Well I've been dating my current bf for 8 months and I love him more then anything. Recently for Christmas I went on holiday for a week to an island where I met an english guy. He told me he facied me and oh so many wicked things he would do to me given the chance and being the loving faithful gf I am I declined telling him I have a bf and couldn't do it. We talked and hung out for about 3 days before he left, we share a love of music, a similar look on life and got along like peanut butter and jam but I can't help feeling I missed out. It's not like I haven't had offers before and this guy was a complete player, I know I would have been nothing more then another girl he's fucked while traveling but I'm almost upset I've said no. Which also makes me feel bad that I wanted to cheat on my bf because I do love him.
I have no idea why I feel this way and I can't even ask anyone why incase they tell my bf. What's wrong with me =[

Thanks for all the advice...

Well I've been dating my current bf for 8 months and I love him more then anything.
Recently for Christmas I went on holiday for a week to an island where I met an english guy. He told me he facied me and oh so many wicked things he would do to me given the chance and being the loving faithful gf I am I declined telling him I have a bf and couldn't do it.

We talked and hung out for about 3 days before he left, we share a love of music, a similar look on life and got along like peanut butter and jam but I can't help feeling I missed out. It's not like I haven't had offers before and this guy was a complete player, I know I would have been nothing more then another girl he's fucked while traveling.

but I'm almost upset I've said no. Which also makes me feel bad that I wanted to cheat on my bf because I do love him.
I have no idea why I feel this way and I can't even ask anyone why incase they tell my bf. What's wrong with me =[

Becuase you where on holiday?

These kind of infatuations always seem different the loved one is so far away and the touristy accented foriegn bloke seems so new and exciting.

It is just the way it is but by not succumbing, you have basically proven to yourself how important your boyfriend is to you and depending on your age that could be another thing that may cause a little bit of a reaction.


**And I fixed the quote for all of you taking note of the grammar whoring thread...Cheers

Becuase you where on holiday?

These kind of infatuations always seem different the loved one is so far away and the touristy accented foriegn bloke seems so new and exciting.

It is just the way it is but by not succumbing, you have basically proven to yourself how important your boyfriend is to you and depending on your age that could be another thing that may cause a little bit of a reaction.


I had more then one offer on that island, argghhhhh I don't know.

People like you make me fucking sick.

You say you "love" your boyfriend, yet you regret that you didn't cheat on him with some faggot you met on holiday?

Oh fucking please, love is the only thing I even give a shit about in life anymore. Don't demean it by saying that you love someone you wanted to cheat on, all that does is make real love seem like nothing.

You are fucking disgusting.

People like you make me fucking sick.

You say you "love" your boyfriend, yet you regret that you didn't cheat on him with some faggot you met on holiday?

Oh fucking please, love is the only thing I even give a shit about in life anymore. Don't demean it by saying that you love someone you wanted to cheat on, all that does is make real love seem like nothing.

You are fucking disgusting.

You're 15, gtfo of my thread.

Thanks for all the advice...

Also, what the fuck?

You can't wait half a fucking hour for someone to reply?

I hope you get AIDS. And cancer. Head cancer.

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You're 15, gtfo of my thread.

You should be even more ashamed that a fifteen year old is more mature and morally aware than yourself.

As bad as it sounds chichi sometimes as I mentioned love is the difference between cheating and not cheating.

By not cheating you may have sub conciously moved your realationship up to a new level that scares you and he is the main person you spent time with on the island (Which one by the way) and you fit together so well, It is just your minds way of throwing up roadblocks in the face of something you are scared of.

The thing you are scared of of course is ho much you love your other half, Other wise as soon as you felt the peanut butter and jam click (Which is aweird saying for an Aussie) you would have been naked in the sand getting fucked before you knew it.

First things first though don't make this out to be worse then it is tell you boyfriend you meet this really nice english guy (Here I was not knowing nice english guys exsisted) and he flirted with you constantly but all you could think of was him. Other wise if it comes out in the future eg. A friend of yours that was there saying what bout that hot englsih guy.

Your Fucked.

You're 15 meaning you don't really know much about love. Things that involve feelings can get extremly complicated, I know for a fact that I love my bf hence why I didn't cheat on him, I didn't want to ruin that I just can't understand why I wanted to.

