy" what you did, you're a total fucking scrag and deserve to have your head ripped off and stuffed up your fucking nose. :mad:

Thank you.

I'm getting sick and fucking tired of females doing this all the time and giving us all a bad name.

well if the guy has any diginity and self respect he would tell you to fuck off.

Worth trying but he probably would never forget it and hold it against you inside.

If he has dignity and self respect he should fuck YOU and then do your best female friend doggy style.

What the fuck you guys don have to be so fucking mean.

anyway, guy 1 wont return my phone calls or txts. so i guess im shit out of luck.

thanx guys.

Waz gud?

U wud have better luck on www.niggaspace.com.

Stupid bitch.

Well then perhaps just leave a message or two a few days apart. Then just give him time to call you back hopefully. I personally would.

me too....as soon as I was drunk and hard