ripstick
2009-01-08, 07:34
This is a basic collection of all my knowledge I've gathered over the years. I'm not claiming to be experienced, or educated, or correct. These are just tidbits about sex I've picked up and decided to share with those of S&A. By all means disregard my opinions, because they are just that, opinions. But I figured what the fuck. This can't be any worse than the trolls threads tarnishing this forum.
On COMMUNICATION :
1) Talking - Communicate about sex. I'm talking about during, after, before. Many people complain that they don't get what they want from a partner. Have you asked? I see threads called "she won't blow me", "he sticks it where I don't want it", "why can't I make her come". Fuckin talk to them. If you have a problem discuss it with your partner, do not silently shoot in the dark trying to figure out the solution for yourself.
I have told my boyfriend what I like, don't like, what's ok, and what's spectacular. We have great sex. During sex he tells me what he likes so that I keep doing it and likewise. We discuss sex even days when we don't have sex. Things we'd like to try, things we find digusting or unappealing. We have become closer because of it.
With my other boyfriends I said nothing and stayed in a constant state of unsatisfied. DO NOT DO THIS. You should enjoy sex and how will your partner know how to please you if you don't tell them?
2) Moans and Groans - I'm a fairly vocal girl which can be good or bad. Some men are turned off by it others turned on. I've realised that no man likes you screaming like a porn star. It comes off fake and cheesy. But every man appreciates you screaming their name when you get off.
One thing that sucks, if you are used to your own apt where you can be as loud as you like, then moving to the parent's house. No one wants to hear your sex growls. Be respectful where you are.
Men seldom make noises. But a little here and there is appreciated. Nothing like "fuck yeah!" or "ride em cowboy" or whatever. But a good "mmm" goes a long way.
3) Dirty Talk - Not for everyone. Again can come off fake and cheesy. And there are different levels off dirty talk. It can be as mild as “I want you right now” or as extreme as “Fuck me in the ass my Master!”. If you are uncomfortable with a partner who talks like this tell them. Nothing can ruin the mood like someone whispering things in your ear you don’t want to hear.
On SIGHTS:
1) Lights on/ Lights off - Depends how comfortable each person is with their body. If they're aren't comfortable enough to have the lights on respect that. Just be thankful they want to be naked with you. On the other hand, if your partner wants to see you naked try not to be shy. They are with you for a reason. They find you attractive and sexy. You may have that little roll here and there, or your boobs aren’t as perky as they used to be. It doesn’t matter. They are attracted to you for a reason.
Even attractive girls can be shy of showing their body. I have days where sex in bright lights is fantastic and I love to watch/see every moment of it. Other days I feel the need to be covered by darkness. It depends.
2) Costumes - Not a necessity but still fun. Dressing up can make you a different person, which can be a relief in long relationships. Sometimes the cliched cop/nurse/school girl is not so hot. Try to be creative. Business women, underage virgin or even hooker can be way hotter. A man will be grateful if you try to spice things up this way.
Taking on a new personality can be fantastic. Be that person you always wanted to be. If you're shy but long to be a sex vixen, sometimes all it takes is the proper outfit. Clothes can bring out a lot in a person, even confidence.
3) Sexy - It's a state of mind. If you believe yourself to be sexy then you'll radiate that energy. A woman or man can be wearing sweat pants and a old t-shirt, hair messed up from sleep and still be the sexiest thing in the world.
On SMELLS:
1) Hygiene - No one, NO ONE likes body odour. Fuckin pick up a bar of soap.
Your girl has a smelly vagina? Help her. Don’t just tell her outright ‘hey girl, your snatch is funky” this will get you a slap. If you really do care about the girl shower with her. No girl will take offence to you lathering them up and washing them down. Be careful though. Soap is not for inside the vagina. This could cause all sorts of problems. Also if you don’t enjoy the smell of the girl, it could be pheromones. Sometimes people just have smells that will be unattractive to you but attractive to other people. It’s all chemistry and there’s nothing you can do about that. On a side note, if her vagina smells funky probably just stay away.
Guys, sorry but just please wear deodorant. It sucks to be changing positions and catch a whiff of day old sweat. Also ball sacks can be very smelly. Even if you can’t/don’t shower every day, just give it a wipe.
On KISSING:
1) First Kisses - It’s going to be awkward and it’s going to be sloppy. Just accept that. Go with how you feel not with what you’ve seen or how you think you supposed to do it. If it feels right for you then it will for the other person. Try not to French your first time. Saliva running down your chin is not enjoyable.
2) Pecks and Little Kisses - These can be the most enjoyable. Soft lips gently touching your own, or your body can be extremely arousing. You don’t need to be hard and aggressive. This can sometimes feel more passionate and loving then any other kisses. Best places to do this to a girl, neck, shoulders, inner thighs, lower abdomen. It’ll give her shivers.
