Inspired by the "Used Goods" thread.
I've realised that we don't actually seem to have a recent thread on the exact subject - at least, I haven't seen any.

So in here, please post the following:

1). The ideal number of previous partners you'd rather your significant others to have had.

2). Your attitude towards your partner being a virgin, compared to your partner having had lots and lots of previous partners. Ideally, let us know how many is "lots", where relevant (e.g. you'd rather your partner have had ~10 previous partners than 0, but you'd prefer your partner to have had 0 partners than for the number to be in the 100s)

3). State your sex and the sex of your partners, where it's not clear from your post.

For the sake of consistency, let's assume the age of the partner in question is 25.

A lot of you will probably say "I couldn't care less, what's in the past should be left in the past." - but you still must have *some* preference, even if it's just virgin/non-virgin - so please let us know.

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I'll start:

I'm a bloke. I'd prefer my girls to have had 0-2 partners; anything below ~10 I'm cool with. If it's something like 50, I would think a lot before pursuing a long-term serious relationship with the girl.

I prefer under ((age) - (age at first time)) . 2 (times 2)

Though me now ex since a week has it more times 3 or 4, but i was cool with that too, cause i know she has very difficult and conservative parents... (if this sounds strange your not yet past puberty)

Basicly, i'm cool with any number as long as people can explain why that number (cause i felt like it is no explanation)


I think your own amount of sexpartners and what you define as sex is important too agent 008. It explains perspective. Sex i assume you mean penetration. And in that case 5 (in case you don't mean that... i dunno)

1) zero
2) the last girl I loved had sex with about half a dozen other men, not all that much but a fair amount, and it tortured me. I remember asking her seductively "ever had sex in a pool? want to try? ;) " her: "yeah of course, and no I'm not in the mood." I was so turned off and felt real jealous in a pissed off way.
3) I'm a dude if you can't figure it out. Girls I think will prefer the opposite: a man who has had a lot of sex.

^^ so your insecure

And numbers say nothing bout experience
I know a girl who's had over 50 but never did it outside a bed
Then again, if you'd met my ex after we broke up, she had one, but you'd have a hard time to find a place we hadn't fucked, a position we hadn't tried and the kinky stuff...been there done that and didn't need the t-shirt (cause why buy a t-shirt if you have pictures ;) )

And besides that, 0 seems fun until you have to teach her EVERYTHING. You know how long it takes for a girl to learn to PROPERLY suck your dick. damnit.



And to your 3. I think girls prefer men with as much experience as possible with as few females as possible. You can sleep with one woman a 1000 times and learn something new every time and outexperience most men who slept with 20+

Jesus.... I think about this all the time. I'm going to go a little rouge here. When I started the relationship with my current girlfriend, I knew she was more experienced than I. That didn't bother me too much at the start of the relationship. As time went on more and more this is when I started to think more about it. She would (and still does) tell me that when we have sex, it's the best she's ever had. Even though I was far less experienced then her. I'm not a very confident guy, and would always call bullshit. That is when I really didn't know how many partners she has had.

The more time went on, the more I found out about her relationships, about how long they actually were...:(

I finally asked her not too long ago how many relationships she actually had. She had told me, now for some people that number isn't bad (it was like 9 I think). And I asked her how many of them had sex with her. This number turned out to be 7 (this isn't counting the fucking she's done while single). Now being the 'not so confident' guy I am, this kind of turned me off a bit. I really didn't want to have sex with her anymore for a while. Even though she said it's the best, I couldn't help but think about the previous partners and if she was actually lying.

To hear that she had so many sexual partners (many to me) was a huge turn off. It also enraged me and made me feel like shit because I couldn't get the thought of her having better sex with someone else, out of my head. I've never told her this, and I don't think I ever will because it's just embarrassing. To know of the partners she's had, and a guestamate of how much sex she's had with them (based on our own sexual activity) really, really fucks with my head. By the way... thanks... you got me all fucked up now... :(

1). The ideal number of previous partners you'd rather your significant others to have had.
Ideally, in the same range as me, not because I have any moral objections to having lots of partners or anything like that; it's just because I value sex and am not much interested in it outside of a meaningful relationship and I would hope that my partner would share a similar view.

