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doct0r_4rmo
2009-01-06, 04:55
Right. She must be playing me just right because I've been thinking about her a lot and NOW I'm losing sleep over her. Quite remarkable proceedings for a girl who is actually quite unremarkable. I don't know what the fuck is going on with me. It's scary man. A girl has never had such an upper hand with me before. I feel completely powerless, it's a fucking joke.

I actually feel like I'm being "gamed" by her, just right. I've been turned from an assertive, confident guy into a confused little baby.

Really, how the fuck do I get the upper hand again?

Nightside Eclipse
2009-01-06, 05:00
Right. She must be playing me just right because I've been thinking about her a lot and NOW I'm losing sleep over her. Quite remarkable proceedings for a girl who is actually quite unremarkable. I don't know what the fuck is going on with me. It's scary man. A girl has never had such an upper hand with me before. I feel completely powerless, it's a fucking joke.

I actually feel like I'm being "gamed" by her, just right. I've been turned from an assertive, confident guy into a confused little baby.

Really, how the fuck do I get the upper hand again?

I hate recommending this with a passion, but go get laid with another girl.

Or, you can do what my friend did: Drop out of school and go through major depression for 6 months and be a year behind.

Might wanna head over to SotD and I can tell you the real reason why this is happening.

Malkog
2009-01-06, 05:12
Or, you can do what my friend did: Drop out of school and go through major depression for 6 months and be a year behind.


Yeah this is the better option.

I don't know man, find something to occupy your time so you're busy doing something that will benefit you instead of thinking about a girl which ultimately will get you nowhere?

Mr.Dave
2009-01-06, 05:21
I came close to that point once. I hooked up with her best friend outside a bar on cold wintery night. Problem solved.

doct0r_4rmo
2009-01-06, 05:22
I came close to that point once. I hooked up with her best friend outside a bar on cold wintery night. Problem solved.

I like the sound of this.

benpari
2009-01-06, 05:42
Might wanna head over to SotD and I can tell you the real reason why this is happening.

Yes it appears that she might be a seccubus. I would suggest psychic vampirism and astral rape to solve this situation. If that doesnt work then masturbate into her menstrual blood and eat it.

Other then that, I would suggest hookers. Lots and lots of hookers.

Silverfuck
2009-01-06, 05:58
You're right. She must be the problem. If you're thinking about her it must be because she's playing you.

Or...you know...it's possible that you *gasp* like her.

:eek:

benpari
2009-01-06, 06:01
You're right. She must be the problem. If you're thinking about her it must be because she's playing you.

Or...you know...it's possible that you *gasp* like her.

:eek:

OR! she could be a practicing level 15 dark witch that is sucking energy from you with level 12 eroticism. The best method to stop someone like this is with rape.

Agent 008
2009-01-06, 13:05
She implanted a demon in you, you need to perform exorcism. You will know when your exorcism is a success, because A Fucking Ghost will appear in this thread.

SadisticKiller
2009-01-06, 13:28
You're right. She must be the problem. If you're thinking about her it must be because she's playing you.

Or...you know...it's possible that you *gasp* like her.

:eek:

This^

If it turns out you like her, shoot yourself now! or you can kiss all your belonging goodbye.

WritingANovel
2009-01-06, 14:16
An entire pageful of shit (except for silverfuck's)

OP:

Treasure this. It's rare to be this attracted to someone. Even you don't end up "getting" her/being with her, this episode of infatuation should prove to be quite enchanting in its own right.

mrman383
2009-01-06, 18:39
You're right. She must be the problem. If you're thinking about her it must be because she's playing you.

Or...you know...it's possible that you *gasp* like her.

:eek:

he wouldnt lose sleep thinking about her if she was this into him. he likes her but that isnt the problem, she is. her lack of concrete and positive feedback is giving him doubt and causing him to over analyze things in order to come to some type of conclusion.

doct0r_4rmo
2009-01-06, 21:30
Treasure this. It's rare to be this attracted to someone. Even you don't end up "getting" her/being with her, this episode of infatuation should prove to be quite enchanting in its own right.