As bad as it sounds chichi sometimes as I mentioned love is the difference between cheating and not cheating.

By not cheating you may have sub conciously moved your realationship up to a new level that scares you and he is the main person you spent time with on the island (Which one by the way) and you fit together so well, It is just your minds way of throwing up roadblocks in the face of something you are scared of.

The thing you are scared of of course is ho much you love your other half, Other wise as soon as you felt the peanut butter and jam click (Which is aweird saying for an Aussie) you would have been naked in the sand getting fucked before you knew it.

First things first though don't make this out to be worse then it is tell you boyfriend you meet this really nice english guy (Here I was not knowing nice english guys exsisted) and he flirted with you constantly but all you could think of was him. Other wise if it comes out in the future eg. A friend of yours that was there saying what bout that hot englsih guy.

Your Fucked.

Thank you =]

Really that makes a lot of sense.

EDIT: Oh, it was Long Island, in the whitsundays.

You're 15 meaning you don't really know much about love.

People around here always use my age to make a point about how I'm wrong, without actually offering any argument against the point I had made.

Until you can show me I'm wrong, shut the fuck up about my age.

People around here always use my age to make a point about how I'm wrong, without actually offering any argument against the point I had made.

Until you can show me I'm wrong, shut the fuck up about my age.

What you were saying is that if you love someone there is no possible way to feel something for someone else?
Also you're young and full of hormones and have just recently come out of the closet feeling a mixture of all sorts of feelings.
I don't know, is that enough?

Long Island Nice Place I have a cousin who is a dive instructor up there.

and I'm glad my ramblings made sense.

Chichi I agree with you on that as well age is just a number and peoples experiences can colour there perceptions of things, with experience comes new point of views i remember when I thought like you and I thought if you even thought of cheating you couldn't love someone. But now I know everyone thinks of other people all the time it is just knowing what you have is better and not taking the oppertunity.

If you try and strike out thats different.

But Chichi you make alot of very valid points, Arguements that fall back on age are normally just a last resort, I believe Bad Intentions arguement falls back on perception and life experiences but she just used age to sum it up.

Now can't we all just get along :D We are all Aussie after all

You're right, us Aussies should be sticking up for each other.

Does he also run the water sports (tubing, jetski's etc) or is that a different thing to what he does??

What you were saying is that if you love someone there is no possible way to feel something for someone else?

I'm saying that if you love someone, you don't go behind their back and say you feel you missed out by not cheating on them.

Is that so fucking hard for you to comprehend?

I'm saying that if you love someone, you don't go behind their back and say you feel you missed out by not cheating on them.

Is that so fucking hard for you to comprehend?

Well yeah it is hard for me to comprehend?

If I had told my bf I felt like I missed out it would shatter him, why would I want to hurt someone I love like that over something that DIDN'T happen?

You're right, us Aussies should be sticking up for each other.

Does he also run the water sports (tubing, jetski's etc) or is that a different thing to what he does??

Not that I know of he takes tourists on Boat trips and scuba dives.

Been out of contact with him for a few months now so i'm not really sure. Be worth getting back in contact with him though, the number of hot chicks to hit on up there ....

Not that I know of he takes tourists on Boat trips and scuba dives.

Been out of contact with him for a few months now so i'm not really sure. Be worth getting back in contact with him though, the number of hot chicks to hit on up there ....

It is amazing how many HOT HALF NAKED chicks there up there strutting their stuff on the beach.

Well yeah it is hard for me to comprehend?

If I had told my bf I felt like I missed out it would shatter him, why would I want to hurt someone I love like that over something that DIDN'T happen?

One night I went out drinking with my female friend while my girlfriend stayed home. We both got pretty drunk and became physically close. She was trying to make a move on me, and I know I kind of felt attracted to her because I was shitfaced, but I didn't do anything. Didn't even kiss her. I sure as fuck don't regret my decision.

That's what makes me think you don't love your boyfriend.

You're 15 meaning you don't really know much about love. Things that involve feelings can get extremly complicated, I know for a fact that I love my bf hence why I didn't cheat on him, I didn't want to ruin that I just can't understand why I wanted to.
sex =/= love

I sure as fuck don't regret my decision.