2). Your attitude towards your partner being a virgin, compared to your partner having had lots and lots of previous partners.
If I had a partner who was a virgin I wouldn't mind one bit. Sure the sex would likely be crummy at first, but at least he won't have picked up any bad habits, and we could work on improving together. I don't think I would be overjoyed about being with someone who had had lots of partners (for someone close to my age, that would be ~5 to me, obviously more for someone older) because, I'll admit it, I'd be worried about being compared to his previous partners, and slightly self-conscious about not being as 'experienced.' However a higher number wouldn't worry me so much if it was in reasonably serious relationships with the odd fling here and there, whereas someone who had been with a bunch of one-night stands would probably not be my cup of tea.

3). State your sex and the sex of your partners, where it's not clear from your post.
Female, assuming that I will be dating men.

Ideal number of partners... None. Because I like my princess to be all mine, makes it more special.

How would I feel about her being a virgin? Yes please, I like her to be my special princess. Other assholes' cocks in her mouth/vagina/ass ruins the fun for me :(


Yeah flame away asshats, I'm old school!

1). The ideal number of previous partners you'd rather your significant others to have had. less than 5.

2). Your attitude towards your partner being a virgin, compared to your partner having had lots and lots of previous partners. Ideally, let us know how many is "lots", where relevant (e.g. You'd rather your partner have had ~10 previous partners than 0, but you'd prefer your partner to have had 0 partners than for the number to be in the 100s) i wouldn't mind if they were a virgin, but i'd be a lot less likely to have sex with them, even if they wanted to. But yea, i'd take the virgin over the ho.

3). State your sex and the sex of your partners, where it's not clear from your post. female, male.

12345

assuming that I will be dating men.

You have my attention.


And besides that, 0 seems fun until you have to teach her EVERYTHING. You know how long it takes for a girl to
learn to PROPERLY suck your dick. damnit.


No offense but I don't believe you are made for love.

1)
I remember asking her seductively "ever had sex in a pool? want to try? ;) " her: "yeah of course, and no I'm not
in the mood." I was so turned off and felt real jealous in a pissed off way.

I don't blame you. If I were a guy, I wouldn't want my girl to have been touched/jizzed in/generally defiled by
some guy. Maidens ftw, baby.

On topic:

1/2. I don't care whether he's a virgin or not or how many previous partners he's had. Although I would
prefer that he didn't have like a whole squadron of past sexual partners because (as someone pointed out earlier)
I would feel inadequate, or be worried that I might not measure up. Besides I wouldn't want to be with a man
who's overly popular with the ladies, I'd feel insecure/jealous.

3. Sex: proud possessor of XXX chromosomes (the last X is for extra estrogen, bab-ay!). Sexual orientation:
cockward, or cockbound, whichever makes me sound clever and/or cute.
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Offtopic:


Seeing as how apparently so many guys are into virgins, yet they also need sexual release, I have an idea.

Why don't we have some designated whores whose sole function is to provide sexual release for men, this should free up the rest of the girls to remain virgins. This is good because 1. guys get to have sex; 2. girls get to remain
virgins; 3. hypersexual nymphomaniacs get their doctor-recommended daily intake of semen.

Am I a genius yet?

It doesn't so much bother me. Depends how old they are and whatever, but less than ten or around ten is fine by me, but depending on the circumstances of those relationships I may be more or less inclined to pursue a relationship. It's not the deciding factor though, and far from it.

Ideally: As close to 0 as possible, although maybe 1 or 2 at least so that she has some experience.

Actually no, scratch that, ideally would be a virgin who somehow already knows all the tricks of the trade, or is at least a fast learner.

But realistically? Somewhere between 0 and 5. A bit higher is acceptable.

Then again, it really depends on the contexts of these encounters...