This is a nice way to spin what i thought was negative. however

he wouldnt lose sleep thinking about her if she was this into him. he likes her but that isnt the problem, she is. her lack of concrete and positive feedback is giving him doubt and causing him to over analyze things in order to come to some type of conclusion.

makes sense. i do get the feeling i'm being played.

Banana Blunt
2009-01-06, 22:20
if you really are losing sleep over this girl, just whack one out after brushing your teeth / right before bed.

I did this when I was in a very similar situation -- totally unremarkable girl who had one hell of an attractiveness about her. Id stay up at night, lying in bed wondering if something could be between us -- finally, Id get out of bed, whack one out in bathroom, and return to bed with a more accurate mindset, "this bitch does this to everyone."

doct0r_4rmo
2009-01-06, 23:13
HOW TO FLIP THINGS ON THERE HEAD BY DOCT0R_4RMO

jealousy.

WritingANovel
2009-01-06, 23:41
This is a nice way to spin what i thought was negative. however



makes sense. i do get the feeling i'm being played.

No offense but you tend to look at things in a negative light.

If I were you I would just sit back and enjoy. How often do you get to encounter a member of the opposite sex who's so incredible that you are absolutely charmed out of your wits? Who cares (although I am sure you do, heh) if she's only teasing you/has no real intention of being with you? Just sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.

Being strung along can be surprising sexy, from what I heard.

moby_dick
2009-01-07, 00:21
An entire pageful of shit (except for silverfuck's)

OP:

Treasure this. It's rare to be this attracted to someone. Even you don't end up "getting" her/being with her, this episode of infatuation should prove to be quite enchanting in its own right.

So you think longing for someone is a positive feeling? I find your naivety just adorable. Unrequited love is one of the most painful human emotions. So what, you're saying that this girl's so great he should just bask in her reflected glory, and be thankful that he's afforded a glimpse of her every now and again? You can't enjoy how amazing you think someone is if they spurn you. Love has 2 sides: it can be the happiest feeling in the world, but if you don't have it it can be soul-wrenching. You just think life's one pretty little flower, don't you. What you don't realise is that you're talking out of your sloppy vag. And you have the audacity to call everyone else's posts shit? At least some of them made me laugh. Yours just made me face-palm. *demonstrates*

OP, I'm not suggesting that you mope around or that your life is as good as over etc. etc., I'm just calling this bitch on her bullshit. ;) I don't know if you gave us enough information about you and this girl for me to know what to suggest...

If she's a nice girl and you actually like her then you should tell her, and see where it goes.

If she's a bitch playing games with you you can tell her to fuck off. Don't join in with all her petty bullshit by trying to make her jealous. Just give her the shoulder and see what she does.

You can see how it's hard for us to know whether she's for real or not from your posts though. ;) Good luck.

mythbuster13
2009-01-07, 00:43
happened to me a few days ago, I couldn't figure out why I couldn't sleep
got over it

WritingANovel
2009-01-07, 00:46
So you think longing for someone is a positive feeling?

Don't put words in my mouth. I never said "longing for someone is a positive feeling".

Seriously, quote me.


I find your naivety just adorable.

Too bad I don't find anything about you adorable (this might have something to do with you mentioning my vag and calling it sloppy)


Unrequited love is one of the most painful human emotions.

You are setting up a straw man. Nobody (not me, not OP) ever said anything about unrequited love.

Seriously, produce the quote or shut up.


So what, you're saying that this girl's so great he should just bask in her reflected glory, and be thankful that he's afforded a glimpse of her every now and again?

1. As a matter of fact, I was NOT saying "this girl's so great he should just bask in her reflected glory, and be thankful that he's afforded a glimpse of her every now and again".
2. You have a propensity for putting words in people's mouths.
3. Actually I personally find that (although you can certainly disagree, and probably will) it's not so bad to long for someone so badly to the extent that I'd want to just "bask in his glory and be thankful that he's giving me a glance every now and then".


