TL; DR version at bottom.


Way back, maybe like 6th grade or so (possibly earlier but not really important) I knew this girl, we were kind of friends. Years later I meet her again in one of my classes in high school. We had a class together and had some similar interests outside of school. there was a while that we spent a good deal of time together, and during that time I developed a rather strong attraction to her. Of course, I never said anything because I was too much of a pussy, but that's all in the past. Junior year I switched schools and after that only saw her once or twice around town or whatever, never really did anything past a quick hello, as I had pretty much given up hope at that point.

Skip forward several years. I'm in college now, things are going well for me. A couple months ago I meet one of the most amazing girls ever. She has nearly all the same interests as I do, so we can do a lot together. We start dating, which goes great for a while, but I soon start to lose my sexual attraction to her. I am not sure what it is, since I still really enjoy being with here, but sometimes she just seems really immature to me.

Now, things start getting difficult for me when the first girl comes back into the picture. After eating lunch with my gf we are leaving the building, at which point I see the girl from high school. (who looks even more beautiful than I remember) I stop and talk to the other girl for a few minutes since I havnt seen her in forever than I leave and spend the next couple hours with my gf. However, I have been unable to think of anyone else other than the girl from my past. Recently I have been feeling like my relationship with my gf is starting to go down hill anyway, and I have no idea how much longer it will last, but I also dont want to make a dick move and lose a very close friend.

I am a fairly decent guy, and feel that it would be wrong to pursure the oen girl while still with my gf, so the question is: Do I go after the girl who I have been madly in love with for years without even the slightest clue as to whether or not I will have any success at all, or do I stay with my gf, who I know wants to be with me, and I have a lot of fun with?


TL; DR Version: I am madly in love with a girl from my past, who I just ran into in college after nto seeing her for several years. I have a gf but something feels missing in the relationship and I dont know how much longer it is going to last anyway. Do I stay with my GF and have fun till it ends, or risk it and see if i can get anywhere with the other girl.

If you feel like you and your current arent going to last much longer/you arent attracted to her much anyway why not break it off.
If you go for the other girl really soon that would be a dick move hurting the other girl possibly? Thats not good if you want to keep her as a friend. You could always hang out with the girl from your past and try to drop subtle hints to her to find out if shes interested then go from there..

Sounds pretty shitty to me.

Does the old girl like you the same way you like her?

You could just talk to her about it. Tell the old girl that you like her but you have a girlfriend. If she's not interested in you then stay with your GF and forget about the whole thing.

If she likes you, I'd spend a month or so getting to know her before ditching the GF. If you spend time together with you both knowing that you like each other, you'll get a fair idea of what your relationship will be like. Be sensitive to her at this point because it'll probably be frustrating for her.

I just read your post properly and realised you're still at school, which will make things harder, but just be discreet about it. I've played the role of the 'old girl' twice, one of those times the other guy was my best friend, and he had no idea what was going on (the girl dumped him, but being a pussy like I was in those days, I was terrified of the girl and she just walked away through frustration)

On the other hand, the old girl might dump you or turn into a complete bitch once you're single. It could be better to stick with the devil you know rather than risk losing both of them.

A third option (which is what I would do) is to just wait and see what happens, and don't try to force anything. Stay with your girlfriend - if you break up anyway, you've already got someone you like lined up. If your relationship gets better again, then you might have a long-term partnership with her.

A third option (which is what I would do) is to just wait and see what happens, and don't try to force anything. Stay with your girlfriend - if you break up anyway, you've already got someone you like lined up. If your relationship gets better again, then you might have a long-term partnership with her.

That's what I'd do, but you should know that it is sort of unfair to your girlfriend to be fantacising about some other girl while you're in a relationship with her. I mean, it's different to thinking "Damn, that bitch got some legs/ass/tits" you're saying "I'm madly in love with this girl."

Break up with your girlfriend. You're apathetic about her at best, and if you're seriously considering breaking it off with her to pursue this other girl, then you're really not invested in the relationship anyways. You're not doing anyone any favors by sticking around; she'll have a boyfriend who is hardly interested in her and who is constantly dreaming of some other chick, and you'll resent her for holding you back.

Even if things don't work with this girl from your past, it really sounds like you need to get out of your relationship.