3) On Passionate Kisses - Still no tongue. Just press harder and be more aggressive with your lips. Don’t crush her. Sometimes you can feel how much someone craves you from how they kiss you. It can drive you wild or scare you. Best on the lips.
4) French Kissing - Little tongue. I can’t stress this enough. No one wants you to clean their teeth or tickle their tonsils. I like it when the tips of the tongue touch. You don’t need to massage the inside of someone’s mouth. Just flick and twirl. Little drooling and little choking.
On FOREPLAY:
1) Warm Her Up - It hurts if you go in dry, for both partners. Please guys take the time to turn your woman on. There are several ways to do this which I’ll discuss as I continue.
2) Nipples - I’ve heard somewhere that the smaller the boobs the more sensitive the nipples. I’m unsure if this is fact. But my breasts are average and I have very sensitive nipples. Tweaking, flicking or rubbing them can turn me on. Sucking is also good. But I can imagine some women not liking this at all.
As for men’s nipples, a lot do not like them being touched. If they do, go easy.
3)Fingering/Handjobs - Lubricate for both. It’s more comfortable.
Men figure out where the clitoris is. It’s not too difficult. Most guys mistake where the woman urinates from for a clitoris. But really the clit is just above that. http://www.vacadsci.org/jsr/Fexter.jpg If she’s complaining that she’s too sensitive or twitching an obscene amount travel a little higher. There are several ways to stimulate the clit. Rub back and forth over it. You can spin little circles (I love this). Even up and down. Notice how your partner reacts, ask her what she likes best. Use her own juices, spit or lube to keep the friction down.
As for the G spot. Be aware it’s hard to reach and even harder to find. http://oddculture.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/12/g-spot-dia.jpg What works for me is two fingers rubbing up and down as if you were scratching the ears of a dog. I can’t speak for other women.
As for hand jobs, I’ve learned fuckin loads. There’s been a lot of men I could get off this way, until my recent boyfriend. I just can’t do it. I felt like a failure but that passed. My hand jobs have gone from horrible, straight up and down, dry, pulling to something of an art over the years. Since I can’t get him off this way I try to make it as pleasurable as possible. I tickle and gently run my fingers over his package. I try different techniques. Two handed, one hand following the other upward. To handed twisting in opposite directions. Playing with the head or the fraenulum. Placing my palm on the head and spinning circles. Try different pressures, rhythms, paces, materials, anything. If he likes his balls touched then gently tugging, or circling the seams. Every time I give a hand job is different because I experiment. And my boyfriend says its one of the best experiences he has.
4)Oral - To each his own. Some people are just not gong to be willing to do it.
There are several things that have been done to me that I like. The tip of the tongue is a wonderful instrument. Use it like you would a finger. Circle the clit, rub up and down. Poking it in and out of my vagina does nothing for me and I can hardly feel it. I don’t know about other women. You don‘t need a long tongue to be good at oral. You need endurance and enthusiasm.
Blowjobs are enjoyable for both. You have no idea how nice a smooth, hard cock feels in your mouth, sliding down your throat. I’ve also learned several techniques for this. Teasing is good, licking the sides and tip of the penis, small kisses, running your hair over his junk, only inserting the head into your mouth, but every man I met just wants you to get to the good stuff. Do not tease him for 30 min. He will get bored. Maybe spend 5. When it comes to the actually blowing/sucking remember one thing, relax. Your throat will seize up if you don’t. Take as much as your comfortable with into your mouth. If you try for more and gag he will feel it. And nothing is less sexy then feeling your lady friend choking on your dick. Once you learn to relax you can slowly take more and more in. Deep throating is not something you’ll right away. As for the general sucking, use your tongue to massage as you go. Sometimes I run little circle with it as my mouth moves up and down, sometimes I make lines. Other times I stop at the top to run it repeatedly over the fraenulum. The head has the most nerves. Some men like when you suck on it like you would the nipple of a bottle. Others are too sensitive to have so much attention there. Men tell us what you like. If we are willing to be down there then we are concerned about your pleasure.
Alright guys this was a lot of effort for me and getting longer then I thought it was going to be. I was going to continue to actual sex but I’m unsure of the responses I’ll get and if it’s just going to be “fuck you slut!” I’m going to wish I didn’t bother. So here’s my opinions. I realize I wrote it almost as a “How to get ripstick off” but like I mention many times, I don’t want to generalize for all women. This is my opinions, I wrote about my experiences, likes and dislikes. It’s meant to be informative.
