I'm almost 21 and I've only kissed a girl once in my life, and that was more or less a joke. I think I'm fucked up in the head because all throughout my entire life neither one of my parents have said something even remotely sexual towards me.. And when I was really young, if my mom even had the slightest idea that I had jacked off she would get absolutely furious and make me feel like a lesser human. I've had soooo many opportunities to get with girls, girls have come right out and said that they wanted to get in my pants but I always make up some excuse, even though I really do want to. It's probably damn near impossible for me to make a move on a girl, and it is only getting worse. It's like a hole I've dug for myself. What the hell should I do to reclaim my lost sexuality?

well I think you need to sit down and have a long conversation with your dick. You obviously are uncomfortable with sex because of your mom, easy way to fix it would be have sex with a hooker

It kinda sounds like your just nervous....I can't really think of other ways to say it but, man up and quit being a pussy.

Yeah, stop being a pussy pretty much sums it up. I think it's mostly my fear of rejection. I've been rejected by one to many girls that I've liked in the past and after awhile I just said, "Not again, fuck it." I think I need to get over that before I grow up to be a bitter old alcoholic.

Find a girl you like a lot.. Take her to a party get her drunk, take her to an empty room and say ' I am now going to fuck the shit out of you' and proceed to bang the hell out of her.. oh yeah and then you cum all over her face.

Don't be afraid of rejection man. Accept the fact that some girls are going to reject you, but without trying you've already failed.

Yeah, stop being a pussy pretty much sums it up. I think it's mostly my fear of rejection. I've been rejected by one to many girls that I've liked in the past and after awhile I just said, "Not again, fuck it." I think I need to get over that before I grow up to be a bitter old alcoholic.

You can limit how much you like her until you're sure she likes you back. The only thing I can think to do. You need to have SOME way of dealing with that sort of thing, or you're not going to be able to manage whats going on in your head at all and end up with some serious problems. People can get messed up in big ways by those situations.

Just have to somehow be ok with what you do and don't have control over, never being in a situation where you have to make a gamble that means everything to you. You can't let life turn you into something you don't want to be.

Don't be afraid of rejection man. Accept the fact that some girls are going to reject you, but without trying you've already failed.

This is good advice, im going to take it more seriously myself.
To the person above, how do you limit how much you like someone?? Id like to know as im in a shitty situation..


Have you ever had this happen to you when you're drunk? Maybe a bit of alcohol could loosen you up so to speak. I find alcohol works wonders in speaking to girls I never would of been able to sober. (No I don't use it as a tool/crutch!).

Dude if you can get them to agree to it, you're more than halfway there. If its anxiety or you get freaked out and lose your boner or w/e viagra always helps. If you're all good in that department, go with alcohol. If you're still uncomfortable, drink some more. You'll be good soon enough. After you do it once, it won't seem like a big deal anymore and it will become progressively easier.

I'm almost 21 and I've only kissed a girl once in my life, and that was more or less a joke. I think I'm fucked up in the head because all throughout my entire life neither one of my parents have said something even remotely sexual towards me.. And when I was really young, if my mom even had the slightest idea that I had jacked off she would get absolutely furious and make me feel like a lesser human. I've had soooo many opportunities to get with girls, girls have come right out and said that they wanted to get in my pants but I always make up some excuse, even though I really do want to. It's probably damn near impossible for me to make a move on a girl, and it is only getting worse. It's like a hole I've dug for myself. What the hell should I do to reclaim my lost sexuality?

If you can recognize the problem, you should be able to correct it. Go outside of your comfort zone. Or continue to act like a bitch. It's the only two options.

Go grab the yellow pages, and look for a local brothel. Call one, and make an appointment. Go in, tell the girl that you're a virgin, and she'll take care of your problem. Spend the extra cash and go to a nice place.

Then you don't have to face rejection unless you don't have any money. She'll actually be pretty happy if you don't last long too. At least you'll get some good sex, and get past your first time jitters. Keep going back once a month until you are comfortable with sex. Then, you won't be all nervous, as a 21yo nervous virgin isn't exactly appealing to women. I'm sure the girls will teach you some things if you ask too, so maybe you'll be better at getting a girl off better than 90% of the men out there. If you can make women cum, you'll get a lot more sex.

Watch yes man. don't make excuses.

Don't be afraid of rejection man. Accept the fact that some girls are going to reject you, but without trying you've already failed.

there is no fear of rejection if girls have come up to him and said "hey! i want to get into your pants"

there is no fear of rejection if girls have come up to him and said "hey! i want to get into your pants"

Yeah okay man, you sit there and wait for that to happen.

Just practice on sluts before trying to get with a girl you actually like. Sex is nothing to be scared of, just go for it. Yeah, you might have some awkward first experiences, but whatever, that's life.