Anyway, I don't really ask about these things as I prefer to take the "out of sight, out of mind" approach.

Actually no, scratch that, ideally would be a virgin who somehow already knows all the tricks of the trade, or is at least a fast learner.

"Yes, I would like to have my cake and eat it too!"


Anyway, I don't really ask about these things as I prefer to take the "out of sight, out of mind" approach.

This is actually a very sensible approach.

^^ so your insecure

And numbers say nothing bout experience
I know a girl who's had over 50 but never did it outside a bed
Then again, if you'd met my ex after we broke up, she had one, but you'd have a hard time to find a place we hadn't fucked, a position we hadn't tried and the kinky stuff...been there done that and didn't need the t-shirt (cause why buy a t-shirt if you have pictures ;) )

And besides that, 0 seems fun until you have to teach her EVERYTHING. You know how long it takes for a girl to learn to PROPERLY suck your dick. damnit.



And to your 3. I think girls prefer men with as much experience as possible with as few females as possible. You can sleep with one woman a 1000 times and learn something new every time and outexperience most men who slept with 20+

I just hated the idea of someone else fucking the girl I loved, even if it was way before I met her. If that makes me insecure, than I guess I'm insecure in that aspect.

I just hated the idea of someone else fucking the girl I loved, even if it was way before I met her. If that makes me insecure, than I guess I'm insecure in that aspect.

Nothing wrong with that pal. It sucks feeling like that, but you can't really help it, can ya.

1).The Ideal for me would be within 2 partners of me just because I don't want someone who is really inexperianced or way more experianced than me or carry to much emotional baggage

2). Pretty much the same as 1 except if a virgin can still be as pleasurable enough to not feel like crap than I'm ok/

3). I'm male and my partners are Female

"Yes, I would like to have my cake and eat it too!"

It may be asking for a lot from a girl, but I'm a guy, and when I was still a virgin movies/porn did teach me a thing or two.

Obviously it's less likely that a girl would pick these things up, because I don't think many virgin girls watch porn, but I could be wrong.

i dont realy care about the number as long as its under 20


im a guy 19 and have had 13 or 14 in the past 3 or 4 years

Ideal numer has to be 0 but in the past Ive always wished I hadn't bothered asking.

1). The ideal number of previous partners you'd rather your significant others to have had.

0.

2). Your attitude towards your partner being a virgin, compared to your partner having had lots and lots of previous partners. Ideally, let us know how many is "lots", where relevant (e.g. you'd rather your partner have had ~10 previous partners than 0, but you'd prefer your partner to have had 0 partners than for the number to be in the 100s)

I'd prefer her being a virgin rather than having had past partners exactly for the same reason Expl0itz posted. You can't be sure if she's lying when she says that "It's the best I've had", how many times has she said it? Y'know?

I'd say that a lot would be 10+, specially at the age of 25. Most people start being sexually active at around.. 16. Which means that in around 9 years she has already went through 10 different guys...

3). State your sex and the sex of your partners, where it's not clear from your post.

Female.

No STD's, No problem.

Jesus.... I think about this all the time. I'm going to go a little rouge here. When I started the relationship with my current girlfriend, I knew she was more experienced than I. That didn't bother me too much at the start of the relationship. As time went on more and more this is when I started to think more about it. She would (and still does) tell me that when we have sex, it's the best she's ever had. Even though I was far less experienced then her. I'm not a very confident guy, and would always call bullshit. That is when I really didn't know how many partners she has had.

The more time went on, the more I found out about her relationships, about how long they actually were...:(

I finally asked her not too long ago how many relationships she actually had. She had told me, now for some people that number isn't bad (it was like 9 I think). And I asked her how many of them had sex with her. This number turned out to be 7 (this isn't counting the fucking she's done while single). Now being the 'not so confident' guy I am, this kind of turned me off a bit. I really didn't want to have sex with her anymore for a while. Even though she said it's the best, I couldn't help but think about the previous partners and if she was actually lying.