I don't regret not cheating on my bf, I feel like I've missed out on something, in part that I'll probably never see this guy again, it was not just an animalistic lust but that we got along so well. It's hard to explain. This wasn't some alcohol induced 'dayum i wann sex chuuuuu' it was something else entirely.

It is amazing how many HOT HALF NAKED chicks there up there strutting their stuff on the beach.

I know don't remind me,

So you mentioned before some new feelings I'm guessing they were Bi ones?

I know don't remind me,

So you mentioned before some new feelings I'm guessing they were Bi ones?

I was talking about ChiChi ahaha but if you must know I've been 'out' about being bi for 2-3 years now.

I don't regret not cheating on my bf, I feel like I've missed out on something, in part that I'll probably never see this guy again, it was not just an animalistic lust but that we got along so well. It's hard to explain. This wasn't some alcohol induced 'dayum i wann sex chuuuuu' it was something else entirely.
it probably was that you just wanted sex. the fact that you "got along so well" is just something to delude yourself from the true nature of both his and your intentions.

if your boyfriend had gone with you, that english dude would have never talked to you at all.

What you were saying is that if you love someone there is no possible way to feel something for someone else?
Also you're young and full of hormones and have just recently come out of the closet feeling a mixture of all sorts of feelings.
I don't know, is that enough?

That's not the point that Chichi is trying to make. It seems to me that you're only looking for validation on what you did and what you think is right. Therefore, any suggestions or comments saying otherwise, you shoot down. You're contradicting yourself when you say that you love your bf more than anything else BUT you are upset because you missed out on the opportunity to hook up with some random stranger on vacation.

It's perfectly normal to have feelings for someone else, even a stranger, when you're committed to your significant other. It's human nature. Honestly, people shouldn't feel bad about their feelings. Although, acting out on those feelings is what truly separates the ones in love and the ones that aren't. As for you, I wouldn't dwell on it. Just move on and don't think "what could've been". You're never going to know now and so there's no point in imagining it because it's just going to bring you more emotional stress.

Although, I'm glad to hear that you didn't cheat. Good job.

Well I've been dating my current bf for 8 months and I love him more then anything. Recently for Christmas I went on holiday for a week to an island where I met an english guy. He told me he facied me and oh so many wicked things he would do to me given the chance and being the loving faithful gf I am I declined telling him I have a bf and couldn't do it. We talked and hung out for about 3 days before he left, we share a love of music, a similar look on life and got along like peanut butter and jam but I can't help feeling I missed out. It's not like I haven't had offers before and this guy was a complete player, I know I would have been nothing more then another girl he's fucked while traveling but I'm almost upset I've said no. Which also makes me feel bad that I wanted to cheat on my bf because I do love him.
I have no idea why I feel this way and I can't even ask anyone why incase they tell my bf. What's wrong with me =[

sounds like you a HO

You're 15 meaning you don't really know much about love. Things that involve feelings can get extremly complicated, I know for a fact that I love my bf hence why I didn't cheat on him, I didn't want to ruin that I just can't understand why I wanted to.

I need to agree with you here. ChiChi is clearly an idiot whose only knowledge of relationships comes from watching mary kate and ashley movies and the disney channel.

I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years. And yes I've cheated on her. That doesn't mean that I don't love her. It means that I'm human. Even people who have been married their whole lives are still tempted to sleep with other people when the moment arises. Love isn't about never making a mistake or never wanting to fuck anyone else ever. It has more to do with realizing that there are people in your life that will always matter and people in your life that never will. Sex is great between two people in love, but there is much more to love than sex. That being said, if love is exponentially more than any sexual act, how can a sexual act break love at its seems?

But don't fuck around with the people you love. It hurts them, its not fair, but we all make mistakes and you shouldn't question your feelings for your boyfriend because you wanted to fuck some stranger. If everyone got distressed or broke up with someone or fucked around everytime they got horny around a guy with big muscles or a girl with nice legs, the world would be in shambles. Wanting to fuck someone doesnt make you a bad person. Shit, even doing it doesnt make you a bad person. What makes people bad for cheating are the repeat offenses, the dishonesty, and the failure to learn anything from such an action.

Did you miss out on something? Yeah, probably some great sex. But would it really have been that great? How do you think you would have felt afterwards? I bet you would have felt really guilty. Look, you're feeling guilty and you didn't even do anything. Pay attention to that.