You can't enjoy how amazing you think someone is if they spurn you.

This might be true however from what I gathered, that girl is not spurning Op, so your point is moot.


Love has 2 sides: it can be the happiest feeling in the world, but if you don't have it it can be soul-wrenching.

You would be right except we aren't talking about love. We were talking about OP being infatuated with some girl. Be a difference here.

Unless OP is actually in love with her, in which case you'd be right.


You just think life's one pretty little flower, don't you.

And you just think you can psycho-analyze someone based on (your interpretation) of their posts on a message board, don't you?


What you don't realise is that you're talking out of your sloppy vag.

1. I was not aware that my vag is sloppy.
2. I was also not aware my vag can talk.


And you have the audacity to call everyone else's posts shit?

Actually I don't need this so-called "audacity" thing in order to call people's posts shit. I believe all I need are these following keys: "a", "u", "d", "c", "i", "t", and "y".

On a serious note:

So what I called peoples posts shit? It's Totse, we are allowed to express our thoughts and opinions. If it bothers you that much, gtfo.


At least some of them made me laugh.

Almost all of them are unoriginal/from old memes.


Yours just made me face-palm. *demonstrates*

Hey at least it's good for something!

Kaijec Torsf
2009-01-07, 02:06
I have to agree with Moby on this one...

Being strung along is not very sexy. It is very heartless, demeaning, and ultimately results in heart failure...

I however, do not feel the best idea in this situation is revealing your emotions OP... You should play it cool with her, and meet some other girls... It's like you have all your eggs in one basket. You my friend, need to share the wealth...

Seems to me people are under the impression your only allowed 1 girlfriend... this assumption is very false.

It becomes your decision to become exclusive via "prioritizing the pussy"... or "PtP"

It's like fishing bro,.. the fish will never just jump into your bucket... you gotta hook that shit.

I suggest you not call the bimbo.... let her come to you, if she doesn't... keep fishing, unless you want to jump out your fishing boat and try to swim after that dang fish... which will fuck you up cause all the fish in the water will be looking and laughing at you saying to each other, "I think that mother fucker wants to be a fish"...

this goes for all the emo's: NEVER!!! curse the pussy out for being callous bitches.... that just gives them a reason to never talk to you again...

you lay some serious pipe... and I promise, the only reason you'll be loosing sleep will be because she won't stop sucking your cock.

girls are weird man...

doct0r_4rmo
2009-01-07, 03:17
Well here's the update.

I've been slightly cold with her for the past few days but asked her round to mine on thursday after giving her the asshole treatment for a little while. Her response pissed me off "Yeah, I might do." I've continued being coldish, by letting her initiate the conversations we have, and letting her string them along and generally put most of the effort in. I've thrown a spanner in the works as well by starting a small jealousy plot line with a girl I fucked not so long ago.

I'll confirm Thursdays plans with her tomorrow, and if I get any reluctance, call her up on this bullshit.

Thanks to all the replies, but let me say this. It's not unrequited love. She is fully aware of my intent, and in the has shown interest back. But also let me say, it isn't a nice experience. I don't like to be on the back foot with girls, I'm not used to it.

Wish me luck people, I'll give you another update tomorrow to tell you how everything went.

mythbuster13
2009-01-07, 03:19
I suggest you not call the bimbo.... let her come to you, if she doesn't... keep fishing, unless you want to jump out your fishing boat and try to swim after that dang fish... which will fuck you up cause all the fish in the water will be looking and laughing at you saying to each other, "I think that mother fucker wants to be a fish"...


nice way to put it, i think...

Anyways, it feels nice to loose sleep over a girl, but sucks when she doesn't like you back. So don't waste your time getting pissed about it, because the only person getting affected will be you, she doesn't give a shit. Get over her, it's all in your head. Girls are evil and like to mess with your head.

moby_dick
2009-01-07, 23:38
Ok. We've had a team working on this overnight, and we've come up with a response to every tiny section of WAN's post: (lol)

etc. etc. etc.

