Now, I gotta whole portfolio of weak points which I feel I need to improve on. I've been ignoring them for a while now, and passing it off as things which can be overcome when I get older. But I just had a wake up call from my older brother, who's been hammering home bits of advice at me, and trying to raise my game and fulfill my so - called "potential" as he calls it. I feel like it goes in one ear then out the other, and it doesn't thoroughly sink into my memory; this leads onto something else which is on my mind.

For the last few years I've been in High School, my perception of thinking has changed dramatically. I used to feel confident, charismatic and always oozed a magnifying aura; at least that's how I felt it seemed. However, this all went downhill two years ago, like a sudden electricity cut. The juices halted, and I became nervous, erratic, extremely self-conscious and wood-like stiff around peers. I've accommodated to a state of infrequent paranoia; I sometimes have my good days, where I feel like my old self and can hold a genuine smile, but other days I feel like giving up and just beating myself up for not talking to particular chicks, or even when I had the guts, screwing up and not saying the right things that would slide me in with them.

Totse, I desperately need to get my life back on track or fix the errors I'm making at the moment. I'm a wreck, and feel like I'm just wasting my life and letting time go by being a self-pitying 15 year old virgin who can't kick start himself into action. I wanna go Gung-ho and get acquainted with a couple of chicks I have my eye on, but my inhibitions are still confining me in an emotional compound that I fail to escape from. shit it really sucks... :(

My bro's being real tough on me saying how I'm just gonna be a standard person with nothing to offer, if I don't make drastic changes and that I'm just gazing at other guys who are stealing my thunder all the time. Help me Totse...

Typical, you're 15.

Nothing to see here

Suicide or molotov everything.
These are your only possible answers!


Just tell yourself that you are still like your "old self" and you just have to believe in yourself!!!

Try relaxing and stop being so self-critical. Putting yourself under constant pressure to perform will not allow you to function effectively in social situations. Most importantly you should accept who you are, if other people dont. Fuck them.

When you walk imagine you have a soundtrack. i used to be like that but honestly it doesn't have to be that way. it hurts you more to think that way, so might as well project some air of self-confidence, even if it's false you can't do any worse than ya are now. then you'll perfect it, trust me. just.. baby steps.

You're 15, man the fuck up and start enjoying your teenage years, you only get them once.

Tweak yourself out on acid. That's what all kids your age are doing. Better yet, pump air into your bloodstream.

Improve yourself. Duh. You want to stop having flaws, then work on improving yourself. The first step is believing you can do it. If you don't think you can be better than you probably never will be.

Maybe you were more confident a few years ago because you were 10 years old and girls didnt matter..

^ WHS.

The reason you're getting nervous around girls is because this is when they start meaning something!

and wood-like stiff around peers. beating myself up for not talking to particular chicks,

seems to me the answer is simple. you're gay.get over it.

Now, I gotta whole portfolio of weak points which I feel I need to improve on. I've been ignoring them for a while now, and passing it off as things which can be overcome when I get older. But I just had a wake up call from my older brother, who's been hammering home bits of advice at me, and trying to raise my game and fulfill my so - called "potential" as he calls it. I feel like it goes in one ear then out the other, and it doesn't thoroughly sink into my memory; this leads onto something else which is on my mind.

For the last few years I've been in High School, my perception of thinking has changed dramatically. I used to feel confident, charismatic and always oozed a magnifying aura; at least that's how I felt it seemed. However, this all went downhill two years ago, like a sudden electricity cut. The juices halted, and I became nervous, erratic, extremely self-conscious and wood-like stiff around peers. I've accommodated to a state of infrequent paranoia; I sometimes have my good days, where I feel like my old self and can hold a genuine smile, but other days I feel like giving up and just beating myself up for not talking to particular chicks, or even when I had the guts, screwing up and not saying the right things that would slide me in with them.

Totse, I desperately need to get my life back on track or fix the errors I'm making at the moment. I'm a wreck, and feel like I'm just wasting my life and letting time go by being a self-pitying 15 year old virgin who can't kick start himself into action. I wanna go Gung-ho and get acquainted with a couple of chicks I have my eye on, but my inhibitions are still confining me in an emotional compound that I fail to escape from. shit it really sucks... :(

My bro's being real tough on me saying how I'm just gonna be a standard person with nothing to offer, if I don't make drastic changes and that I'm just gazing at other guys who are stealing my thunder all the time. Help me Totse...

Welcome to puberty.

Chill out, man. You just have to get over yourself. It's easier said than done, but you can still do it. It helps me to remember that nothing matters. Like, if you do or say something dumb, who cares? Also, it might help to stop thinking of yourself as 'flawed.' You are good enough the way you are, and if that bothers someone else, that's their problem, not yours.

But yeah, like people have been saying, this is typical teenager stuff. Don't worry, this too shall pass. :)

This is a very basic problem, however totse isnt the place to stalk for life advice.
Tell your bother your worth your salt and get out there an prove it.
I reccomend weight lifting, every time you pass a weight you couldnt the week or so before you feel amazing.
Just take your whiskey strait, grab a box of reds, and enjoy life.

Just take your whiskey strait, grab a box of reds, and enjoy life.

You also need a cowboy hat, if you want to be a man that is..

Carry a revolver aswell.

Hi, Hazzard.

Is there something particular that happened, that caused the change?

When you walk imagine you have a soundtrack.

rofl I'm going to do this from now on. Not that I think it would improve my game, but damn it would just be fun as hell.