I lied, I do have friends just not very many. My "best friend" is more like a brother. I don't open up to him completely and he doesn't to me. I don't even always act my natural self around him. He is somewhat of a loser himself. My other "best friend" moved a 5 hour plane ride away. I talk to him once every few months but our relationship is limited because of the distance.

I have lots of acquaintances however. People I play hockey with, see at large parties, meet through other acquaintances, etc. I can't seem to make these people my good friends and can't seem to figure out why. I get invited to large parties and things like that but smaller things everyone already has their go-to friends.

Am I ranting? Whatever, any advice?

Y'know, a lot of people end up feeling that their transition from high school to the real world has left them with more casual acquaintances than friends. My suggestion is to try to further your relationship with the people you already know. Taking into account that these people are already casual friends of yours, you can network through them. You'd be surprised at how many good friends you can make through other friends in casual settings. Just remember, be friendly and willing to listen. :)

I lied, I do have friends just not very many. My "best friend" is more like a brother. I don't open up to him completely and he doesn't to me. I don't even always act my natural self around him. He is somewhat of a loser himself. My other "best friend" moved a 5 hour plane ride away. I talk to him once every few months but our relationship is limited because of the distance.

I have lots of acquaintances however. People I play hockey with, see at large parties, meet through other acquaintances, etc. I can't seem to make these people my good friends and can't seem to figure out why. I get invited to large parties and things like that but smaller things everyone already has their go-to friends.

Am I ranting? Whatever, any advice?

They're obviously not your people.

If you don't like people at 'parties', chances are you have class.

If you don't like being around people who play hockey, chances are you have intelligence.

The person that you don't open up to and vice-versa... chances are you aren't as tight for some reason.

Chances are, you need to find a field that you enjoy working in, or take up a hobby (music?).

Opening up to your guy friends would be pretty teh ghey. That's why you need at least one close female friend. And I do mean friend- don't try to sleep with her (or actually sleep with her) because that will just fuck things up. But yeah, if any of my buddies started talking about their feelings with me, I would either a) leave or b) tell them to talk to their girlfriend or mother about it

As to how to make friends, or closer friends of aquaintances, follow the advice already given. Mix with people with similar hobbies. Go to friends of friends parties. Lots of people at parties act like jerkoffs, but there are plenty of normal people if you're willing to weed through the crap. Don't try to force it, tell jokes, have casual conversation about mutual interests and it'll come.

Just an observation: Discussing the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects of life with a male friend is anything but gay. Sucking a male friend's dick IS.

Most of my male friends and I regularly engage in discussions about the various human struggles, what solutions are available, our own experiences with these struggles, how we have overcome, how we can help each other.

I don't have too many female friends, though. Three, I believe. I am close to all three, but the discussions found here-in are more often about the topics I engage in with male friends as it pertains to relationships rather than individuals and society as a whole.

What is particularly enjoyable is when a larger group comprised of both genders get together and we somehow weave our discussion into a seeking of mutual enlightenment; something truly beneficial to us all that brings about a better understanding of how to live a life full of love.

Friends are awesome...all it takes is an open mind and the willingness to speak your thoughts, feelings, and believes. Open-minded discussion builds strong friendships.

Open minded discussion: good
Sharing "intimate emotions" with your male friends: gay. not in the literal sense, but in the "masculine in no way" sense.

Open minded discussion: good
Sharing "intimate emotions" with your male friends: gay. not in the literal sense, but in the "masculine in no way" sense.

Intimate emotions? Do you mean the affections you have for women? I find nothing emasculating about sharing that with other men. Albeit, it often degenerates into poking fun with commentary such as, "She makes your fingers tingle? What the fuck man...put it in her mouth and leave it at that. Nah, seriously though man, my broad gets me the same way. But still...you should put it in her mouth." This would be an example of the deep being caste in the shallow...real bonding of friends at soulful levels of love and humor...sincerity, the root of true manliness.

Intimate emotions? Do you mean the affections you have for women? I find nothing emasculating about sharing that with other men. Albeit, it often degenerates into poking fun with commentary such as, "She makes your fingers tingle? What the fuck man...put it in her mouth and leave it at that. Nah, seriously though man, my broad gets me the same way. But still...you should put it in her mouth." This would be an example of the deep being caste in the shallow...real bonding of friends at soulful levels of love and humor...sincerity, the root of true manliness.

Wow, you're a fag...how's that for being caste in the shallow?