To hear that she had so many sexual partners (many to me) was a huge turn off. It also enraged me and made me feel like shit because I couldn't get the thought of her having better sex with someone else, out of my head. I've never told her this, and I don't think I ever will because it's just embarrassing. To know of the partners she's had, and a guestamate of how much sex she's had with them (based on our own sexual activity) really, really fucks with my head. By the way... thanks... you got me all fucked up now... :(

This really calls for a thread of it's own.

You just need to realise that the past is really not important. No matter what they say, people do change. It's only a problem because you make it a problem in your mind.

She's with you now; and she obviously likes you and wants to be with you. She says "that was the best sex she's ever had", because it's either true, or she wants to please you and doesn't want to lose you. Either way, the past experiences don't matter for her, and they shouldn't for you.

So stop worrying about that - it doesn't do you any good, it doesn't do her any good, and it doesn't do the relationship any good; and only try to make the experiences better compared to what you've had with her before; not what she may or may not have had before she met you which is irrelevant.

I can't believe how many people in this thread hope for a 25 year old virgin. You are some seriously insecure fucking people. Maybe you should try concentrating on being better in bed than worrying about your little dicks.

But to answer the actual question. I'm female. I don't care how many people my partner has slept with, as long as they're clean, don't ask don't tell. I prefer men.

She's with you now; and she obviously likes you and wants to be with you. She says "that was the best sex she's ever had", because it's either true, or she wants to please you and doesn't want to lose you.


Wow. Some good advice there Agent. I've taken a lot of it in and thought about it and you're reasoning is great. But, I do have one little problem with it. What I quoted.

In as long of a relationship that I've been in with her, It damn well should be the best. I can't belive it though, because it just doesn't seem honest when she says it. Now, I would rather her tell me that, it isn't quite the best she's ever had. I can deal with that. I couldn't have sex with her for a while, but I could deal with it. What I can't live with is that it might not be the best, and she's lying about it 'because she doesn't want to loose me'.

I was reading the thread about Sex on E. Now, she use to do that stuff, and seeing all the comments about how it will 'never get better that that' makes my case even stronger. I know for almost a fact that she's had sex on E, and I have to think about that too.

Now, to get even more into this, and some personal life. After a pretty long party full of alcohol, we get home and get to the drunk touchy feely kissing and such. As usual, one thing leads to another and we head off to go have sex (drunk buddy was passed out in my room) We take things upstairs, and because I was drunk, we just get to fucking. We go for a while, it's fucking great. I get off and we're just laying there. I ask her how it was, and she tells me it was amazing, the best, fucking fantastic, but she didn't get off. I asked her why, and all she had to tell me was "It's just hard to get me off when I'm drunk....". I guess you guys wouldn't get it, because you aren't me, but it was kind of like a "WTF...:( then why even have sex with me moment." Yet, I've gotten her off before when she'd been drinking. And when she does get off, it doesn't seem like she is at all. :(

I'm looking at all of this from a 'just fucking' point of view. No feelings, not attachments. Just straight up fucking. No love making. When we do 'just fuck' like in the story above, it seems she's always disappointed with it. And, it's hard to live with that.

I ask her how it was, and she tells me it was amazing, the best, fucking fantastic, but she didn't get off. I asked her why, and all she had to tell me was "It's just hard to get me off when I'm drunk....". I guess you guys wouldn't get it, because you aren't me, but it was kind of like a "WTF...:( then why even have sex with me moment." Yet, I've gotten her off before when she'd been drinking. And when she does get off, it doesn't seem like she is at all. :(


I think that you're over analyzing your sexual relationship to an extreme degree. She enjoys having sex with you, she likes to boost your ego. What more do you want?
I've come during sex or foreplay 3 times in my entire life. That doesn't mean the rest of the sex sucked. In fact there are a lot of instances that I enjoyed a lot more than just trying to orgasm.
Being insecure all the time is just going to affect your performance.

I live in rural Norfolk...they don't really have a word for 'virgin' in their dialect.