Try to be good.

I need to agree with you here. ChiChi is clearly an idiot whose only knowledge of relationships comes from watching mary kate and ashley movies and the disney channel.

At least I've got a source. :mad:

Fuck OP, Chichi is right on this case and his age doesn't matter. It's all pretty how you think of him as a boy-child but think about the fact that you think you missed out on sex with a stranger.

Fuck. This is the kind of people I hate. Go to www.nomarriage.com. Yeah, there is a lot of bullshit there BUT, as you see, you feel upset about missing out on stranger-sex. And, according to that site, many, MANY women also think the same to the point that they feel entitled to affairs and sex with strangers. Yup, this is how low women have come. I don't want my wife to hunt bears and take care of the home like in the good ol' days, I want a women whom I can truely love and not think of her cheating on me every time she ventures further than 20km away from me.

God. You should have turned that guy down right away and walked away with a "Ha, I really love my BF" face. But you're thinking you missed out on something...

Turn the situation around. Just imagine your boyfriend feeling that he missed out on having sex with a chick and actually posting on a forum about it. Doesn't that undermine your trust to him even if just a little? Yeah, it starts by feeling you're missing out and before you know it, you're a slut.

Oh, and krypotonite420, consider the fact that while cheating doesn't really hurt the other person maybe he doesn't like it and thus feels the pain? It's just a thing that goes like I love her- I don't wanna hurt her - it's JUST my dick, not my life. Thumbs up for great sex, but it's only sex.

If you could have sex every night and be sure that your loved one never knew it, would you still have the sex?

I know I couldn't. I believe that if I hold people to some ideals, I should also hold myself up to them. People hate cheating because they feel worse. Suddenly, your loved doesn't feel special if you're having sex with someone else.

Yeah..I agree with Chichi on this one.

If you really loved your significant other you wouldn't even hung out with some stranger. Yeah okay, you had fantasies, thats normal. I just cant...comprehend why you would want to hang out with a (MALE) stranger...its like you say you love him but still had a HUGE urge (thats how it sounds like in the post) to fuck him or do something with him.

If you REALLY loved your S/O none of that would have happened. I think you need to take a look at your relationship. Maybe the guy you're currently with is not who you really want to be with.

LiquidIce:
"I don't want my wife to hunt bears and take care of the home like in the good ol' days, I want a women whom I can truely love and not think of her cheating on me every time she ventures further than 20km away from me."

I couldn't agree with this more. I would want to trust my wife 100% if she went out anywhere with her friends, it doesn't even have to be hundreds of miles away in a different country. Just as long I could trust her not to pull any bullshit while shes away (and I would expect her thinking to be the same with me.)

Whats even more funny, is that a 15 year old with "enraged hormones" was drinking alcohol with a female friend, the friend made a move on him and he rejected it with alcohol in his system - thats how much he loves his GF. Shit you weren't even intoxicated and still had HUGE urges to fuck him or do something with him. Thanks.

Even people who have been married their whole lives are still tempted to sleep with other people when the moment arises. Love isn't about never making a mistake or never wanting to fuck anyone else ever. It has more to do with realizing that there are people in your life that will always matter and people in your life that never will. Sex is great between two people in love, but there is much more to love than sex. That being said, if love is exponentially more than any sexual act, how can a sexual act break love at its seems?

But don't fuck around with the people you love. It hurts them, its not fair, but we all make mistakes and you shouldn't question your feelings for your boyfriend because you wanted to fuck some stranger. If everyone got distressed or broke up with someone or fucked around everytime they got horny around a guy with big muscles or a girl with nice legs, the world would be in shambles. Wanting to fuck someone doesnt make you a bad person. Shit, even doing it doesnt make you a bad person. What makes people bad for cheating are the repeat offenses, the dishonesty, and the failure to learn anything from such an action.


You made a lot of sense.

I just want to add that just because you are in love with someone, it doesn't mean you are automatically immune from sexual attractions to other people. You can love someone and still find other people attractive. It's a question of whether you act on your desire or not. And even if you did go ahead and sleep with someone/cheated on your significant other, it doesn't necessarily mean you don't love your spouse enough (though it could); it might just be that you are weak-willed and you gave in to temptations.

And just to be clear, I am not condoning adultery.