Whatever. You were wrong in the first place. You never said longing for someone is a positive feeling? Oh my bad. But you did say "this episode of infatuation should prove to be quite enchanting in its own right", which means near enough the same, don't you think? Just because I rephrase what you said rather than quoting every sentence of you post seperately doesn't mean I'm wrong...


Basically, the reason why you have to go through my whole post splitting hairs about whether that was exactly what you said is because you don't have a single substantial argument in favour of your original point: that being infatuated with someone who's not gonna get with you is an enchanting (quote!) experience that should be treasured (and again!). I don't think anyone would agree with that, to be honest. Do you even agree with it??

Oh, it's not technically unrequited love we're talking about, is it? I don't think she technically spurned him in the technical sense of the word, so naturally my argument is useless. Dictionary.com? Fuck off. Love is a word that has scores of different meanings. Someone who spends as many hours on S&A as you should have worked that out by now lol. Many other cultures have had a multitude of words where we have only one (one of the few shortfallings of english). What I was referring to was the greek thelema. And unrequited means not reciprocated. And reciprocated means returned. Capiche?

As for "the girl is not spurning the op", I never said she was. I couldn't claim to know how this girl is acting towards the OP. how irrelevant is that? I was just saying that your more general point was complete bullshit: unrequited love (or unreciproacted thelema, sorry) can never be an enjoyable experience for anyone. Happy now? Did I refute all your little quibbles? Can you stop being pedantic and actually back up your original point? Thought not. Sheesh. It's like wading through quick sand.

As for the sloppy vag comment....lol :D what can I say? If that offended you then a) sorry:( and b) you should not be anywhere near totse.

WritingANovel
2009-01-08, 05:14
Whatever. You were wrong in the first place.

1. Being right or wrong is a matter of opinion. What you genuinely consider to be wrong someone else might genuinely find to be right.
2. You can call my view/opinion "wrong" a thousand times and it won't really change anything. I won't stop believing in what I have always believed in. Although I could see how it would make you feel better, so feel free to indulge.


You never said longing for someone is a positive feeling?

As a matter of fact, I did not.


Oh my bad. But you did say "this episode of infatuation should prove to be quite enchanting in its own right", which means near enough the same, don't you think?

No, I do not. And I am not just saying this to be disagreeable, I am saying it because I honestly believe it to be true.

I meant exactly what I said. Don't try and interpret my words.


Just because I rephrase what you said rather than quoting every sentence of you post seperately doesn't mean I'm wrong...

You are wrong in the sense that you are mischaracterizing/misrepresenting/perverting what I said into something that you think is what I said.

Next time, quote me instead of "rephrasing" (when what happened can actually be more accurately described as "perverting") what I said.


Basically, the reason why you have to go through my whole post splitting hairs about whether that was exactly what you said is because you don't have a single substantial argument in favour of your original point:

1. Are you claiming that you know the reasons why I did the things I did?
2. As a matter of fact I went through your post hair splitting everything because I 1. have too much fucking time on my hands; and 2. am constantly bored and in need of mental stimulation.
3. Funny how your mind works.


that being infatuated with someone who's not gonna get with you is an enchanting (quote!) experience that should be treasured (and again!). I don't think anyone would agree with that, to be honest. Do you even agree with it??

As a matter of fact, I do not. For reasons below:
1. there is a difference between infatuation and longing for someone. Although the difference could arguably be called minute. It is however my belief that one can be infatuated with someone but NOT long for him/her at the same time. Though it's rare.
2. Just because I said something should be treasure it does not necessarily mean I think it's a positive thing. It could be a neutral thing and still be treasured, such as the case of being infatuated with someone. And I am not just saying this as to disagree with you, I honestly believe what I said. Infatuation by itself is a pretty neutral thing (it is in no way positive, however it's not really bad/negative either. It's just a thing).
3. I said infatuation should be treasure, not because it's a positive thing, but because by the time when someone/OP gets old, he/she will have some interesting memories to reflect upon. He/she will reminisce fondly of how when he/she was young there was this girl/boy that made them lose so many nights of sleep...etc. Of course I realize I probably should have made it a bit more clear. But still, just because I didn't say all things I could/probably should have, it doesn't give you the right to go ahead and misrepresent what I said.