Ok, seriously it's something that really has never bothered me, I'm not American and I don't think I'll catch t3h Gay0rz from her cunny just because another boy's wee wee has been in there before mine.

And if you love someone then it shouldn't even figure in the equation.

Okay, I may be over analyzing things a bit. But, it's in my nature, and it's part of me to do that. I can't help it. I'm always going to think way beyond the grasp of reason. :(

Jack, you made me laugh. Thank you. I don't think in a way of 'catching teh g4yz0rz' because someone has had sex with her before me. But, because I do lover her I want it to be the best from ME. I don't want to just make par, or even be sub par, and have her lie about it. Could be the perfectionist in me. :(

Now, to get even more into this, and some personal life. After a pretty long party full of alcohol, we get home and get to the drunk touchy feely kissing and such. As usual, one thing leads to another and we head off to go have sex (drunk buddy was passed out in my room) We take things upstairs, and because I was drunk, we just get to fucking. We go for a while, it's fucking great. I get off and we're just laying there. I ask her how it was, and she tells me it was amazing, the best, fucking fantastic, but she didn't get off. I asked her why, and all she had to tell me was "It's just hard to get me off when I'm drunk....". I guess you guys wouldn't get it, because you aren't me, but it was kind of like a "WTF...:( then why even have sex with me moment." Yet, I've gotten her off before when she'd been drinking. And when she does get off, it doesn't seem like she is at all. :(

I'm looking at all of this from a 'just fucking' point of view. No feelings, not attachments. Just straight up fucking. No love making. When we do 'just fuck' like in the story above, it seems she's always disappointed with it. And, it's hard to live with that.

I'm not trying to be rude here, but you're being rather dense and making something out of nothing. I know that myself personally, and a lot of girls I know, simply have times when they can't get off. I don't know why, it might be some totally random little variable, maybe a stressful day, or like...the room being chilly, or maybe feeling fat and bloated and self-conscious...there are just times when you're never going to be able to have an orgasm. That doesn't make the sex any less awesome; it can still feel amazing, at sometimes it's even better because you know you're not going to come so you stop worrying about the finish line and just enjoy the sensations. And, to be fair, some girls really just can't get into 'just fucking,' and really do need to feel all romantic and connected and love-makey, and it really has no reflection on you or your abilities. You really shouldn't take it personally. In fact, you should take it as a compliment that she still wants to have sex even if she's not likely to get off.

You big baby ;)

some girls really just can't get into 'just fucking,' and really do need to feel all romantic and connected and love-makey, and it really has no reflection on you or your abilities.




Well, she's gotten off from it before.... and you damn girls and your 'it's because of this, or that, even this AND that.


You really shouldn't take it personally. In fact, you should take it as a compliment that she still wants to have sex even if she's not likely to get off.


That just makes it hurt even more...

My current girlfriend had been with 5 dudes before I had met her. When I had met her, I had only had sex with one other girl. After several months of dating and daily sex (go college!) she assured me that I was the best she ever had. I'm not denying that I'm good in bed or try really hard to be pleasing, but I need to agree with the other guys on this post who have gotten the "but you were the best" treatment. Girls are good liars, maybe the best. She has no reason other than principles (which seem to get put on the burner when another's feelings or a relationship is at stake) not to lie about it.

On the bright side, her having been with other guys before me allowed me to bend my morals and justify screwing other girls while she was home over the summer. And when she caught me during the school year naked with another chick, I said, "Still haven't fucked as many people as you." (hahaha) Suprisingly, though, that worked....along with talking to her after cheating about how insecure it made me that she had been with other dudes and how I was trying to even things out because it bothered me so much.

But if I had a choice to go back, I would go virgin.

this makes it even worse

Exploit, you're being a pussy. And don't take that as an insult because I was (am?) the same way. You just need to think less about it and chalk it up to drunk sex.