Well I've been dating my current bf for 8 months and I love him more then anything. Recently for Christmas I went on holiday for a week to an island where I met an english guy. He told me he facied me and oh so many wicked things he would do to me given the chance and being the loving faithful gf I am I declined telling him I have a bf and couldn't do it. We talked and hung out for about 3 days before he left, we share a love of music, a similar look on life and got along like peanut butter and jam but I can't help feeling I missed out. It's not like I haven't had offers before and this guy was a complete player, I know I would have been nothing more then another girl he's fucked while traveling but I'm almost upset I've said no. Which also makes me feel bad that I wanted to cheat on my bf because I do love him.
I have no idea why I feel this way and I can't even ask anyone why incase they tell my bf. What's wrong with me =[

We all have feelings. It is the actions you choose to make that matter though. I'm proud of you.

I need to agree with you here. ChiChi is clearly an idiot whose only knowledge of relationships comes from watching mary kate and ashley movies and the disney channel.

I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years. And yes I've cheated on her. That doesn't mean that I don't love her. It means that I'm human. Even people who have been married their whole lives are still tempted to sleep with other people when the moment arises. Love isn't about never making a mistake or never wanting to fuck anyone else ever. It has more to do with realizing that there are people in your life that will always matter and people in your life that never will. Sex is great between two people in love, but there is much more to love than sex. That being said, if love is exponentially more than any sexual act, how can a sexual act break love at its seems?

But don't fuck around with the people you love. It hurts them, its not fair, but we all make mistakes and you shouldn't question your feelings for your boyfriend because you wanted to fuck some stranger. If everyone got distressed or broke up with someone or fucked around everytime they got horny around a guy with big muscles or a girl with nice legs, the world would be in shambles. Wanting to fuck someone doesnt make you a bad person. Shit, even doing it doesnt make you a bad person. What makes people bad for cheating are the repeat offenses, the dishonesty, and the failure to learn anything from such an action.

Did you miss out on something? Yeah, probably some great sex. But would it really have been that great? How do you think you would have felt afterwards? I bet you would have felt really guilty. Look, you're feeling guilty and you didn't even do anything. Pay attention to that.

Try to be good.

Kryptonite, before you bash on Chichi maybe you should read over what you wrote

That being said, if love is exponentially more than any sexual act, how can a sexual act break love at its seems?

Are you being serious here? One can say that love is built on trust, as cliche as that sounds. Having sex with other people, strangers mind you, BREAKS that trust. So clearly, sex with strangers can undermind your relationship with your partner and potentially break it.

Wanting to fuck someone doesnt make you a bad person. Shit, even doing it doesnt make you a bad person. What makes people bad for cheating are the repeat offenses, the dishonesty, and the failure to learn anything from such an action.

You say that cheating on your S/O doesn't make you a bad person. True. It makes you a bad lover. But let me clarify that cheating, even once is dishonest in itself. Sure, you made a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes. But it doesn't take away from the fact that it's wrong.

That's why going on holiday to an exotic location without your s/o is a bad idea.

Kryptonite, before you bash on Chichi maybe you should read over what you wrote

That being said, if love is exponentially more than any sexual act, how can a sexual act break love at its seems?

Are you being serious here? One can say that love is built on trust, as cliche as that sounds. Having sex with other people, strangers mind you, BREAKS that trust. So clearly, sex with strangers can undermind your relationship with your partner and potentially break it.

Wanting to fuck someone doesnt make you a bad person. Shit, even doing it doesnt make you a bad person. What makes people bad for cheating are the repeat offenses, the dishonesty, and the failure to learn anything from such an action.

You say that cheating on your S/O doesn't make you a bad person. True. It makes you a bad lover. But let me clarify that cheating, even once is dishonest in itself. Sure, you made a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes. But it doesn't take away from the fact that it's wrong.

I didn't say that cheating doesn't undermine a relationship. It obviously does. What I meant by "if love is exponentially more than any sexual act, how can a sexual act break love at its seams?" is that two rational people in a relationship that has a deep, profound, and spiritual meaning ought to be able to look past a physical action or misstep even if it has immoral implications and perhaps even undermines the trust that is so vital to the relationship as a whole for the respect of the beautiful idea/relationship/entity they have created. Who would throw away paradise because of a few days of rain?