I’m not really asking anything. Maybe to find out what other people experienced, what they’re learned, how I might be wrong. Feel free to correct me, inform me, inspire me, and add to this. If you guys do appreciate my efforts, then ask me to continue, and I’ll go on to what I’ve learned about sex. I can elaborate if you can't understand something too.
On COMMUNICATION :
1) Talking - Communicate about sex. I'm talking about during, after, before. Many people complain that they don't get what they want from a partner. Have you asked? I see threads called "she won't blow me", "he sticks it where I don't want it", "why can't I make her come". Fuckin talk to them. If you have a problem discuss it with your partner, do not silently shoot in the dark trying to figure out the solution for yourself.
I have told my boyfriend what I like, don't like, what's ok, and what's spectacular. We have great sex. During sex he tells me what he likes so that I keep doing it and likewise. We discuss sex even days when we don't have sex. Things we'd like to try, things we find digusting or unappealing. We have become closer because of it.
With my other boyfriends I said nothing and stayed in a constant state of unsatisfied. DO NOT DO THIS. You should enjoy sex and how will your partner know how to please you if you don't tell them?
2) Moans and Groans - I'm a fairly vocal girl which can be good or bad. Some men are turned off by it others turned on. I've realised that no man likes you screaming like a porn star. It comes off fake and cheesy. But every man appreciates you screaming their name when you get off.
One thing that sucks, if you are used to your own apt where you can be as loud as you like, then moving to the parent's house. No one wants to hear your sex growls. Be respectful where you are.
Men seldom make noises. But a little here and there is appreciated. Nothing like "fuck yeah!" or "ride em cowboy" or whatever. But a good "mmm" goes a long way.
3) Dirty Talk - Not for everyone. Again can come off fake and cheesy. And there are different levels off dirty talk. It can be as mild as “I want you right now” or as extreme as “Fuck me in the ass my Master!”. If you are uncomfortable with a partner who talks like this tell them. Nothing can ruin the mood like someone whispering things in your ear you don’t want to hear.
On SIGHTS:
1) Lights on/ Lights off - Depends how comfortable each person is with their body. If they're aren't comfortable enough to have the lights on respect that. Just be thankful they want to be naked with you. On the other hand, if your partner wants to see you naked try not to be shy. They are with you for a reason. They find you attractive and sexy. You may have that little roll here and there, or your boobs aren’t as perky as they used to be. It doesn’t matter. They are attracted to you for a reason.
Even attractive girls can be shy of showing their body. I have days where sex in bright lights is fantastic and I love to watch/see every moment of it. Other days I feel the need to be covered by darkness. It depends.
2) Costumes - Not a necessity but still fun. Dressing up can make you a different person, which can be a relief in long relationships. Sometimes the cliched cop/nurse/school girl is not so hot. Try to be creative. Business women, underage virgin or even hooker can be way hotter. A man will be grateful if you try to spice things up this way.
Taking on a new personality can be fantastic. Be that person you always wanted to be. If you're shy but long to be a sex vixen, sometimes all it takes is the proper outfit. Clothes can bring out a lot in a person, even confidence.
3) Sexy - It's a state of mind. If you believe yourself to be sexy then you'll radiate that energy. A woman or man can be wearing sweat pants and a old t-shirt, hair messed up from sleep and still be the sexiest thing in the world.
On SMELLS:
1) Hygiene - No one, NO ONE likes body odour. Fuckin pick up a bar of soap.
Your girl has a smelly vagina? Help her. Don’t just tell her outright ‘hey girl, your snatch is funky” this will get you a slap. If you really do care about the girl shower with her. No girl will take offence to you lathering them up and washing them down. Be careful though. Soap is not for inside the vagina. This could cause all sorts of problems. Also if you don’t enjoy the smell of the girl, it could be pheromones. Sometimes people just have smells that will be unattractive to you but attractive to other people. It’s all chemistry and there’s nothing you can do about that. On a side note, if her vagina smells funky probably just stay away.
Guys, sorry but just please wear deodorant. It sucks to be changing positions and catch a whiff of day old sweat. Also ball sacks can be very smelly. Even if you can’t/don’t shower every day, just give it a wipe.
On KISSING:
1) First Kisses - It’s going to be awkward and it’s going to be sloppy. Just accept that. Go with how you feel not with what you’ve seen or how you think you supposed to do it. If it feels right for you then it will for the other person. Try not to French your first time. Saliva running down your chin is not enjoyable.
2) Pecks and Little Kisses - These can be the most enjoyable. Soft lips gently touching your own, or your body can be extremely arousing. You don’t need to be hard and aggressive. This can sometimes feel more passionate and loving then any other kisses. Best places to do this to a girl, neck, shoulders, inner thighs, lower abdomen. It’ll give her shivers.