When girls say they like confident guys, this is exactly what they're talking about. If she sees that you're turned off because you're insecure then she will be turned off. This is kind of stupid to us guys because I'm actually turned on when a girl feels insecure because it shows vulnerability, but it's just the opposite for women.

Silverfuck, can you back me up on this?

I didn't learn that until it was too late. If she keeps getting turned off after the majority of the sex than she is going to want sex less, which in turn is going to make her get a vibrator, and then she eventually dumps you...

My current girlfriend had been with 5 dudes before I had met her. When I had met her, I had only had sex with one other girl. After several months of dating and daily sex (go college!) she assured me that I was the best she ever had. I'm not denying that I'm good in bed or try really hard to be pleasing, but I need to agree with the other guys on this post who have gotten the "but you were the best" treatment. Girls are good liars, maybe the best. She has no reason other than principles (which seem to get put on the burner when another's feelings or a relationship is at stake) not to lie about it.


Yeah I definitally got that treatment but I'm pretty sure it was a lie, for lack of better word.

I can't believe how many people in this thread hope for a 25 year old virgin. You are some seriously insecure fucking people. Maybe you should try concentrating on being better in bed than worrying about your little dicks.

But to answer the actual question. I'm female. I don't care how many people my partner has slept with, as long as they're clean, don't ask don't tell. I prefer men.

It's not really about "hope". As I said, for most people it shouldn't even matter in real life. My question is about the "ideal". Surely you have some sort of a hypothetical preference? Real life is different, and you judge people for who they are, as a whole, but in your own mind, given three exact persons, but one being a virgin, another having had 2-10 previous partners, and the third one having had 5000 previous partners, you must have some preference surely, even if it's very very weak?

That's what the question is about.

Exploit, you're being a pussy.


Being a puss for worrying about pleasing her?


When girls say they like confident guys, this is exactly what they're talking about. If she sees that you're turned off because you're insecure then she will be turned off

In a long relationship, being confident shouldn't have such an impact on her as it was when/before the relationship first started. Being confident or not, she should love me for who I am, my insecurities and complexes. Like I do for her.

Exploit, you're being a pussy. And don't take that as an insult because I was (am?) the same way. You just need to think less about it and chalk it up to drunk sex.

When girls say they like confident guys, this is exactly what they're talking about. If she sees that you're turned off because you're insecure then she will be turned off. This is kind of stupid to us guys because I'm actually turned on when a girl feels insecure because it shows vulnerability, but it's just the opposite for women.

Silverfuck, can you back me up on this?
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Well...you're partially right. I know that guys are people too, and It's not an issue if a guy is insecure about something once in a while; like you said, it shows vulnerability and is the most human thing you can experience. But when it comes to sex...it's a huge turn off. Sex is supposed to be fun; you're not supposed to be thinking, you're supposed to be enjoying each other, being spontaneous...not wondering why she's not getting off and how it reflects on you, and OMG what if her ex-boyfriend did it better and so on and so forth. You don't have to think you're a sex god or anything like that, but it's kind of imperative to good sex that you don't take it so seriously...that you just relax and focus on the moment.

^^Ok sweet, I got something right about the opposite sex :D.

Being a puss for worrying about pleasing her?


Exactly. Don't worry about pleasing her, just do it and if she doesn't get off that's her fault (unless it's everytime).


In a long relationship, being confident shouldn't have such an impact on her as it was when/before the relationship first started. Being confident or not, she should love me for who I am, my insecurities and complexes. Like I do for her.

No, that won't change. Don't be surprised at how quickly she'll leave you once she finds you no longer desirable.

Real life is different, and you judge people for who they are, as a whole, but in your own mind, given three exact persons, but one being a virgin, another having had 2-10 previous partners, and the third one having had 5000 previous partners, you must have some preference surely, even if it's very very weak?

That's what the question is about.

Actually you are absolutely right. I do have a preference that I overlooked. I would prefer not to sleep with a virgin. I don't have the patience to spend that much energy being a teacher.
As I can paraphrase someone in a different thread, having to teach someone how to give good oral is a pain in the fucking ass.