Oh, it's not technically unrequited love we're talking about, is it? I don't think she technically spurned him in the technical sense of the word, so naturally my argument is useless. Dictionary.com? Fuck off. Love is a word that has scores of different meanings. Someone who spends as many hours on S&A as you should have worked that out by now lol. Many other cultures have had a multitude of words where we have only one (one of the few shortfallings of english). What I was referring to was the greek thelema. And unrequited means not reciprocated. And reciprocated means returned. Capiche?

1. You are right it is technically not unrequited love, and that she technically hasn't spurned him yet.
2. I do believe we shouldn't dispense with a dictionary, for we need it. "Love" is a word with many meanings yes, which is all the more reason to use a dictionary to make sure we are A. using the right definition; and B. talking about the same thing.
3. You are grasping at straws here. I don't care if you can cite all the literary resources in the world to prove to me that "unrequited love" means whatever the hell you want it to, it doesn't matter. YOU WERE WRONG in assuming it to be unrequited love, because she technically hadn't spurned him yet. This is a FACT.


As for "the girl is not spurning the op", I never said she was. I couldn't claim to know how this girl is acting towards the OP.how irrelevant is that?

It is relevant in the sense that it is "unrequited love" if and only if he's told her about his feelings and she spurned him.


I was just saying that your more general point was complete bullshit:

Then allow me to wallow in my own pile of cow dung, and you can bathe in yours, yes?

Learn to live with opinions different from yours without calling them bullshit, it might help you later on in life.


unrequited love (or unreciproacted thelema, sorry) can never be an enjoyable experience for anyone.

False. You cannot speak for anyone else. You can only speak for yourself.


Happy now? Did I refute all your little quibbles? Can you stop being pedantic and actually back up your original point? Thought not. Sheesh. It's like wading through quick sand.

There was no "point" in my post. I just wanted to share my view/opinion on the whole matter and you somehow took it as an affront against your dignity or something and you went all berserk and attacked my personally.

you got issues, dude.


As for the sloppy vag comment....lol :D what can I say? If that offended you then a) sorry:( and b) you should not be anywhere near totse.

Again with putting words in my mouth. Where did I say I was "offended"? Quote me. Can't? Well I don't blame you, it's because you are misrepresenting, er excuse me, I meant "rephrasing" me again.

I implied that your calling my vag sloppy did not endear you to me. That's all I did. Feel very free to interpret this however you wish though (seeing as how it's like a compulsion with you or something)

dark_rider_666
2009-01-08, 13:04
love/concern/fear, etc. i mean hell, i loose sleep over my Girlfriend. :(,

Girls, they leave us all with alot to think about.

arquin
2009-01-08, 13:20
Really, how the fuck do I get the upper hand again?

Choke the bitch.

papajoe
2009-01-08, 17:03
stop wanking so much.

Happloid
2009-01-09, 04:59
just pull some chauvinistic shit next time youre with her, just avoiding her isnt gonna do much.

along the lines of "bitch! what'd you just say?"
"bitch, get me some waffle fries and dvd and bring it over to my house!"

Agent 008
2009-01-10, 23:40
just pull some chauvinistic shit next time youre with her, just avoiding her isnt gonna do much.

along the lines of "bitch! what'd you just say?"
"bitch, get me some waffle fries and dvd and bring it over to my house!"

Get a few bottles of this:

http://www.fsukxaz.com/Images/Bierbitzch.jpg

And then tell your girl to grab you one from the fridge.