3) On Passionate Kisses - Still no tongue. Just press harder and be more aggressive with your lips. Don’t crush her. Sometimes you can feel how much someone craves you from how they kiss you. It can drive you wild or scare you. Best on the lips.
4) French Kissing - Little tongue. I can’t stress this enough. No one wants you to clean their teeth or tickle their tonsils. I like it when the tips of the tongue touch. You don’t need to massage the inside of someone’s mouth. Just flick and twirl. Little drooling and little choking.
On FOREPLAY:
1) Warm Her Up - It hurts if you go in dry, for both partners. Please guys take the time to turn your woman on. There are several ways to do this which I’ll discuss as I continue.
2) Nipples - I’ve heard somewhere that the smaller the boobs the more sensitive the nipples. I’m unsure if this is fact. But my breasts are average and I have very sensitive nipples. Tweaking, flicking or rubbing them can turn me on. Sucking is also good. But I can imagine some women not liking this at all.
As for men’s nipples, a lot do not like them being touched. If they do, go easy.
3)Fingering/Handjobs - Lubricate for both. It’s more comfortable.
Men figure out where the clitoris is. It’s not too difficult. Most guys mistake where the woman urinates from for a clitoris. But really the clit is just above that. http://www.vacadsci.org/jsr/Fexter.jpg If she’s complaining that she’s too sensitive or twitching an obscene amount travel a little higher. There are several ways to stimulate the clit. Rub back and forth over it. You can spin little circles (I love this). Even up and down. Notice how your partner reacts, ask her what she likes best. Use her own juices, spit or lube to keep the friction down.
As for the G spot. Be aware it’s hard to reach and even harder to find. http://oddculture.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/12/g-spot-dia.jpg What works for me is two fingers rubbing up and down as if you were scratching the ears of a dog. I can’t speak for other women.
As for hand jobs, I’ve learned fuckin loads. There’s been a lot of men I could get off this way, until my recent boyfriend. I just can’t do it. I felt like a failure but that passed. My hand jobs have gone from horrible, straight up and down, dry, pulling to something of an art over the years. Since I can’t get him off this way I try to make it as pleasurable as possible. I tickle and gently run my fingers over his package. I try different techniques. Two handed, one hand following the other upward. To handed twisting in opposite directions. Playing with the head or the fraenulum. Placing my palm on the head and spinning circles. Try different pressures, rhythms, paces, materials, anything. If he likes his balls touched then gently tugging, or circling the seams. Every time I give a hand job is different because I experiment. And my boyfriend says its one of the best experiences he has.
4)Oral - To each his own. Some people are just not gong to be willing to do it.
There are several things that have been done to me that I like. The tip of the tongue is a wonderful instrument. Use it like you would a finger. Circle the clit, rub up and down. Poking it in and out of my vagina does nothing for me and I can hardly feel it. I don’t know about other women. You don‘t need a long tongue to be good at oral. You need endurance and enthusiasm.
Blowjobs are enjoyable for both. You have no idea how nice a smooth, hard cock feels in your mouth, sliding down your throat. I’ve also learned several techniques for this. Teasing is good, licking the sides and tip of the penis, small kisses, running your hair over his junk, only inserting the head into your mouth, but every man I met just wants you to get to the good stuff. Do not tease him for 30 min. He will get bored. Maybe spend 5. When it comes to the actually blowing/sucking remember one thing, relax. Your throat will seize up if you don’t. Take as much as your comfortable with into your mouth. If you try for more and gag he will feel it. And nothing is less sexy then feeling your lady friend choking on your dick. Once you learn to relax you can slowly take more and more in. Deep throating is not something you’ll right away. As for the general sucking, use your tongue to massage as you go. Sometimes I run little circle with it as my mouth moves up and down, sometimes I make lines. Other times I stop at the top to run it repeatedly over the fraenulum. The head has the most nerves. Some men like when you suck on it like you would the nipple of a bottle. Others are too sensitive to have so much attention there. Men tell us what you like. If we are willing to be down there then we are concerned about your pleasure.
Alright guys this was a lot of effort for me and getting longer then I thought it was going to be. I was going to continue to actual sex but I’m unsure of the responses I’ll get and if it’s just going to be “fuck you slut!” I’m going to wish I didn’t bother. So here’s my opinions. I realize I wrote it almost as a “How to get ripstick off” but like I mention many times, I don’t want to generalize for all women. This is my opinions, I wrote about my experiences, likes and dislikes. It’s meant to be informative.
I’m not really asking anything. Maybe to find out what other people experienced, what they’re learned, how I might be wrong. Feel free to correct me, inform me, inspire me, and add to this. If you guys do appreciate my efforts, then ask me to continue, and I’ll go on to what I’ve learned about sex. I can elaborate if you can't understand something too.