To be honest, I'm really not crazy about this thread. I don't like the idea that I'm considered 'used goods,' and less valuable as a partner than some other girls simply because I have had sex with one person who I am in love, not to mention a long-term monogamous relationship with.

To be honest, I'm really not crazy about this thread. I don't like the idea that I'm considered 'used goods,' and less valuable as a partner than some other girls simply because I have had sex with one person who I am in love, not to mention a long-term monogamous relationship with.

What has this thread got to do with it? I'm not advocating anything in here, just asking for opinions.

What has this thread got to do with it? I'm not advocating anything in here, just asking for opinions.

Sorry, I didn't mean the OP at all. You just posed the question, its the responses that make me feel bad.

One partner per year since they first became sexually active.

Shows they're not a slut, nor are they a freaky social retard.

To be honest, I'm really not crazy about this thread. I don't like the idea that I'm considered 'used goods,' and less valuable as a partner than some other girls simply because I have had sex with one person who I am in love, not to mention a long-term monogamous relationship with.

yeah, but look at the bright side...you're only mildly used goods; like a used car with only a couple thousand miles on it.

To be honest, I'm really not crazy about this thread. I don't like the idea that I'm considered 'used goods,' and less valuable as a partner than some other girls simply because I have had sex with one person who I am in love, not to mention a long-term monogamous relationship with.

You should worry about the fact that you care what other people think of you. Why should their fucked up moral "standards", especially the hypocritical misogynistic ones, have any meaning to you?

They consider you used goods? That's their problem not yours.

You should worry about the fact that you care what other people think of you. Why should their fucked up moral "standards", especially the hypocritical misogynistic ones, have any meaning to you?

They consider you used goods? That's their problem not yours.

^This.
I think I made a rant about that in some other thread not too long ago. Hypocrisy is human nature my dear.

You should worry about the fact that you care what other people think of you. Why should their fucked up moral "standards", especially the hypocritical misogynistic ones, have any meaning to you?

They consider you used goods? That's their problem not yours.

I was going to reply to her with "Call a wambulance", but I think this one is better.

Shit, I'm glad I'm not the only one that worries about this.

I've been with 2 people, both in committed relationships (I'm 19) My girlfriend has been with 10 people, about 3 were in committed relationships. The rest were drunken hookups. One guy actually pressured Oxys on her and physically locked her in his room and had his way with her...and I know everyone gives that "she's a lying bitch it was her fault" bullshit, but she's not the only victim of this guy.

Either way, most of the drunken hookups were guys I've known for ages. Good friends of mine. Now every time I see them this image gets stuck in my head of them fucking. It makes me nauseous and I just can't stop thinking about it.

And I know there's all those truisms like "she's with you now" and "leave the past in the past." But thinking about that doesn't really make me feel any better about it. I'm not ANGRY at her for it, and I don't think any less of her...I mean we all make mistakes...but it's something I really, really would rather not have found out about. And trust me, I didn't ask. To hear a good friend of yours claim "Oh yeah, I slept with her, and her, and her" and then lists off the girl you're in love with. It sucks.

Yeah, I'm insecure. I know. Only wish I knew how to fix it.

Right, so we're meant to be 25 here? Well in that case I'd realistically go for 3 or 4. I would prefer it to only be 2 really, but by 25 thats somewhat unlikely. If they were a virgin then it'd be alright, however, I would honestly prefer a little experience, and I'd wonder why the hell they were still a virgin at 25 (assuming they weren't mormons or something).
I'm female, and in this case I'm talking about pursuing a relationship with a male.

Note: I'm 16, and at this age i prefer my partner to have had 0-2 previous sexual relationships.

Just thought I'd add that last part because it certainly does change everything depending on the age. If we changed the age to 40 then I'd expect upwards of 10 assuming they hadn't settled down and gotten married

so in here, please post the following:

1). The ideal number of previous partners you'd rather your significant others to have had.

Over 9000!!!!