A lot classier.

doct0r_4rmo
2009-01-11, 02:43
Great news everyone, she didn't like me back, she was tooling me. I feel like absolute shit!

surprise buttsecks
2009-01-11, 02:53
Do what everyone else does and get really drunk, then move on.

Happloid
2009-01-11, 05:38
Get a few bottles of this:

http://www.fsukxaz.com/Images/Bierbitzch.jpg

And then tell your girl to grab you one from the fridge.

A lot classier.

haha. fucking win

Mr.Dave
2009-01-11, 06:09
Do what everyone else does and get really drunk, then move on.

This man knows whats up.

Agent 008
2009-01-11, 16:49
haha. fucking win

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=G1JCkRTNT9g&feature=related

Low Rider
2009-01-13, 05:56
he wouldnt lose sleep thinking about her if she was this into him. he likes her but that isnt the problem, she is. her lack of concrete and positive feedback is giving him doubt and causing him to over analyze things in order to come to some type of conclusion.

Im in the exact position the OP is. Pretty much everything you described is the same way with me and this one girl. Im yet to be pwned though, so well see how things play out this week. Only thing is I dont go to the same school, but we usualy text everyday or 2/chill at my house a bit. Im pretty choked just thinking about her being with someone else even though weve never hooked up. :( Liking girls kind of sucks..

NeonMonkeys
2009-01-13, 06:39
Im in the exact position the OP is. Pretty much everything you described is the same way with me and this one girl. Im yet to be pwned though, so well see how things play out this week. Only thing is I dont go to the same school, but we usualy text everyday or 2/chill at my house a bit. Im pretty choked just thinking about her being with someone else even though weve never hooked up. :( Liking girls kind of sucks..

You know what you should do?



MOLOTOV EVERYTHING!!!



I don't think you'd like her much if she was burnt to a crisp!

pleasure_to_burnv2
2009-01-13, 21:09
thats cause you're deluding yourself. All you were after was the pussy, and you fucked it up by making her think you were actually interested in what she had to say.

stripped
2009-01-13, 21:37
Ok. We've had a team working on this overnight, and we've come up with a response to every tiny section of WAN's post: (lol)



Whatever. You were wrong in the first place. You never said longing for someone is a positive feeling? Oh my bad. But you did say "this episode of infatuation should prove to be quite enchanting in its own right", which means near enough the same, don't you think? Just because I rephrase what you said rather than quoting every sentence of you post seperately doesn't mean I'm wrong...


Basically, the reason why you have to go through my whole post splitting hairs about whether that was exactly what you said is because you don't have a single substantial argument in favour of your original point: that being infatuated with someone who's not gonna get with you is an enchanting (quote!) experience that should be treasured (and again!). I don't think anyone would agree with that, to be honest. Do you even agree with it??

Oh, it's not technically unrequited love we're talking about, is it? I don't think she technically spurned him in the technical sense of the word, so naturally my argument is useless. Dictionary.com? Fuck off. Love is a word that has scores of different meanings. Someone who spends as many hours on S&A as you should have worked that out by now lol. Many other cultures have had a multitude of words where we have only one (one of the few shortfallings of english). What I was referring to was the greek thelema. And unrequited means not reciprocated. And reciprocated means returned. Capiche?

As for "the girl is not spurning the op", I never said she was. I couldn't claim to know how this girl is acting towards the OP. how irrelevant is that? I was just saying that your more general point was complete bullshit: unrequited love (or unreciproacted thelema, sorry) can never be an enjoyable experience for anyone. Happy now? Did I refute all your little quibbles? Can you stop being pedantic and actually back up your original point? Thought not. Sheesh. It's like wading through quick sand.

As for the sloppy vag comment....lol :D what can I say? If that offended you then a) sorry:( and b) you should not be anywhere near totse.

Carbon B!! Is that you?

Agent 008
2009-01-13, 21:53
Carbon B!! Is that you?

If it was CarbonB, everyone in this thread would've gotten a reply.