Normally I wouldn't post in S&A, but I wouldn't know where else to put this.

Lately, I feel like my girlfriend of over 1 1/2 years has been taking me for granted. Today was my birthday, and I feel like I got completely shafted. I got next to nothing. She made me a small amount of snacks that she knows I like. Thats it. She didn't take me out to dinner or anything.

I on the other hand, take her out at least 3 times a month for dinner or lunch. I also try to do anything I can think of to show my affection for her. Is it so much to ask for one nice dinner out of the year where she takes me out instead? Or at least a half-thoughtful mindless generic gift. Hell, I wouldn't have cared if she asked me what the hell I wanted.

Anyone have any thoughts or advice on an issue such as this?

TL/DR - Had my birthday today, and girlfriend didn't get me a damn thing. :mad:

Probably because she's sick of dating a retard in a wheelchair with a five word vocabulary.

Umm...try being thankful that she got you anything. Scratch that, try being thankful that she took the time to make you something that she knew you liked, instead of being a dickhead and wondering why she didn't shell out and get you sometime more substantial. If you've been dating for so long you should know that partners are not gift dispensing machines, and gifts should not be used as a barometer of the quality of a relationship.

You ungrateful fuck.

Umm...try being thankful that she got you anything. Scratch that, try being thankful that she took the time to make you something that she knew you liked, instead of being a dickhead and wondering why she didn't shell out and get you sometime more substantial. If you've been dating for so long you should know that partners are not gift dispensing machines, and gifts should not be used as a barometer of the quality of a relationship.

You ungrateful fuck.

Pfft, whatever. She could've at least made him a romantic dinner. I don't give a shit if you don't have money to buy extravangent gifts, but if you take her to dinner a lot it's not really that much to ask. If it's something that she's clearly put time into, then I'd probably value it a lot more than something she bought.

However, I myself have a tendency to forget about people's birthdays until the last minute and this can result in some pretty terrible gifts. So who am I to talk?

Umm...try being thankful that she got you anything. Scratch that, try being thankful that she took the time to make you something that she knew you liked, instead of being a dickhead and wondering why she didn't shell out and get you sometime more substantial. If you've been dating for so long you should know that partners are not gift dispensing machines, and gifts should not be used as a barometer of the quality of a relationship.

You ungrateful fuck.

Someone has a little sand in their vagina.

You're right, gifts aren't a barometer for the quality of a relationship, but effort sure as hell is. And that can be shown in tons of ways, like making a nice dinner, taking him out to one, doing something really special (anal?), or buying presents if you're just kind of uncreative. And notice, he didn't say "She didn't buy me XXXXX", he said she basically didn't DO anything. And even you might be a bit miffed if your bf just kind of...did nothing for your bday.

OP, birthdays just aren't a big deal to some people, maybe that's it? It kinda sucks if that's the case, but as long as the intentions were good you shouldn't complain.

If my boyfriend knew what snacks were my favourite and made them for me I would appreciate that so much more than a dinner or a store-bought present. Anyone can make dinner reservations, anyone can stop at WalMart and get a clock radio or some shit, but not everyone will take the time to make something they think their partner will like. She probably thought she was being really sweet and romantic.

OP is a whiny bitch, and the best gift a girl can give her man is a special night in the sack. Do something or let the guy do something you wouldn't normally do in bed, like anal or bondage or w/e the guy is into.

If my boyfriend knew what snacks were my favourite and made them for me I would appreciate that so much more than a dinner or a store-bought present. Anyone can make dinner reservations, anyone can stop at WalMart and get a clock radio or some shit, but not everyone will take the time to make something they think their partner will like. She probably thought she was being really sweet and romantic.

Yeah, "made a few snacks" needs to be clarified before I can judge anymore... was it like, something really simple and lame? Like microwaving mozzarella sticks, or actual really cool homemade snacks?

Pfft, whatever. She could've at least made him a romantic dinner. I don't give a shit if you don't have money to buy extravangent gifts, but if you take her to dinner a lot it's not really that much to ask. If it's something that she's clearly put time into, then I'd probably value it a lot more than something she bought.


Making a romantic dinner would have been perfect. That would of made me very happy. I wasn't expecting any extravagent gifts.

The main thing that made me upset was the fact that she refused to tell me if she was taking me out to dinner, or anything. I turned down offers from both of my parents for dinner, as I thought I would be going out with my girl. Instead, I just went hungry.


Probably because she's sick of dating a retard in a wheelchair with a five word vocabulary.


At least I don't have the grammar and spelling of a three year old, like half of the posters here.

Probably because she's sick of dating a retard in a wheelchair with a five word vocabulary.

I lol'd.

Maybe she just cant cook?
Maybe she spent all her money on something more important, like cigarettes?
Just playing devils advocate, I'd be somewhat upset also.
Whatever you do, don't do the same thing for her birthday.
No matter what we say on here its not going to make her have given you a better gift, so just chill and get over it.

If my boyfriend knew what snacks were my favourite and made them for me I would appreciate that so much more than a dinner or a store-bought present. Anyone can make dinner reservations, anyone can stop at WalMart and get a clock radio or some shit, but not everyone will take the time to make something they think their partner will like. She probably thought she was being really sweet and romantic.


Overkill on the 'ungrateful fuck'.

I think this guy has reason to be a bit miffed. I mean, if he truly does spoil his girlfriend every once in a while, you'd expect her to maybe push the boat out for him, on his birthday of all days. Being made snacks can be sweet and romantic.. but its hardly taking the time to make something your partner really likes, thatcomes hand in hand with a healthy relationship.

OP I wouldn't read too much into it, Silverfucks probaby right in saying she meant it to be subtle but sweet.. Girls are strange fuckers. I dont doubt that if you make her her favourite sandwich for her birthday she'd give you blue balls for weeks after.

Meh, snacks aren't that bad of a gift.

Snacks AND a deep throat blowjob on the other hand....

Normally I wouldn't post in S&A, but I wouldn't know where else to put this.

Lately, I feel like my girlfriend of over 1 1/2 years has been taking me for granted. Today was my birthday, and I feel like I got completely shafted. I got next to nothing. She made me a small amount of snacks that she knows I like. Thats it. She didn't take me out to dinner or anything.

I on the other hand, take her out at least 3 times a month for dinner or lunch. I also try to do anything I can think of to show my affection for her. Is it so much to ask for one nice dinner out of the year where she takes me out instead? Or at least a half-thoughtful mindless generic gift. Hell, I wouldn't have cared if she asked me what the hell I wanted.

Anyone have any thoughts or advice on an issue such as this?

TL/DR - Had my birthday today, and girlfriend didn't get me a damn thing. :mad:

well..


ITS A RECESSION.

How about, on her birthday, you buy some chips and dip, see what fucking happens.

On my birthday, my ex fucking got me a fucking bracelet and she cleaned my fucking car. My car is disguuusting. I was napping in her room and she fucking cleaned that filthy piece of shit, in and out.

You feed that bitch chips and dip, I'm telling you man!