And yes, there is more than just a physical act to cheating. It is a betrayal, a turning of one's back, for another. People are stupid. Shit happens. What can any of us say against that? Forgiveness is also a very vital part of any relationship, along with trust.

That being said, one might respond "Well, a rational person wouldn't cheat on someone he or she was truly in love with." And yes, that is, in theory, true, but at the same time even the most rational person can find himself/herself irrational in certain moments. We all have illogical sentiments and ideas that propel us to do things we might not had done if we had thought about them more clearly.

And I never said that cheating wasn't wrong. It obviously is. I just wanted to say that cheating on someone doesnt mean that your love for them, or the love between you, is dead. Or that your soul is dead, or however it is you define a "bad person". I would never argue that cheating is not wrong. I was arguing that it is not necessarily the end of the relationship, or of your personhood, or of your ability to be faithful. People can move forward from mistakes and, hopefully, make up for them.

Fact: Girls get sluttier the farther away they are from home.


It's fucking great.

You're 15 meaning you don't really know much about love. Things that involve feelings can get extremly complicated, I know for a fact that I love my bf hence why I didn't cheat on him, I didn't want to ruin that I just can't understand why I wanted to.

It is because you are a living human being subject to the human experience of a long life of war between the conscience of the spirit and the desires of the flesh. Our body seeks only pleasure, while our conscience seeks only love. As far as I can tell, you did the right thing and are simply feeling physical discomfort due to the lack of feeding a desire of the body. In spite of the man being a player (kudos on seeing that, btw), he still has a cock, which your body will want no matter how much you love someone. This will always leave an individual to decide between their own physical pleasure and the love expressed through conscience; you made the right choice, and for that I commend you.

Further, as time goes on, if your conscience continues to develop it will become less tempting and desirable to give in to strictly physical pleasures that harm those you love. It is extremely difficult at first, and times will come again when you are tempted by your body's yearning to feel the sensations of pleasure (of which sensations, sex is king), but so long as you rely upon the love expressed in your conscience, you will take the right paths.

I will say though: you were in dangerous waters hanging out with a man you considering cheating with for an extended period of time. That gives the temptation more time to work with, and more possibilities of giving in to it. Just an observation I hope might help you in the future.

Well I've been dating my current bf for 8 months and I love him more then anything. Recently for Christmas I went on holiday for a week to an island where I met an english guy. He told me he facied me and oh so many wicked things he would do to me given the chance and being the loving faithful gf I am I declined telling him I have a bf and couldn't do it. We talked and hung out for about 3 days before he left, we share a love of music, a similar look on life and got along like peanut butter and jam but I can't help feeling I missed out. It's not like I haven't had offers before and this guy was a complete player, I know I would have been nothing more then another girl he's fucked while traveling but I'm almost upset I've said no. Which also makes me feel bad that I wanted to cheat on my bf because I do love him.
I have no idea why I feel this way and I can't even ask anyone why incase they tell my bf. What's wrong with me =[

So you hung out with a stranger for three days, knowing he was a player? Also, if you know he's a player, you should also be able to make the logical leap to realize that he was fucking playing you and the connection you felt was...*gasp*...fake. He wanted to get laid, and he did such a good job of fucking with you that he even made you feel bad about turning him down while knowing that you would only be a fuck to him. Congratulations on giving two shits about your boyfriend and yourself.

Here's my issue with this whole situation: you allowed it to happen. You didn't tell him you have a boyfriend. You did nothing to stop his advances. You were not hanging out with him as friends. When it was all over, you wished you had fucked a guy who only wanted you for your pussy. Now please explain to me how this goes along with having a relationship with a guy you "love more than anything."

Everyone gets urges. When you have an exclusive relationship with a person you care about, you turn down other people. You obviously don't love him more than anything or you would have immediately told the guy "I have a boyfriend." That's a pretty good way of deterring guys from trying anything. When you're in a relationship, you're supposed to "head this shit off at the pass." It's part of committing yourself to one person. Sure, you didn't fuck the player. Congratulations. Emotionally, you wish you had. If your boyfriend knew that, would he continue to trust you? Should he, knowing you will let guys continue to hit on you for three days solid? You can't tell anyone or tell your boyfriend because you're ashamed of letting a guy hit on you and not doing shit about it. You should be ashamed, and you should take this as a lesson to stop guys when they try it.

Chichi is correct, along with LiquidIce. Even nomarriage.com is right. Hilarious how a 15 year old and a shitty website about how women are evil can be so accurate.

I don't care if you agree with my analysis or not. This is the bottom line: Commit yourself to your boyfriend or don't. Pick one and stick with it.

holiday romance, don't worry everyone has those though, NEVER CHEAT ON VACATION THOUGH!

Here's my issue with this whole situation: you allowed it to happen. You didn't tell him you have a boyfriend. You did nothing to stop his advances. You were not hanging out with him as friends. When it was all over, you wished you had fucked a guy who only wanted you for your pussy. Now please explain to me how this goes along with having a relationship with a guy you "love more than anything."

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Maybe you should have read my post a little more clearly. I did tell him I had a bf and that I love him and left it at that. I'm pretty sure saying 'No I'm not going to do that I have a bf' was stopping his advances.

Also for the record I wasn't hanging out with him alone, his sister and himself were abandoned on the island by her shit fuck bf and we (myslef and my family) gave them somewhere to stay.

Maybe you should read posts more thoroughly.

Maybe You should consider the whole of Fanglekais post (and some other people's too) and not get at him with the fact that you told him you had a boyfriend. Hell, that stopped his advances? So if you didn't mention your BF he would do what, rape you?

Still, you're fucking up, I hope you've stopped feeling you missed out. Think with your head, not your clit.

Why is it that girls feel like they're "missing out"? OP, is it an urge to fuck and forget him or you want to go run off with him?

Girls are constantly on the search for the better man and have no problems dumping their current lover for one with more charm/money/power/cocaine.

This is one of the fundamental differences between guys and girls, and I think a source for much of the confusion in this thread. Girls will be more pissed at their bf if he has a love interest with another girl, while guys will be more pissed if their girl sleeps even once with another man. In evolutionary terms, men do value sex more than love.

That is why all us men are like "you fucking cunt" while you, OP, can't seem to understand our m/o.

Maybe you should have read my post a little more clearly. I did tell him I had a bf and that I love him and left it at that.

I can't believe I have to quote your post to you again. Very carefully read the section below that is in bold letters:

He told me he facied me and oh so many wicked things he would do to me given the chance and being the loving faithful gf I am I declined telling him I have a bf and couldn't do it.

You declined telling him you have a boyfriend. This means that you did not tell him you have a boyfriend. If you actually did tell him you had a boyfriend, you should have written this instead:

"I declined, telling him I have a boyfriend."

The comma completely changes the meaning of the sentence. If you had written the sentence correctly, I wouldn't have misunderstood what had actually taken place. Alternatively, you could have written: "I rejected his advances and told him I have a boyfriend." This sentence doesn't have any nasty commas to trip up readers.

It's not my responsibility to try to interpret what you're saying. This is an internet forum. If you want people to understand you, please write properly. If you can't put proper punctuation in your original post and that causes misunderstanding, it's up to you to fix your mistakes.

This is the reason totse sucks right now. People are careless and sloppy with their posts. The first post in any thread is the most important one because if it is poorly written or lacks details people will misunderstand the situation and then the content of the thread is worthless. Next time, please proofread your post before you submit it.

edit: Obviously this is about details and maybe even seems nitpicky, but it's important.

It's natural to feel like you've missed out.

Durin my 4 years with my ex i felt a dozen times like that , never broke up cause of it or cheated cause of THAT. Now a few years later, i had all the things i thought i was missing out on

And the case is i was never missing out on anything
But i am now, now that i'm no longer with her, because i wasn't good enough to her.....cause i felt i was missing out



But in short

We're you happier before this.. confusion then you think you would be without your bf. It's that simple

It's natural to feel like you've missed out.

Durin my 4 years with my ex i felt a dozen times like that , never broke up cause of it or cheated cause of THAT. Now a few years later, i had all the things i thought i was missing out on

And the case is i was never missing out on anything
But i am now, now that i'm no longer with her, because i wasn't good enough to her.....cause i felt i was missing out



But in short

We're you happier before this.. confusion then you think you would be without your bf. It's that simple

Nothing you said makes any sense.